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How to get out?

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okay, i'm not really sure where to start here, and i apologize in advance if this is all over the place.. i basically have come here for your help and advice.

my husband and i got married may of this year, so it has only been 2 months!

he was raised a jw (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth").

Okay, here is the new update as of last night. The Elder that I previously mentioned sent him a text message last night for about the 5th time in the last week saying "Hi how are you?" and he actualy replied this time and said "I'm good how are you?" Then elder replied, "I'm good see you tomorrow night" (the book study) and then hubby said "yep". Ugh I don't know what to do, I was trying so hard last night to not say anything. So if tonight he says we are going, what do I say? Do I confront him about why we are now going all of a sudden after 2 months? He has no idea that I even feel this way about JW's he thinks I still believe it like I used to. I just don't know...

Okay, here is the new u

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How to get out?

by HelpMe1 in

okay, i'm not really sure where to start here, and i apologize in advance if this is all over the place.. i basically have come here for your help and advice.

my husband and i got married may of this year, so it has only been 2 months!

he was raised a jw (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth").

HelpMe1

In reply to who asked if he had many "worldly" friends, no he does not. Since we have not been going to the meetings, the only JW we are in contact with is his mom. And the elder who keeps calling, but he does not return his calls. All of our friends are "worldly"

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How to get out?

by HelpMe1 in

okay, i'm not really sure where to start here, and i apologize in advance if this is all over the place.. i basically have come here for your help and advice.

my husband and i got married may of this year, so it has only been 2 months!

he was raised a jw (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth").

HelpMe1

He actually has never been baptized.

34

How to get out?

by HelpMe1 in

okay, i'm not really sure where to start here, and i apologize in advance if this is all over the place.. i basically have come here for your help and advice.

my husband and i got married may of this year, so it has only been 2 months!

he was raised a jw (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth").

HelpMe1

Okay, I'm not really sure where to start here, and I apologize in advance if this is all over the place.

I basically have come here for your help and advice. My husband and I got married May of this year, so it has only been 2 months! He was raised a JW (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth"). I started attending meetings with about a year after we started dating, he never forced any of it on me, I got into it simply just by curiousity. I have now been attending for about 2 years, but ever since I started, something seemed wrong. It just never clicked for me, as much as I tried I could never really grasp the teachings, because deep down in my gut I knew it was wrong. So he and I would attend meetings reguarly, me sometimes feeling like I belonged there, and other times not at all. Ever since we met though, I always felt like the religion was so forced upon him by his mom, and I realised it somewhat was when whenever she didn't attend a meeting neither would we, he would just lie to her and tell her we went. Back to now... Since we have been married we have attended two meetings, in 2 months. And everytime his mom calls angry asking why we weren't there, he just makes up an excuse. So this past week it has just been killing me, I have not said one word to him about why we aren't going and he doesn't say a word either, and I of course love the fact that we are not going. A huge part of me feels like this is him realizing that he has the freedom to choose what he wants to do, and he is starting to drift away from jw's or at least thats what I hope. I want to ask him, I want to know why it is that we are not going, but I'm so afraid as soon as I do, it will make him feel like he needs to go back. I want to show him this website and I want to help him see the real truth but i dont know how. I know this makes no sense but I'm just looking for anyones opinion on what to do? I am just afraid of hurting our relationship, please help!