Posts by legalchickie

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More Evidence that Jehovah Is a Tyrant

by WTWizard in

i have observed that jehovah god is far from the loving father he portrays himself to be.

stifling my sex drive, and then exploiting it by using it to get me into a cult, hardly qualifies god as being loving.

and neither does continuing to stifle the sex drive after i am trying to leave the cult and quite likely using the hounders to reclaim me as their slave.. i found another web site that any theist should urgently look up before looking into any religion, whether jehovah's witnesses or any other "christian" or islam religion.

legalchickie

WT- I am so in agreement with you. Would any one of us that are loving parents to our children, sit back and calmly watch as our children are abused, tortured, starving, killed in earthquakes, famine, hurricanes and disease (just to name a few) if we had the power to save them?? How can he call himself a loving god when he doesn't lift a hand to help his children when they are in harms way. Anyone that believes that he is a god of love is kidding themselves.

I was a JW for 25 wasted years. Years that I cannot turn back and celebrate my children's birthdays, Christmas, etc. Those years are lost to me forever because of being in this horrible cult!!

Loving god??? Get real!

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Diary of a thinking to return ex-Jw

by reniaa in

i thought long and hard about posting this but the mis-information on this site finally persuaded me, i already accept many may not accept what i say on face value and get their appologist pens ready for making sure no pro-witness propaganda slips through the net on this site but here goes....... i've been on this forum for a few months my first post was about how i was thinking of returning to jw's and at my sisters recommendation to look at this site for both sides of the story before taking that step.. i faded from jw's 10/11 years ago now i left my hubby at the time divorced him to going on to have more relationships and kids, i was definately given the impression after asking on this site and with what i read that if i tried to return i might face df or at least a jc but definately a couple of elders questioning me over what i've been upto these last few years - none of these have happened.

i talked with an old jw friend (yes i do have then and she never shunned me quite happily accepted an offer of coffee from me and my asking for a chat) i told her i was interested in going back and was very frank about what i done in the last 10 years but not sure how returning was done now, she quite happily said she go ask for me to find out.. result!

she came back this week and said "all i had to do was goto meetings again" and an offer of a study was there for me if i wanted it to explore the open doubts that i had expressed i now had.. not quite the fire and brimstone welcome this site led me to believe would happen.. i will keep you posted with further updates if i feel the need to put them in future.. .

legalchickie

Reniaa,

Be very careful and think long and hard before going back. During the time that my son was inactive, two "loving brothers" came to see him and they both told him that they really missed him and would be please come back. He went to one meeting and before leaving the hall that night, they had him in the back room and told him they were going to have to disfellowship him (for something he didn't even do!) He begged them not to do it and sent a heartfelt letter. They had set him up to be DFd. They did the very same thing to my step daughter.

That was the beginning of the end for me. I started to fade until I finally I stopped going at all. I will NEVER, EVER set foot into another KH.

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Real Good News

by superman in

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friends

this must be a sign of what will lie ahead for the j-dubs (at least in the united states).

this last weekend at the special day circuit assembly i went to, not a single person got baptized (zero, zip, nada) and the funny part was that they still had to give the baptism talk because it was already in the program schedule.

hopefully people are starting to catch on and we'll have a few more "zero baptism" assemblies.

legalchickie

I love it!! I cannot imagine seeing no baptismal candidates at all!! you just made my day!!

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Your most memorable Kingdom Hall meeting disruptions!

by easyreader1970 in

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i remember about twenty years ago some teenagers were caught fornicating in one of the additional schools.

the schools were downstairs, essentially separated from the rest of the kh.

they weren't just happened upon, though.

legalchickie

I was married to an "worldly" man who refused to let me take our children to the hall, i would have to get a sitter if he wasn't home. one nite for the service meeting he was out drinking and i decided i would take the kids anyhow. about halfway into the meeting, he came in and stood at the back of the hall, totally wasted and said in very loud voice that he was there to get his kids. i was so embarrassed! i left and drove the boys home since he was drunk and i wouldn't let them go with him.

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Your most memorable Kingdom Hall meeting disruptions!

by easyreader1970 in

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friends

i remember about twenty years ago some teenagers were caught fornicating in one of the additional schools.

the schools were downstairs, essentially separated from the rest of the kh.

they weren't just happened upon, though.

legalchickie

One Sunday meeting about 10 apostates decided to visit our KH. They spread out and seated in various places within the Hall. One of the men sat on the front row during the talk and visably read the Sunday times right in front of the speaker. What a hoot!

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WHAT if we're wrong?

by shell69 in

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i mean, i know i'm bitter.. normally these days quite strong, not feeling so much so much the last few days though.. what i'd give to do the things i was used to.

going doing the weekly shop with my mum, her popping round for a brew in the morning.. a hug from her, just to to know from the way she communicated with me, that she loved me.

i miss her so much.. and what if i'm wrong?.

legalchickie

Shell,

My heart aches for you because like the other posters here, I have been in your shoes. And yes, it does get better with time.

Being a part of this forum has helped me so much. Before I found it, I felt so very alone. And now, when I am feeling those feelings (and I still do from time to time) I get on this forum and start to read....

I am not DF'd but my sister treats me like the I don't exist. That's okay though. I wouldn't trade places with her and her "theocratic" family for anything in the world!! Freedom is so sweet! Grasp it and hang on. You have many friends here.

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Playing the guilt game

by legalchickie in

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i just found out that my half-sister visited our 89 year old mother in a nursing home yesterday and told her that she should be getting out in service and to the meetings!!

i do so want to call her and tell her just what i feel about her and this cult of hers!!

i was a jw for 25 years and stopped going to the kh about 4 years ago.

legalchickie

Thanks Dave.

Actually, she has been on the outer fringes for a long time too. Especially, when they DFd my oldest son about 10 years ago. He wrote the Elders a heartfelt letter and asked for forgiveness (he and some others, none of who were disciplined!) had too much to drink at a party. The others got off scott free (being offspring of elders) and they kicked my son out. That was the beginning of the end for me, and my mom never would comply with not associating with her grandson!

Mostly, she is fine with not going to the hall and out in service, it's just when my lovely sister comes around and makes her feel bad.

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Playing the guilt game

by legalchickie in

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friends

i just found out that my half-sister visited our 89 year old mother in a nursing home yesterday and told her that she should be getting out in service and to the meetings!!

i do so want to call her and tell her just what i feel about her and this cult of hers!!

i was a jw for 25 years and stopped going to the kh about 4 years ago.

legalchickie

Yes Dave, she does. She does pretty well most of the time and then this sick sister of mine and her husband get ahold of her. It brings it all back. Thank goodness that she isn't close to my sister. They only come around to see her about every 4-5 months, then it's only for an hour or so. But she can do a lot of damage in that short amount of time.

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Playing the guilt game

by legalchickie in

jw
friends

i just found out that my half-sister visited our 89 year old mother in a nursing home yesterday and told her that she should be getting out in service and to the meetings!!

i do so want to call her and tell her just what i feel about her and this cult of hers!!

i was a jw for 25 years and stopped going to the kh about 4 years ago.

legalchickie

Whew!! Thanks for setting me straight on that one!!

I must say that I have carried around guilt for a very long time because I felt since I wasn't going to meetings or out in service that I was keeping my mom away too. If I didn't go, she didn't go, even if she could catch a ride. It's very hard to lose that guilt, even now. I haven't shared with her anything I have learned about the JWs. It would be too hard for her to understand in her advanced age.

This is just a vicious, horrible cult and I am so very glad to be out of it. And to find friends on this site that truly understand what it's like on the inside.

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Playing the guilt game

by legalchickie in

jw
friends

i just found out that my half-sister visited our 89 year old mother in a nursing home yesterday and told her that she should be getting out in service and to the meetings!!

i do so want to call her and tell her just what i feel about her and this cult of hers!!

i was a jw for 25 years and stopped going to the kh about 4 years ago.

legalchickie

I just found out that my half-sister visited our 89 year old mother in a nursing home yesterday and told her that she should be getting out in service and to the meetings!! I do so want to call her and tell her just what I feel about her and this cult of hers!! I was a jw for 25 years and stopped going to the kh about 4 years ago. My mother has never driven a day in her life and was always dependent on me to take her places, including the kh. Now, she is feeling guilty for not going to the meetings and out in service.

Wasn't that just such a lovely thing for my so called "sister" to do to her?? Especially at this time in her life??

Hold me back before I get a gun......