i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Apparent contradiction
A few days ago I set up a humourous thread asking woman to marry me. Mary said yes. Hence I was joking about Mary when I said I was recently married and loved her to bits. The link is here http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/168824/1.ashx
I promise you this thread and my dilemma are very real.
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Abbagail
I am a he and my one night stand is a she whi is fully aware of my circumstances. I could have lied and said I was single, but chose not to.
Maybe I am deluded but I think it could be enormous fun for the two of us, or maybe may 7yr itch has made my reasoning go awry.
Cheers
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Flyinghighnow
It might be baggage for you. After 7yrs it is likely to be different for me. Who knows? I'll die one day and then who cares?
It may have been a while but I would use protection. Lots of it.
Your comment below seems a tad harsh
Do you like the idea of being an opportunist? Think you'll feel good about it later? Go to Amsterdam and purchase time with a red light girl if you must stick it to someone you don't care about
2 consenting adults getting it on is very different from a brothel.
Nevertheless I appreciate the debate
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
This thread is no longer working for me. I was hoping it would legitimise my future actions. Now al I can think about is the feelings of my potential one night stand.
if she consents does that make it all ok?
a confused mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Lola28
You have me laughing.
Well, now that really wouldn’t be a problem I already work from 9:00 am to 7:00 pm, I actually think I’d die of boredom being at home all day every day *shudders*, and I’d simply be marrying you because I assume you have a lovely accent correct? What can I say; I’m a sucker for men with accents. I earn my living from my voice.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Really tho, just wait for a bit longer, while you are still legally and morally attached to someone it is best to be the “bigger” person and not do something that you would someday regret.
I do not feel I am morally attached. Some posters have told me 7 days is too long to wait.
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
My new friend Lola
Thanks for the marriage offer. Sadly I intend to catch up on lots of other thins before getting smitten again!
Ooooooooooh well, will you marry me? I mean could I get to stay home and do nothing all day?
In marriage 2 I would slap you everyday at 6am to get you to work. Sorry hun.
Is there any medical issue that might explain your wives behavior? How long has she been like this and why did you allow it to happen for so long?
No medical issues. When my wife finda something to take her fancy she can be active for 15hrs a day for weeks on end. She has been like this for yrs. Because I am an idiot.
And while I'm at it, someone mentioned that the other woman might be hurt and they are right, some women can seperate sex from well, love, make sure this person knows exactly what to expect so that there are no misunderstandings.
I suppose it is a hello I would like relations but no committment. I think my chances are dimishing by the second. Wish I had posted after the event now.
Mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
JWS
After reading every post yours has truly got me thinking twice
I think you might as well go ahead with it now. You've been announcing it in several posts here. Do you think this stuff is so secret? These posts are going to be around for a while.
I have committed no crime in expression my ideas. And could not care less if I was found out.
Many rebound affairs aren't very healthy things. Sometimes you wind up using the other person who might be starting to get feelings for you and sympathy for your situation. This comment really hurt me. I would hate to think of myself just using another woman. My one/two/three night stand now feels so dirty. Whilst she is a consenting adult, there is a minute chance she wants a little more, unlikely but possible ( I am super attractive you see). She might get hurt.
That scares me.
I do know you might be feeling like "Ha! You wouldn't give it to me, I went out and got it for myself". And if the divorce gets heated, you may get into an argument and throw out the affair to try to make her mad.
Not a chance of that. I am far too measured for that. 7rs practice.
I really don't know your situation. Maybe legally you don't have anything to lose. I don't know if you ever answered whether you had children or not.
7yrs of abstinence = no kids.
If she does find out, it gives her the satisfaction of knowing her divorce is legal in JW terms and allows her to remarry. Why give her that?
She will not find out. I promise.
And then you can let her suffer. I'm sure there'll be some guy on her mind some day. But if she doesn't have evidence you've cheated, she won't be able to get too involved. If it's feasible, move to a different town and disappear. Best would be to not even let her know you remarry if you ever do.
Vengeance. I had not even thought of that. Sounds so sweet. This thread and post has been really helpful
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Mary
You are the other woman!
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Oompa
How did this 7 year period develop?
In short I am a complete idiot who did not care enough about myself to demand more. I reasoned that the first 2 yrs of marriage are tuff. Went into self denial and lots of period of anger and depression. Because my family is crap I had nobody to turn to. How do you go to another witness and tell them this prblem, Maybe i was too proud. Maybe I am a complete pig who deserves this crap. After all one poster said what goes aroound comes around.
I think armageddon may begin when I break my 7 yr itch!
mtsgrad
i am extremely close to having an affair.
let me give you some details.. been married for 8 years.
not had any relations for 7. faded 3 years ago.. in middle of getting divorced.
Lovely Lola28
My apologies for not answering. This the volume and quality of fantastic posts has taken my breath away.
Your comments at face value have merit. If my situation was just about physical relations it would be tuff. However, there is much more to it. In another post in the adult section a poster really helped me when they said "it has nothing to do with sex, she has rejected you". My wife is so unhelpful she will not even pick up the post (my wife refuses to work). Last week my next door neighbours post was in my home for about a week. My wife wakes up late everyday, watches TV eats and does her Theocratic stuff. Other posters have suggested a chat with the elders but they have no place in my life. Divorce is the only way for me to move on with my life. I did give her the Theocratic life she wanted. When courting she helped me so much with my responsibilities. Immediately after marriage she moaned when I had a privilege. I am by no means a great husband but can only put up with so much.
Look at things from her perpective? I have and I want out. 7 yrs of no relations and you feel I owe her? I have to disagree.
Cheers Lola
mtsgrad
I know it might sound silly, the whole honorable part but I don’t think it is. When you marry someone you make a promise to stick by them thru everything, right? Yeah you got a raw deal but I think your wife probably thinks she got screwed too. Can you put yourself in her position for just one second? She thought she had married someone who shared her religious beliefs, who would be the head of her house and support her “spiritual” pursuits and suddenly this person, her life partner, his whole goals change and she can’t deal with it. I would be devastated if I found myself in her position, you my dear didn’t marry a cafeteria catholic, you married someone whose life is shaped, controlled and manipulated by a religion and you knew what would happen when you decided to fade, how did you expect her to react?
Your wife has been leading the life she expected to live, you are the one that changed and radically so. I would advise you to not do something which you might later regret, at least when you are divorced you don’t owe anything to anyone, but while you are married that’s a different story.
