Posts by caliber

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Sometimes sorry isn't enough...

by cedars in

i thought you might like to see a rare example of the society saying the actual word "sorry" in the literature.. in 1992 someone wrote in to the awake!

and their comment was published in the july 8th edition in the "from our readers" section, page 30.. their comment read as follows.... "your suggestion that sex education be considered a 'family secret' could accidentally result in great difficulty for some of your readers.

social workers, teachers, nurses, and other professionals are now trained to watch for signs of child abuse.

caliber

Many attempts to make an apology resemble the following:

"I apologize for whatever I might have done.”

If you were hurt because of something I did, I am sorry.”

“I don’t know why you are so upset. If I did something, I am sorry.”

“Sorry if I did something to offend you"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2e4NlnLr28

"Sorry seems to be the hardest word"

What do you have to do ?

1) offender acknowledges the offense;
2) offender explains what he/she did;
3) offender expresses feelings of remorse, humility, or shame;
4) offender offers to make reparations for his/her actions

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How Can I Kindly Kick Weak And Unproductive Publishers Out Of My Kingdom Hall?

by AuntConnie in

unproductive kingdom proclaimers won't leave my kingdom hall, how do i rid our hall of these vultures or turkeys?.

"you can't fly like the eagles if you hang out with turkeys".

after visiting your site, i decided to allow one of the spiritual weak individuals into my car group, it was not easy but you have made valid points i find very self condemning.

caliber

I honestly don't know what to make of this.

This is cognitive dissonance at work .. it seems an impossible situation even for OP

Leon Festinger in 1954 to describe “the feeling of psychological discomfort produced by the combined presence of two thoughts that do not follow from one another. Festinger proposed that the greater the discomfort, the greater the desire to reduce the dissonance of the two cognitive elements” (Harmon-Jones & Mills, 1999)

Flipper, you are able peel back the onion and see each layer of a Witness life for what it is. Name callers or hecklers are no different from any brainwashed or inexperienced human. Lacking the insights into the dynamics of the Organization, since they never experienced pride or arrogance on this scale, it's easy to close your eyes and plug your ears and yell "Lah Lah lah lah lah!" Only two choices are really valid, I can walk away from the Organization and have dignity and rebuild my conscience and loose all my friends and family. My second option comes with more benefits, pretend to love Jehovah and my brothers and bask in all the honor and praise, privileges, "demos, parts on the Circuit and District Assembly", "Invitations to International Conventions". I am honest enough to admit, I am only a cog in the Watchtower's wheel, I never claimed to be a lowly follower of Christ

"example can be seen in many people’s continuing to smoke two or three packs of cigarettes a day, even though research shows they are shortening their own lives. They answer this cognitive dissonance with thoughts like, “Well, I’ve tried to quit and it’s just too hard,” or “It’s not as bad as they say and besides, I really enjoy smoking.” Daily smokers justify their behaviors through rationalizations or denial, just as most people do when faced with cognitive dissonance. Things are not right but at least you have the satisfaction of some momentary pleasure and relief"

(quote but lost the source)

You fight everything and everyone because of the greater inner battle being fought right in your own mind !

You can either suffer in silence or lash out for some momentary relief... of your life's contradictions

Socrates extolled that “An unexamined life is not worth living.” ..a sense of hopelessness sets in & self flagellation

Outward heckling is numbed because of the inward raging battle of anger and lack inward peace and control..

you may even welcome punishment as deserved

self-flagellation - self-punishment inflicted by whipping

self-punishment - punishment inflicted on yourself beating with a whip or strap or rope as a form of punishment

self-flag·el·la·tion (s lf fl j -l sh n). n. 1. The act of severely criticizing oneself. 2. The act of punishing oneself.

Not all cries for understanding can "make sense"

I can only ask myself .......should I seek to silence the loudest cries for help ?

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My Husband Said "Victims Of Pedophiles Come Forward Soon, Not Fifteen Or Thirty Years Later!" Right?

by AuntConnie in

my husband had gotten into a fight with a couple of victims of different pedophiles, he said in all his years of elderhood, "men and women who were sexually assualted came forward when they were old enough, they did not wait for decades to report they were abused.

you must have some kind of false memory or you are just trying to bring shame to the congregations.

" what is the truth of this?.

caliber

Dissociative Disorders is the Result Of Trauma....((((((( (((((((((((((((((AC)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

This defense mechanism does not erase these thoughts, but rather separates them

I think compassion is in order

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

caliber

Try some music... play songs and music that your mother loved... music will be soothing to you both

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdmH6qkTcd0

Never Think Hard about PAST,
It brings Tears...
Don't Think more about FUTURE,
It brings Fears...
Live this Moment with a Smile,
It brings Cheers!!!!

Light scented candles .........appeal to all senses

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

caliber

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Roberta804)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

just this now and let me gather some thoughts

Personal boundaries are your right... even more so to be guarded since in the past they have disrespected you

The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us. A first step is starting to know that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves. That we have not only the right, but the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us

wounded souls and broken hearts and scrambled minds these clutter things

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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?

by caliber in

jw
friends

here are some sample expressions i found on-line.

my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.

my spouse refuses to grow up.

caliber

I know of a story of on ex-wife who was driving pass her ex's house , a dog they shared ownship at one point was sitting outside in the yard ; His eyes and whole body got excited as he ran and followed behind the car. she drove for a block or so , he was still following... what was she to do ? She stop the car
went over to the dog after petting him , she tried to yell in a stern voice .... go home !!!!!!.. go home !!!!
He just sat there stunned and confused
She got in the car and sped off leaving the dog in the dust... with tears and crying , so much so she
she could barely see to drive but through a sheet crystal tears

What a dumb dog anyway........ right ?

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The Oh-my-God Particle

by EntirelyPossible in

i thought this was really interesting and wanted to share.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/oh-my-god_particle.

the oh-my-god particle was an ultra-high-energy cosmic ray (most likely a proton) detected on the evening of 15 october 1991 over dugway proving ground, utah.

its observation was a shock to astrophysicists, who estimated its energy to be approximately 31020 ev (50 j)[1]in other words, a subatomic particle with kinetic energy equal to that of a 5-ounce (142 g) baseball traveling at about 100 kilometers per hour (60 mph).. the particle was traveling very close to the speed of light - assuming the particle was a proton, its speed was only about 1.5 femtometers (quadrillionths of a meter) per second less than the speed of light, translating to a speed of approximately 0.9999999999999999999999951c.

caliber

or maybe this ....

Physicists hope that the LHC will help answer some of the fundamental open questions in physics, concerning the basic laws governing the interactions and forces among the elementary objects, the deep structure of space and time, and in particular the interrelation between quantum mechanics and general relativity, where current theories and knowledge are unclear or break down altogether

Proving how God could live outside of time and space ? just joking hahahahahahaha

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The Oh-my-God Particle

by EntirelyPossible in

i thought this was really interesting and wanted to share.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/oh-my-god_particle.

the oh-my-god particle was an ultra-high-energy cosmic ray (most likely a proton) detected on the evening of 15 october 1991 over dugway proving ground, utah.

its observation was a shock to astrophysicists, who estimated its energy to be approximately 31020 ev (50 j)[1]in other words, a subatomic particle with kinetic energy equal to that of a 5-ounce (142 g) baseball traveling at about 100 kilometers per hour (60 mph).. the particle was traveling very close to the speed of light - assuming the particle was a proton, its speed was only about 1.5 femtometers (quadrillionths of a meter) per second less than the speed of light, translating to a speed of approximately 0.9999999999999999999999951c.

caliber

Large Hadron Collider... will this give a greater energy source for mankind or what ?

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The Oh-my-God Particle

by EntirelyPossible in

i thought this was really interesting and wanted to share.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/oh-my-god_particle.

the oh-my-god particle was an ultra-high-energy cosmic ray (most likely a proton) detected on the evening of 15 october 1991 over dugway proving ground, utah.

its observation was a shock to astrophysicists, who estimated its energy to be approximately 31020 ev (50 j)[1]in other words, a subatomic particle with kinetic energy equal to that of a 5-ounce (142 g) baseball traveling at about 100 kilometers per hour (60 mph).. the particle was traveling very close to the speed of light - assuming the particle was a proton, its speed was only about 1.5 femtometers (quadrillionths of a meter) per second less than the speed of light, translating to a speed of approximately 0.9999999999999999999999951c.

caliber

So what can we deduct from all this E.P ? my mind is swirling I feel confused

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Jan. 1 WT, Their confession for given incorrect dates for the end.

by jam in

have jehovah,s witnesses given incorrect dates for the end?.

jw,s have had wrong expectations about when the end would.

like jesus' first-century disciples, we have "sometimes" (lol).

caliber

Just remember......THEY NEVER CLAIMED TO BE A FALSE PROPHET

We're sorry it’s public… so let’s downplay what happened

“We're sorry… that our reputation was hurt by this”