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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

I know this won't help everyones opinion of me, but a good friend of mine is an escalation engineer for Microsoft. I called him earlier this evening. He's the only one i knew who might be able to help. He said that he's encountered this type of situation several times before and offered to do some digging for me. I gladly accepted.

The post i made in Aug. was very real and i appreciate all those who responded to it. It helped me get through a very difficult time in my life, and i still go back and read them when i start to feel a little down. I had only wanted to be able to help others in my situation so that they could feel better too.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

I have a solution to your woes. Dump the JW guys - they're nothing but trouble anyway. Come to Toronto for our mini apostofest this Saturday. That will demonstrate you're actually 2 different people, and we can provide all the hot action you can handle.

Thanks finally-free, If i could get up to Toronto i would take you up on that. It still wouldn't prove that we're 2 different people though.... About an hour ago, out of the blue, i received a very strange e-mail from my ex. It was a reply to an e-mail that i had sent to him more than 4 months ago and it's the first contact that i've had from him since that time.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

if that would happen it would just prove to me what it is i'm suspecting. I think my computer has been hacked.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

Honestly guys, i know NOTHING about "worldly girl". as i stated in my last post, i'm the only one who uses this computer. When i submitted my first post back in Aug. it was because i was hurting so bad and really needed some advice. Everyone who replied to me was so helpful and it made me feel so much better. I've been coming back hoping that i would be able to give some help to someone else who is in or has been in my situation

I have notice the similarities in the stories, but in all the posts i've read on jw/non jw relationships it seems that the stories are a lot alike in some ways, so i didn't think much about it.

If anyone is interested to see who i am go to www.myspace.com/littlefirefly. I'm the redhead, and my ex bf is actually in a few of the pics (i haven't taken the time to update my page and remove them).

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

I had not noticed the ip addresses being the same, but i'm on my home computer and i don't share it with anyone else. I'm the only one here besides my five year old nephew. I don't know too much about this, but can an ip address be hacked? I've actually received a few e-mails over the past week or so responding to e-mails that i never even sent.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

sixofnine, you're entitled to your opinion but i don't know what i've said to cause you to want to label me as a "troll". I"m a good and decent woman who unfortunately was taken for a horrible emotional ride by someone that i thought loved me. Heck, i had not even wanted a relationship, but he pursued me until i gave him a chance. My only mistake was that i ended up falling for him.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

Hi sixofnine. in reply to your last statement,

I had honestly thought that i was going to spend the rest of my life with my ex bf. I've always believed that a husband and wife should have a shared belief. I was born and raised as a Baptist, but had loved him so much that i thought that changing my religious affiliation would be no big deal. I had no idea just how different the beliefs actually were until i started researching.

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

Her knowing the terminology may not mean much. Heck i know it myself. I can't begin to tell you how much time i put into researching this religion to try to be able to keep my ex boyfriend. At one time i actually even considered joining just so i wouldn't lose him. Thank GOD that never happened!!!

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

actually Gopher, from what i've read, he went from his wife to a live in girlfriend, back to his wife, then ANOTHER girlfriend, then back to the wife and now to worldly girl, and he claims he's loved her the whole time. I'm seeing BIG red flags all over the place here!!

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my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by worldly girl81 in

for the past 5 months i have been in a wonderful relationship.

he and i had started out as friends a few years ago, but realized that we were attracted to each other while he was going through his divorce earlier this year.

he and his now ex wife are both jws .

firefly

hi there. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I myself have been in the same situation. I've never been a jw, but was in a year long relationship with a df'd witness. He told me how very much in love with me he was and wanted to be able to marry me. He too is a 2ng gen. jw and has a young child with his ex wife. To make a very long story short, after a lot of flip flopping between his love for me and his loyalty to the jws, the jws ended up winning and my heart was shattered.

My advice is to please get out of this relationship. You're fooling yourself on a couple of different levels. first of all he started seeing you a month into his divorce which sounds like he's rebounding to me, and secondly if he's wanting reinstatement then he will most likely let you go anyway. Do yourself and your daughter a favor and cut your losses with this guy. you will be much better off.

Good luck to you