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  Do You Think You Would Be Terribly Missed If You Died?

  by minimus in

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  lately, i have noticed that many suddenly have died or as it is usually expressed, died "unexpectedly" in the local obituaries.. i have come to know of many young people suddenly deciding to kill themselves for whatever reasons.

  most that i have known about had either financial or personal issues and sadly, they just gave up.. i wonder if we were suddenly gone, would people take notice?.....

  (and don't worry about me.

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  oompa

  so mini...you read the local obits?....why?.....that kinda creeps me out!!!!.......oomps
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  Have you ever been to Dominican Republic for vacation?

  by Iamallcool in

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  i am thinking about it and i have never been there.

  if you have been there, i would like to know about your experience in d.r., thanks!.

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  yes it was great...but it was at a club med so very private...i toured a bit but that was just ok....weather and water were awesome....tropical paradise is tropical paradise......oompa
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  I was just told .....

  by FollowedMyHeart in

  1. social
  2. family

  not to go to my sister's high school graduation.

  it's for home-schooled kids and will be at the la quinta.

  so there aren't going to be many people there.

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  but did you actually ask your sister? you need to know she truly feels that way...........oompa
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  Jehovah's witness meetings are NOT BORING......

  by punkofnice in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  ...i was told but they usually were as i look back.. as a lad i'd sit and look to see who the lights would fall on.

  i'd get an almond and see how long i could suck it before i chewed at it.

  i'd imagine playing rock'n'roll on the congregation's piano.. how did you get through the meetings when you were bored?.

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  so nobody spanked it in the bathroom stall?...or was that just.....uh....just someone i heard about once? funny how many things we did with the WT back then as kids....i of course did the coloring and all....but i would blur my eyes while looking at a page full of text and start drawing a line from north to south while zig zagging around the words....like i was working my way through a maze....or i would blur it first and try to memorize the maze...then trace it while not blurring the page.....geeze was i already going nuts????................oompa
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  I need a JW & a Christian please.

  by NomadSoul in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  alright, bare with me.

  i searched the forum for a similar topic but i didn't find any.. if you know of such a thread please let me know.

  if not i need a jw and a christian to debate the following topic:.

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  oompa

  since god is all knowing i guess it was the instant he created him.....oompa
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  Were you ever the subject of a ''Local needs'' talk???

  by karter in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  apperantly there was one in my old congro as my neice (baptized ,but inactive) is marring her livein boy freind.. .

  anyone going to the weeding wil be publicly reproved..

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  oompa

  only four.....oompa
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  ~Close to Others..Close to My Self~

  by freeflyingfaerie in

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  2. friends

  i am using this as my very own personal therapy session to express some of what has been swimming around in my head~.

  it may not take much shape, i'll be letting it flow.... there is nothing like feeling understood and accepted and loved for who you are.

  but that's a difficult thing to really feel when there is little or no history with a person.

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  just beautiful faerie....very heartfelt...i hope i can find your level of peace..........oompa
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  help appreciated...any success or failures at truly conscious efforts to make new friends after a life in jwland? As a very social person i still only seem to have ex-dubs as my new friends...

  by oompa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them.

  since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends.

  the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you?

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  robert7 is a friend of mine here and so is his wife...but i cant even remember her name here lol...it has been so long since she posted. his wife recently told me that even with two small kids and thus school events and lots of contact with other parents....and living in great neighborhood...that making new friends is an interesting challenge...

  she really enlightenend me that once you get into your thirtys or more....people have kind of a set group of friends and are comfortable with that group....so they are hesisitant to really embrace a newbie....they dont really need you after all. that is true somewhat i think for those in their teens and twentys too i think

  coffee house girl has the best idea i think....move away and start over!!!!...........wish i could....it is so much harder when you have your own established business....it has been good to me, but now it traps me even more...........oompa....thanks all
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  help appreciated...any success or failures at truly conscious efforts to make new friends after a life in jwland? As a very social person i still only seem to have ex-dubs as my new friends...

  by oompa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them.

  since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends.

  the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you?

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  i have one other couple that is local i consider friends (lite version)...he used to rent from me years ago and we stay in touch...and i went to church with them once...a big modern casual church and they are both kind of into it...the music was great but as an agnostic now i really did not fit in nor did i enjoy it....it was still too much like jw land....esp the skits!!!!....omg assembly flashback nightmares!!!

  and i have been to their house a few times but i always feel like the fith wheel as they always have other couples over...

  maybe it really is impossible to truly replace your lifelong friends and i just need to accept that....but that should not mean you can not find good friendships....
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  help appreciated...any success or failures at truly conscious efforts to make new friends after a life in jwland? As a very social person i still only seem to have ex-dubs as my new friends...

  by oompa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them.

  since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends.

  the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you?

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  oompa

  as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them. since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends

  the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you? i have heard some do volunteer work and i did have a good morning picking up trash on the roads with neighbors once but again nothing developed. i kind of wish i still had kids at school...i feel that would have made it much easier to make friends. and i know for sure it would be easier if i worked for a company with normal co-workers instead of being self employeed...you can only get so close with your own employees although i do hang out with a few of them.... i think my situation is made way more difficult by having a hardcore jw wife who is not social at all but still has her network of jw friends who of course shun me....it feels awkward as hell to try and make friends locally when your partner is like a ghost that you may never even talk about...

  i think everyone who leaves this religion in one way or another struggles as to their direction in life....maybe there is a real crossroads we face....how long do we stand at the intersection trying to decide? sometimes change is good but it can also be hard...or very hard...or very expensive when it comes to divorce....

  and it makes me sick to now realize more than ever how many people are stuck in marriages they wish they were out of but for many reasons stay in it...sometimes it is for the kids....for insurance...basic companionship....for the house....for retirement/finiancial reasons...or maybe just fear of the unknown....and i am not ashamed to admit that...or maybe i am.................oompa

  i may have tried to set a record for longest title line....not sure if it will all post even