my username is goddessrachel.
because i believe we are all gods and goddesses.
after all aren't we made in god's image?.
WHERE MY LADIES AT? I know John Doe cannot be the only lady on this board! LOL.
Boyzone is a goddess, because she is struggling to make sense out of her life after having left the JWs and because in spite of her sadness she presses on with hope in her heart for the better tomorrow she knows must be there (and it is!).
i had a bit of a chin-wag with a freind of mine the other day.
we were talking about the questions that "nobody knows" and as witnesses, you can never get an answer for.
she came up with one i never thought about before so i thought i would share it here.. .
mindmelda, that is just funny. I did not know you were allowed to write your own vows at a JW wedding. I thought you had to say all that stuff about how the wife respects the husband and the husband does not have to say that and whatever the crap else...? And what about the part where it is a threefold cord - if you do not say that then does it count as a JW wedding?
i typed a flyer on this subject the other day but not sure how to get it to the relevant people.
i could post it to elders but i know it'll be thrown as soon as opened.
i could pin it to the kh door but the hall servant will be the first to see it and throw it before anyone else gets there.
Would you care to share what you wrote in the flyer? It could be really useful for us to use too! If you are willing to share.
Rachel
P.S. Congrats on losing weight!
i hate everything.
i am so angry at my mother, at my father, my sister, my brother.
nobody understands me.
boyzone, you are not alone. Please do not give up. I know the pain firsthand of having your own parents turn on you. Of having family friends turn on you.
You sound like you are fairly newly out. Are you disfellowshipped? What is your story? I will search your posts and see if I can find it also.
A huge thing that helped me was when I moved very far away from where I grew up. I do not run into JWs I grew up with anymore. I do not have to face shunning by them - not face to face anyway.
My mom has been the worst, though time has caused her to give in a little here and there. As long as I do not push her too much, she is glad to have a relationship of me. No, it is not what I want, it is not a normal mother-daughter relationship. But what I have gained is the respect of my dad, who is a JW but very logical, and a relationship with him that I never before had. When I call he always sounds happy to hear from me. Mind you, it took three years to get to this place. And a lot of acceptance of what I do not have as long as my parents are part of this religion.
Trust me, if you ride out the storm and take good of your heart, and your heart is dear and deserves nothing but loving kindness from you, then you can get past these feelings and not just survive but THRIVE! I PROMISE!
Rachel
i hate everything.
i am so angry at my mother, at my father, my sister, my brother.
nobody understands me.
Boyzone, I am so glad this thread is helping you! Most important is to know you are absolutely not alone in your strugge!
I took up daily walking almost a year ago (probably about 10 months ago, actually). I also took up yoga, which focuses a lot on the here and now, and breathing and just observing, while also strengthening and toning your body! (In your bare feet and without a bra if you want! It is fabulous!)
I highly recommend daily activity. You do not have to be a marathon runner. You do not have to be a super exerciser. I aim for an hour of activity each day which is a combination of yoga and walking. A few days a week I end up doing more like an hour and a half, just because it is cyclical: the more you do it the more you love it the more you benefit the more you do it - and so on. I am telling you: my daily walks (with my doggie) and my yoga are one of my favorite times of my day! I never thought I would feel that way, but I do! (The fact that I have also lost inches and can wear my cute skinny clothes again is sure motivating too, but more than that I genuinely enjoy the movement; it is the best anti-depressant ever!)
Above all else, nobody taught me how important our breath is. Yoga breathing is about long deep breaths in and out through the nose, in equal to out. The fastest way to center myself and remind myself of all that is beautiful in life is to go out on the back deck, and take some deep "yoga" breaths.
I highly highly highly highly recommend this to everyone. Try it. Try it before you knock it. I am telling you it is wondrous.
BZ, you can do this! We can all be happy and fulfilled!
How long have you been out? I am 3 years out and finally finding my footing in life. It has been a struggle, many times a constant one. Take heart, time does heal, there IS life after the JWs and it is better than anything you have ever known!
The Here and Now is all we have, everybody. The Here is now is all we have.
x,
Rachel
P.S. journey-on, thank you for your lovely post. Poppers is so wise. I hope to meet Poppers in person some day. His responses are always spot on.
my computer is with the geek squad currently to rid it of this winpc anti-virus.
the guy who is repairing my computer is ian and he's a member of the geek squad.
he has two other computers he is trying to rid of the same virus.
What are all the ways you can get it?
My computer got it and it completely shut us down. Not good for business at all!
my username is goddessrachel.
because i believe we are all gods and goddesses.
after all aren't we made in god's image?.
lol @ restrangled!
Restrangled is a goddess WOO HOO!
BabyGirl is a goddess WOO HOO!
i hate everything.
i am so angry at my mother, at my father, my sister, my brother.
nobody understands me.
I PROMISE I am not bringing this thread back because of me. I AM GREAT, I AM FINE!
I just re-read the whole thread, and the advice, the words, the wonderful things that people wrote, I just think we all can benefit greatly from the responses on this thread.
If you read just one lovely response from one poster (besides me, I was the angry one!) you will be glad you did, I think. Off the top of my head, read Hortensia, read JoannaDandy, Poppers, Sparkplug, but really read them all! You will be so glad you did!
PEACE,
Rachel
please no sarcastic crap from mean members.. i had a family member kill herself over being raised by a c.o.
who told her that it ruined their life and that she was a mistake.. i have a 10 page report from a psychiatrist back, who was also a jw, in the eighties that is pretty incredible.. now, i was also born jw with a 100 year "truth" heritage to cause me the same guilt.. and it may be drivng me the same way.
i feel the same way my aunt felt.
5thGeneration, please check in with us!
I just dug up this old thread of mine: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/162046/1/I-am-So-Angry
YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS!!!
Rachel
my username is goddessrachel.
because i believe we are all gods and goddesses.
after all aren't we made in god's image?.
Ah, I should have known, JD. I said "god" (lowercase) not "God."
Perhaps you need to tone your inner god down a notch? Perhaps not, you are a scintillating story-teller anyway.
