Scully,
My husband is well known in the District, he has at times filled in for the Circuit Overseer. My parents and my husband's parents are active Jehovah's Witnesses. To keep our entire family somewhat intact my husband is considering a slow process in which both for the benefit of the children and our parents we continue as is for a time probably at least 5 years. Our parents are elderly and we could not bear to hurt them at this time in their lives.
You mention the possibility of our children shunning us, they would only have to shun us if we left officially. A few years of slowing down will I hope open the way to no shunning. We have no intention of officially leaving the Organization, that is not an option.
I really can't believe I'm saying this. On Sunday I'll go to the meeting, hug my friends and hope that things change. Hope that the Governing Body wakes up. Hope that Jehovah corrects them.
Thank you for the advice,
Deborah