I loved cloth diapers (kissaluvs) and the diaper wraps (bummies) that we ended up using. We installed a sprayer onto the toilet and just sprayed the diapers off. Check E-bay, sometimes you can get lucky if price is an issue. My daughter always got a rash with disposables - even regular baby wipes make her bottom break out. I didn't find it to be too much more of a hassle than disposables. You can always do both. Do cloth at home and then use disposables when out or traveling. And, just my two cents, breastfeeding is one of the greatest things you can do for your new baby! But if you are going to use formula, Nestle has a new formula out that includes probiotics similar to the gastrointestinal flora found in the intestines of breastfed babies.
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Cloth Diapers
by reneeisorym inso .. my husband and i are going to start trying for kids next year.
we had a long discussion last night about disposable diapers vs. cloth diapers.
i know this decision can wait but i just like talking about my expectations early rather than end up with conflict later on.. i want to use cloth diapers and he thinks disposables are the way to go.
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I couldn't skip a discussion of Sept KM Question Box
by OnTheWayOut inwith comparing what other experts have to say, just as the witnesses did?".
"well, what have you found wrong with the nwt?".
' without comparing and .
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I'm sure you do (practice patience and understanding) - it took 6 yrs for my husband and he's been DF'd since 1989!
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I couldn't skip a discussion of Sept KM Question Box
by OnTheWayOut inwith comparing what other experts have to say, just as the witnesses did?".
"well, what have you found wrong with the nwt?".
' without comparing and .
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Open Mind and bigmouth are right on with their suggestions. It may seem manipulative (but all's fair when dealing with the WT), but any approach that draws her toward you emotionally will be more successful. Especially if she feel like you are making yourself vulnerable to her.
Having said that, the thing that began to open my husband's eyes was the "J" source information in the 1969 KIT. That and actually looking back and forth from the Greek to the English. He was astounded that the earliest J source was from 1385 and the latest from the 1930's. He asked why there were more J source citations supporting "Jehovah" than there were citations supporting "Lord" and I asked him which of the close to 5000 manuscripts did he want proof from? He came to his own conclusion that that was intellectually dishonest. Some of those J sources actually support the trinity, but that information is obviously not disclosed. I have actually done more damage using purely WT literature than I ever could have otherwise because of his instant suspicion of other types of literature.
I wish you the best - love bomb her while gently leading her - practice infinite patience and understanding - it will help to make her more malleable to your information, and hopefully someday she will see...
KIT, 1969 - "Sincere searchers for eternal, life-giving truth desire an accurate understanding of the faith-inspiring Greek Scriptures, an understanding that will not be confused by sectarian, denominational religious teachings but that is fortified by the knowledge of what the original language says and means." - Oh the irony!! -
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The Land of Oz in shock too!
by ozziepost inhere in oz the graphic pictures via cnn have brought us up to the minute with the horrific scenes you guys in the us are experiencing.
some of us know folk there and we feel the pain too.. we stand with you in this time.. god bless.. .
cheers,.
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Not to mention, they can't even get their health care paid for... Sick 9/11 Workers Sue WTC Insurance Fund - http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/07/17/health/main3066446.shtml
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A debate on childrens haircuts
by tinker inwithout giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.
our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.
your input would be greatly appriciated.
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NoLoveLost
Seems like an awfully trivial thing for the family to get up in arms about. I hope it is not affecting the boys. Obviously "this too shall pass" and what difference does it make in the long run? Try to look past the style and see that underneath that haircut are your sweet grandchildren who I am sure you love with all your heart. What does that make us when we judge people on their appearances? Besides, it could be worse - it could be a mullet =)
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A debate on childrens haircuts
by tinker inwithout giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.
our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.
your input would be greatly appriciated.
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NoLoveLost
Pick your battles - hair, it doesn't matter so much. If you pick your battles with your kids, they will be much more predisposed to take heed to your "no's" when they aren't about things that don't matter. Hair grows back. If (because I don't know if you are) you are concerned about negative perceptions, are you concerned more about how your son will be perceived, or about how your parenting will be perceived? If you are concerned, then why? I only ask because it seems like more that just a haircut is the issue here?
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... finding a heavenly hope...
by Redwood inbeing brought up as a jw in the 70's +++ it was instilled in me that my hope was for everlasting life in a perfect world.
only 144,000 were going to heaven to rule with jesus.
my heart was shaped by a very traumatic event 3 yrs ago this labor day.
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One of the great things about being a 'run of the mill' Christian is that you are 'allowed' to have a variety of takes on biblical issues. There are some Christians who believe in an 'earthly/heavenly hope'. If you like to read, Anthony Hoekema has written a book called 'The Bible and the Future' which is an eschatological book with a chapter at the end entitled The New Earth. He has some really interesting ideas and an enjoyable perspective to read from.
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The Movie "Borat "- Did you Like it? What Did you Learn from It ?
by flipper inprobably a lot of you saw borat.
my wife and i laughed our selfs crazy watching it.
mrs. flipper actually fell on the floor watching it, laughing !
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I saw the DVD right after I had a C-section - it was quite painful to laugh that hard! On the serious side - I found it was interesting that Borat could bring his own excretement to the table and be excused, but not a black hooker. I guess that preacher hasn't read his Bible lately.
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How ethical is it to sow DOUBT in the minds of sincere Jehovah's Witnesses?
by nicolaou inwe know that we can't always take the direct approach and we know that even a short, reasonable discussion is often out of the question with jw's we may love dearly so we often try to place a little doubt in their minds.
we want them to start questioning cherished beliefs.. is this fair of us?
are we placing our our own agendas ahead of their needs?
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This is a question that has been a point of contention between me (non-denom christian) and my husband (DF'd for 19 yrs and still defensive). His whole family is active and they frequently try to discuss Jehovah with me. In the past he has become angy, asking me why I would want to take away the comfort they have in their faith. I finally made him realize that - 1) they are the initiators of these conversations, and 2)why do they want to take the same away from me because my beliefs are as important to me as theirs are to them? His mother showed the most audacity when my son was born with a congenital heart defect (read: multiple blood transfusions) and tried to dissaude me from allowing them to transfuse him (he would have died if he hadn't had them) by calling me at his NICU bed right before he had to go into open heart surgery at 22 tender hours old. I was so angry I didn't even have words. Not to mention that I had just given birth, thought my son was going to die, drove for 2 hours following an ambulance, and have never been a JW so would have no reason to give a crap about their stand on blood transfusions. Interestingly enough, though my husband says he doesn't agree with their stance on blood, he called me from the hospital (I hadn't arrived yet) to see if it was okay with me for our son to get a transfusion. I asked him what the hell he was wasting time for calling me about a simple, necessary medical procedure when our son's life was hanging in the balance. Sorry about that little rant, it has pissed me off for a few years now. So anyway, I never instigate conversations, but when they do, I feel no qualms about trying to discuss the matters at hand - esp. since there are small children involved.
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I need your opinion on the WT pedophile cover up
by TooBad TooSad inthe catholic church knows that it has a problem with many of its priest who have been proven.
to be pedophiles.
millions of dollars have been paid out to the victims.
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Martian -
I won’t repeat what BizzyBee said, though having worked closely with victims of child sexual abuse, I can certainly substantiate it. To me, caution would be ensuring that the littlest ones in God’s kingdom are protected – erring on the side of safety. The scripture used to justify the type of ‘caution’ you are advocating - “two or three witnesses” – is misapplied and taken out of context – what a surprise! The fact of the matter is that sex abusers are rarely prosecuted because many child victims fall apart during the procedures leading up to a prosecution, not to mention the fact that many of them know that they will have to face their victimizers in a court of law. When a case does see a courtroom, the defendant’s lawyer often tears the child apart on the stand. Some methods used are highly unethical (in my opinion, and yes I understand the concept of zealous representation) asking the child for specific dates, times, etc., making the victim feel responsible for the sex crimes, subjecting them to outright hostility, attempting to confuse the child by repetitive questioning, rapid questioning, and interrupting responses. The child is placed in a stressful, adversarial situation which many adults cannot cope with – in a word they are re-victimized by the judicial process. We, as adults, are responsible to advocate for these children who have overcome their fear and psychological conditioning to place their trust in us and disclose the things that have happened to them. Your position is untenable and unconscionable. Scrape up some compassion and educate yourself...
Some myths that surround sexual abuse and rape include: children make up stories about rape, she/he asked for it, victim is a fault for allowing it to continue, most assaults are by strangers, the best way to recover is not to talk about it and act like it never took place.
Forced sexual relations may be by way of threat, tone of voice, physical power, or threat with a weapon.
Child sexual abuse is defined as "...the use of a child (any person under the age of 16) by an adult for sexual purposes whether or not consent is alleged to have been given." No child is exempt or protected from the possibility of child sexual abuse. Studies estimate that one out of every four children will become a victim, and almost every one of those children will be victimized by someone they know, love and trust. The aggressor can either be an older, more sexually informed child, or an adult, who uses the younger child for sexual arousal. The abuse can be physical, verbal, or emotional, often beginning gradually and increasing over time. It may involve tricking, bribing, threatening, coercing, or physically forcing the child into submission. Physical force is usually unnecessary, however, as children are usually dependent, trusting, naively vulnerable, have been taught to respect and obey adults, or may desperately want to avoid disfavor and gain love and approval. Child sex abusers use this vulnerability, violating the child's right to a healthy and trusting relationship. Child sexual abuse includes: Oral, anal, or vaginal penetration, touching and fondling of the child's genitalia, viewing sexual or pornographic movies with the child, having a child undress, pose naked for photographs or videos, and/or perform sexual acts for photographic or movie purposes, spying on children in their bedrooms or bathrooms, rape, attempted rape, and oral sex.
Most children do not report sexual abuse because they are either too young to explain what they experienced, are afraid because of threats by their aggressor or are afraid of getting into trouble from the person they tell, have been bribed to keep the secret, fear they will be called a liar or are making up a story, may feel confused because of what they perceive as "loving attention" accompanying the abuse, believe they are bad and blame themselves, or don't want to get a loved one (their abuser) into trouble. Unless the abuse is extreme, physical evidence is rare, and detecting child abuse can be difficult. Some symptoms may include: Sleep disturbances or eating disorders, depression/anxiety, fear of particular places, withdrawal from family and friends or problems in school, discipline problems/running away from home, low self-esteem or destructive behavior, hostility/aggression, drug or alcohol abuse, suicide attempts, sexual activity or pregnancy at a young age, copying adult sexual behavior, or sexual knowledge beyond that expected for their age, physical evidence of abuse such as unusual swelling, bleeding, or irritation of the genitals, anus, or mouth, indirect comments about sexual encounters, persistent sexual play with other children, toys, or pets..
Sexual abuse in general is extremely damaging emotionally, and is particularly so to children. It is a difficult and complicated issue, and requires astute observance on the part of adults to detect it in the first place, and then a completely loving, supportive, and caring environment (including professional counseling) to help the victim deal with the trauma and feel good about themselves as both children and adults. Whether performed by a male or a female, sexual abuse is extremely damaging and painful emotionally and psychologically to the victim. Many victims of sexual assault experience symptoms of helplessness, guilt, humiliation, insomnia, impaired memory and sexual dysfunction. This post-traumatic stress syndrome may also include flashbacks of the assault, avoidance of the place and circumstance in which the rape occurred, and avoidance of previously pleasurable activities.