I met Tracy and her family at the KH when my family and I moved to Florida in 1996. When I looked at her, I had this overwhelming and intuitive feeling that I knew her. But I had not ever met her (at least in this life, if that is the way it is). She was born and grew up in Florida, me in Utah and Colorado.
A couple of years later, I needed an Administrative Assistant in my brokerage office, and interviewed her. She was extremely sharp and intelligent, so I hired her.
Unbeknown to both of us, we were each married to alcoholics and were in dysfunctional relationships headed for disaster.
As we worked together each day, we both discovered how much we had in common. We got along incredibly well, and became extremely good friends--but purely platonic. In fact, she was seriously considering leaving her husband and moving in with her sister Dana (Safe4Kids) who lived a couple of hours away. As an elder, I talked her into staying with her husband, and frankly, I didn't want to lose her at work. Of course, I wanted things to work out for her and her husband (I was still in the JW mindset). That was in the summer of 1998.
By the end of 1998, both of us were separated from our spouses, both because of alcoholism, and both quite coincidentally. Neither one of us had any intention of getting married again.
We had had many JW discussions about things and beliefs that bothered us. As both of our marriages and also our belief in the WTS as the "Truth" failed, we became interested in pursuing our friendship, and eventually wanted to make a life together. In August of 1999, we were both DF'd and she and her 2 boys moved in with my son and me. We were married on December 21, 1999.
In looking back on things, we both believe that somehow, we spent our whole lives "looking for each other." I know it sounds strange, but we feel like we were meant to find each other on some deeper level. We are soul mates if there ever was such a thing.
Now I know why Tracy looked so familiar when I first met her. I guess in some way, on some level, I "knew her."
Life is very good now; better than it ever has been for us. People don't usually believe us when we tell them about our relationship. Tracy and I NEVER argue. We have NEVER had an argument. We do agree to disagree however.
Neither one of us tries to control or change the other. We both love the other for who we are. We were the best of friends first, before we fell in love. I believe these are the ingredients to a successful relationship.
Tracy is a magnet: Everyone loves her and wants to be around her. She makes people feel so good about themselves just for being around her. She truly has the gift of goodness. She is sharp as a tack, and kindly and sweet. She is always positive and cheerful.
Hell, no wonder I want to be around her! I feel better about myself and am a much better person with her than without her. I love you Trace.
FreePeace
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