I gave a homeless guy money.... exactly once. I was going to the Fox Theatre with a girl and when I got off the highway at 14th St. there were homeless guys standing there with their little cardboard signs. One of the guy's signs said "It's hot. Why Lie? I need a beer!" I thought it was so funny, I gave him $5.00.
I have had many, many people ask me for money around Atlanta. Just about everybody knows the story.... I can't find a job, I'm hungry, I'm homeless, I need money for my kid's medicine, I need money to buy my kids pampers..... etc., etc. When I owned my own business, these homeless guys would tell me they would work for food. I would tell them to get in my car and I would let them work at my business cleaning up or something and I would feed them and give them a few bucks. They always declined, even if it was freezing cold outside or raining. The would rather stand freezing in the pouring rain than work for a day's pay and food. I don't mind helping people. I do mind giving them money for alcohol and drugs.
I had one guy who I knew for sure was a crack addict and a drunk ask me for money one day "because he was hungry". I looked at him and said "Be honest, aren't you just going to take whatever I give you and spend it on drugs or alcohol?" And he said that was what he would do. So, I looked at him and said "Hell, that's all I was going to do with it! Work for your own drugs and alcohol!" haa haa.
So, I hardly ever give money to somebody panhandling. I do, however, donate to charities and individuals I know for a fact are in need. I also prefer do donate anonymously. I don't want my name on a plaque or anything like that. Last year a lady on my job was having a hard time. Her husband got laid off and ended up in the hospital. I cashed my Christmas bonus check and put the money in an envelope and slipped in in her purse at lunch time. She has no idea who did it, but I know it helped her and her kids. Many years ago when I was a little boy my father asked me the question "Which is better: to give or to receive?" And, of course, I said that it was better to receive! He explained that the reason it was better to give was because you couldn't give anything unless you had something to give, which means you are in a much better position than the person who is receiving who didn't have anything. I'm not rich, but I'm glad that I'm in a position in life to be able to give, because I've been on the other end of the spectrum and it sucks to have to be the receiver.