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  Wonderful Anti-Witness Opportunity at Work...

  by AK - Jeff in

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  i realize that i am out of time - gotta go.

  but i shall return and post the experience i had on saturday.

  in the meantime, anyone have any good anti-memorial stories?

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  Deidra

  Great job. You chose your words well
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  My life - A brief history. Part 3 (conclusion)

  by Galileo in

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  this is part 3 and the conclusion to my journey out.

  part 1 can be found here, and part 2 is here.. .

  truth.

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  Deidra

  Thank you for sharing your story with us. As long as you stay away from the JW, then you will heal in time. Congratulations. It sounds like you have your head on straight. You just have to deal with the feelings.
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  Did Prayer work for you, or not?

  by gaiagirl in

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  jws, and christians in genreral, are taught that god answers prayers of sincere believers.

  on the other hand, there is a popular bumpersticker which reads "nothing fails like prayer".. what has been your experience in this regard?

  did god answer your most heartfelt prayers, or were they ignored?.

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  Deidra

  I strongly agree with Honesty. Prayer worked for me. I sincerely prayed to God for clarity. I explained to God in my prayers that if he would tell me exactly what to do spiritually then I would do it even if it meant going back to the Kingdumb Hall (which I didn't want to do but was willing if he clearly told me to). I hadn't been going to the meetings for years. After that prayer I decided to go to the Memorial just to see if I felt any kind of "spark." My prayers were answered that Memorial night. The service felt so empty. I had been away for years just to return to the same robotic behavior. I thought "Why are only these special people that are taking emblems? Who do they think they are? They are no better than me. I started reading my bible and to my pleasant surprise, I didn't need the Society interpreting it for me. No Watchtower or Awake, just my own brain. I attended church with a friend and was stunned. I was saved not long after my first visit to a church. What are the chances that the first church I attend ever in my life would be the place with answers for me? I'd say God answered my prayers. Life has never been sweeter than when you see clearly.
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  How sweet is it to NOT be a JW?

  by new light in

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  do you ever revisit the old jw ways of thinking, and then compare it to the complete freedom that you have now?

  do you remember judging and fearing the everyday activities of the people around you?

  remember that dread of restating "your" position on holidays every few weeks, knowing you would just end up further alienated from coworkers?

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  Deidra

  It is beautiful. There is no other feeling than being free after being born into bondage. The peace I feel in my life is indescribable.
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  The angst of dealing with family when they are still in and you are not...

  by Layla33 in

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  i don't think you ever truly make peace with it, somehow you learn to maneveur and swim in it like most things.

  i have been out for so long, it's almost like a shadowy memory when i was in, but for my family it is all they have ever known and dared to know.. i feel for the people whose parents have cut them out completely, but mine never truly did that.

  i guess we just loved each other a little too much to even think about losing the other completely.

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  Deidra

  The Doc-58

  I'm with you. It is much better for my mental health not to play games with my parents. They are fully aware that I shun them also and that it isn't up to them rather we have a relationship. It's no longer on their terms. It feels good for once in my life not to have the fear of shunning held over my head if I don't act a certain way.
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  The angst of dealing with family when they are still in and you are not...

  by Layla33 in

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  i don't think you ever truly make peace with it, somehow you learn to maneveur and swim in it like most things.

  i have been out for so long, it's almost like a shadowy memory when i was in, but for my family it is all they have ever known and dared to know.. i feel for the people whose parents have cut them out completely, but mine never truly did that.

  i guess we just loved each other a little too much to even think about losing the other completely.

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  Deidra

  Jamiebowers, I'm been shunned completely also. Therefore, it's best to move on instead of hope oneday that they'll accept us. The fact that we're completely shunned tells me that they have absolutely no human compassion/hear/feelings left in them. The fact that they don't maintain some contact shows that they are staunch hard.

  IP_SEC, that's good you have a relationship with your family. But doesn't it make you feel like sh** when your family fakes shunning you in front of other JWS. My family used to downplay our relationship to others before they completely shunned me (once I made a christian stand) and it made me feel cheep. Not good enough for others to know about, kinda like a mistress or prostitute. I'd rather them shun me all the time instead of them sneaking to love me. That doesn't feel very good either.
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  I 'never' answer the door when JWs come a knockin' but . . .

  by Gayle in

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  i 'never' answer the door when jws (2 men) come to the door, well, yesterday i did,,and i couldn't help it.

  i dominated the conversation,,wouldn't let them talk much,,stayed on the blood issue for the most part, about 6/7 min., they excused themselves & left.

  they were kind of like deer facing headlights of a speeding car.

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  Deidra

  Finally-Free

  Give them shit; they treat us like shit. Turn the tables on their asses. They don't even bother to come to my door; never have. I must be on a list or something. I could of only been put there by my own parents. Losers--stealing my thunder! I gon't even get the satisfaction of slamming the door in their faces. I guess I'll move too.
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  First time JWs have been at my door--post exit...

  by Confession in

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  i was actually at my friend's house.

  since he's out of town a lot, i stop in to check the chlorine in his pool, get his mail, etc.

  the doorbell rang.

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  Deidra

  Doesn't it feel good to speak your mind?
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  I was DF'd one year ago today!

  by bluesbreaker59 in

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  just thought i'd celebrate my one year anniversary!!!

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  Deidra

  Congratulations. Now start enjoying life.
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  The angst of dealing with family when they are still in and you are not...

  by Layla33 in

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  2. friends

  i don't think you ever truly make peace with it, somehow you learn to maneveur and swim in it like most things.

  i have been out for so long, it's almost like a shadowy memory when i was in, but for my family it is all they have ever known and dared to know.. i feel for the people whose parents have cut them out completely, but mine never truly did that.

  i guess we just loved each other a little too much to even think about losing the other completely.

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  Deidra

  I agree with everyone. The pain never goes away of losing your family. We just have to keep it moving and make good lives for themselves. Guaranteed, we are happier than they are. We are happier without them then we would be with them. Life with them brings along alot of BS.