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I am so sorry for your loss. May you find strength from those around you.
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my dad died
by termite 35 indear everyone, my dad died suddenly and unexpectedly at the weekend.he did'nt turn up for a family dinner and my husband and i went to see if he was ok.he was dead.collapsed in his home.i can't stop shaking and i feel really sick.i've lost my mum and now my dad too.i wish i could sleep for months and wake when the pain has finished with me.
it hurts so much .sorry to bring everyone down-but i'm stressed at having to sort out his arrangements due to the autopsy and funeral etc and the house and my feelings.
; i just wanted to tell you all as my husband's gone for a walk and the children are asleep and i'm feeling scared about viewing his body, but i know i'll have to and i feel guilty for feeling like that.stupid thoughts racing through my mind at the moment-need to 'hear' a friendly voice .
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I think my husband DA'd over the phone
by FreeFallin ini don't know where to begin with this.. we had a meeting scheduled for monday nite (tomorrow), the inactive call.
we decided to cancel the meeting and i've been working on a letter to the elder who was supposed to come over.
i wanted to tell him how we felt and that we just wanted to back away gracefully.. so when my husband called him to cancel, he told him that he couldn't be the witness the congregation expected, etc.
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mattnoel,
You sound like you are indecisive as to what you want, you are scared to take the step of leaving completely but on the other hand you are fed up with it all.
You summed up what I've been trying to say, exactly. It's just that I've read so many people's posts where they say they won't let the org. have any authority over them. And that by DAing you're playing their game, according to their rules. On the other hand, if we continue to dodge the bullet, will we maybe be disfellowshipped later on any pretext? Like a few candles in the window at Christmas time? Yes, I want it all behind me, the only problem is, my hubby is not sure just what is wrong with the Borg. Just that he doesn't want to go to meetings. He won't read and educate himself. I'm afraid he is going thru so much guilt, just don't know how to help him.
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I think my husband DA'd over the phone
by FreeFallin ini don't know where to begin with this.. we had a meeting scheduled for monday nite (tomorrow), the inactive call.
we decided to cancel the meeting and i've been working on a letter to the elder who was supposed to come over.
i wanted to tell him how we felt and that we just wanted to back away gracefully.. so when my husband called him to cancel, he told him that he couldn't be the witness the congregation expected, etc.
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Gizmo,
No there is no one in the congrgation that I really care about. it would just be nice to see people and act normal, say hi, and walk by. I don't want to convince anyone it's not the truth. I don't see us as a threat to the cong.
Thanks for answering.
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I think my husband DA'd over the phone
by FreeFallin ini don't know where to begin with this.. we had a meeting scheduled for monday nite (tomorrow), the inactive call.
we decided to cancel the meeting and i've been working on a letter to the elder who was supposed to come over.
i wanted to tell him how we felt and that we just wanted to back away gracefully.. so when my husband called him to cancel, he told him that he couldn't be the witness the congregation expected, etc.
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I don't know where to begin with this.
We had a meeting scheduled for Monday nite (tomorrow), the inactive call. We decided to cancel the meeting and I've been working on a letter to the elder who was supposed to come over. I wanted to tell him how we felt and that we just wanted to back away gracefully.
So when my husband called him to cancel, he told him that he couldn't be the witness the congregation expected, etc. And that he would send him a LETTER. My husband was referring to the letter I was writing, not a DA letter. So now, I'm not sure what to do. I've changed my letter to reflect the fact that we may DA....
Here's the last portion of the letter:
The following statement comes directly from the Societys official website.
Do you shun former members?
Those who simply leave the faith are not shunned. If, however, someone unrepentantly practices serious sins, such as drunkenness, stealing, or adultery, he will be disfellowshipped and such an individual is avoided by former fellow-worshipers. Every effort is made to help wrongdoers. But if they are unrepentant, the congregation needs to be protected from their influence.
So xxxx, I think you now know where we stand. We simply wish to leave the faith. We have not attended a meeting at the Kingdom hall for seven or so years and have not turned in field service time for at least ten years. We wanted to walk away from this gracefully, but that seems impossible. Apparently the Organization sees fit to print one thing on their website and do quite another away from the eyes of the world.
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So should we back down, and try to just avoid any meetings and not DA? My fear is that they will find something to disfellowship us for, out of spite. Do any of you know how they will respond to us not following the rules? I kinda think this elder wants a DA letter from us.
I hope I've explained this well enough. Thank you all for your time.
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Officially Disassociated Tonight
by Princess insteve and i attended our very last meeting this evening.
i wrote a thread a few weeks ago about our elder visit and their decision to announce that we were disassociated.
they agreed to wait until we returned from our vacation so i could tell my grandma who still attends via phone link and so she wouldn't have to be alone in her devastation.
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Congratulations to the princess and prince of apostates!!
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I am a Former Addict
by Robdar ini quit smoking 3 days ago.
it was not as difficult as i thought it was going to be.
i have tried to break the habit before but always gave up, thinking that i was hopelessly addicted.
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FreeFallin
Good for you!!! I wish you much success in quitting.
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To All (My Dad died 12/21)Now Mom had a stroke
by Nancy K ini haven't been 'on' as my dad died 12/21 suddenly, before that i was about to do the 'lawsuit thing' to see my granddaughter, then 2 days ago my mother was rushed to the hospital and has had a mild stroke...i am totally out of it...but i do have 'good news'.. i'm going to see my granddaughter!!!!!
turns out, thru all of what's happened lately, i found out that my jw sister lied to my daughter 2 years ago, and she wasn't shunning me, she was upset about the fact my sister lied to her (causing this!
) it always 'comes back' as they say..karma, reaping what you sow, etc., ...thanks to all of you kind people..i can't wait to get back on and read the posts...you're doing a great service, to all like and unlike me!
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((((((((((((((Nancy))))))))))))
So sorry about the loss of your Dad and your Mom's health problems. May she recover quickly to see her great grand-daughter.
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FunkyDerek,
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!
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Last Post - My Most Painful Public Confession
by Amazing inmy most painful confession
note to simon: i will use some expletives, but i hope that they will be retained as this is intended to be an otherwise civil and thoughtful post to all my fellow ex-jws.
please read on, as this is most painful.
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((((((((Amazing/Jim)))))))))))
Your insight, wisdom and compassion will be sorely missed. You have helped so many, but now it's time to take care of yourself. Please get well soon.
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JWs in Movies/TV
by Tyler_Durden injust watched an episode of 80s sitcom 'married with children', al & peggy get mixed up with a gay couple, fairly funny stuff!
anyhoo.... there's a neat scene were al, answering his front door, says to himself 'i hope it's a jw cuz i feel like a nice deep chat' (or something like that) & he picks up a baseball bat as he opens the door!!
like i said, fairly funny stuff, but it got me thinking: what other tv shows/movies feature scenes with (or ref to) jws???
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FreeFallin
Another X-files episode, some nut job has a tatoo that talks to him. Two people ring the doorbell, a middle-aged white lady and a little black kid. They identify them selves...I can't remember exactly what happened next. But anyway, his talking tatttoo, a girl, said to him. "See what a loser you are, even Jehovah's Witnesses won't talk to you!"
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