Hi Still Looking...and welcome!
One of the problems ex-JW's have when they leave the Borg is that they have been indoctrinated into a mindset of absolutes. The biggest issue with that mindset and seeking the "true" religion is that we live in an imperfect world populated by imperfect people. No earthly organization/religion is absolutely true or perfect...so if that is your quest, you will never find what you seek.
The more important issue for you to consider is that if you choose to worship as a Christian, you need to seperate doctrine from salvation. The more important issues are those core salvation issues revolving around belief in Jesus as the redeemer of mankind and a close personal relationship with him. I cannot go the route of atheism, but I also had issues with many of the aspects you mentioned of Christianity. I can understand how many ex-JW's have rejected religion and belief in God. It sounds like that is not your personal belief, so I encourage you to not get distracted with dogma. Find a good church in your area and give it a try...you won't burst into flames if you step inside the doors :)
I would also recommend the following paper by Tom Cabeen...it really helped me "think" things through.
http://brci.org/resources/articles/Body%20Of%20Christ.pdf#zoom=70
I wish you the best in your search...
TYA