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Gettin' my garden on - looking for inspiration! !
by Mary J Blige in
1. social
2. physical
gardening is my physical activity thing.

i like to have a productive garden but dot it with a bit of pretty.

the front lawn is around 40m2 and i am converting it to potager this year.
possum

Mary J Bilge good news about the rhubarb! so delicious in pies!
Bonsai interesting you are planting lantana its a noxious weed here in australia......
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Gettin' my garden on - looking for inspiration! !
by Mary J Blige in
1. social
2. physical
gardening is my physical activity thing.

i like to have a productive garden but dot it with a bit of pretty.

the front lawn is around 40m2 and i am converting it to potager this year.
possum

don't suppose its very helpful to to let you know we are just coming out of winter some vegetables protect from frost in tasmania and are now looking forward to spring
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Help me Out Here
by vinman in
1. jw
2. experiences
i've been out about 9 months.

and yes i am still obsessed with anti-watchtower material.

i've been married 23 years.
possum

Poor elders wives are often under so much pressure to set an example, be on time for field service, have their husbands suits perfectly clean, wait in the car after meetings with tired cranky kids when he's busy with spiritual matters must not complain and on it goes.............my husband is now able to give his undivided attention to our children as a person..granted post cult a person still formulating ideas but still an authentic man.
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Help me Out Here
by vinman in
1. jw
2. experiences
i've been out about 9 months.

and yes i am still obsessed with anti-watchtower material.

i've been married 23 years.
possum

My husband left before me but remained a good, loyal and loving friend and he says would have still stayed had I remained firmly entrenched as a 3 rd gen witness. Being the spiritual head of the family didnt make my husband a better man. In reality the GB are the real dictators of the family and rule with an iron fist , Nice to have them out of our life and bedroom now. Leaving and becoming his own man did. Last I checked doesn't seem to be demonized (big fear) and we still have a good moral code and ethics.
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Help me Out Here
by vinman in
1. jw
2. experiences
i've been out about 9 months.

and yes i am still obsessed with anti-watchtower material.

i've been married 23 years.
possum

Agree with Lostgeneration and reccomend that you have a look at.........http://www.babcp.com/Review/RTS-Trauma-from-Leaving-Religion.aspx
Have 4 children married 27 yrs am still a little disoriented at times. Takes awhile to learn new skills learn new things? join a book group? and let go the fear its paralizing......remember there are alot of us survivors...... places like this forum are a good place to do some healthy venting and laughing
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On shunning
by paranoia agent in
1. watchtower
2. beliefs
here is something interesting that pertains to the action of shunning.

the book called extreme was written by psychologists.. 1.
possum

Dr. Marlene Winnell writes in article 3 on Religious Trauma Syndrome that A religious counselor will redirect a client back to the religion, typically with biblical guidelines to repent and become more devout. The client suffering with RTS is then likely to try harder to meet the impossible demands of the religion, much like returning to a situation of domestic violence. They will do this because of the authoritarian nature of such counseling, but fail again and feel hopeless or evil or crazy. No one concludes that it is the religion itself, which is at fault. (And religious counselors often have very little training in psychology while getting exempted from standard licensing requirements.) http://www.babcp.com/Review/RTS-Trauma-from-Leaving-Religion.aspx
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If you could name the theme of an assembly what would it be???
by karter in
1. jw
2. friends
divine boredom.
possum

Pedophiles paradise
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Emptiness of Watchtower
by vinman in
1. jw
2. experiences
since i left the organization, i have learned so many new and deep things.

i know some in the watchtower are intelligent, however it has been my experience, that most i've dealt with are.

.. well quite inept.
possum

The JW cult mindset provides a fantasy of love,family, friendship and life. But has no substance. Real life, marriages and friendships can stand difference, robust debate if shared with mutual respect and love. Unfortunately, WT simplistic comic strip dribble, hinders converts emotional and intellectual abilities and (keeps them easy to control) and encourages very limited expectations of quality of life.................One of the hardest things to do post cult is to learn to THINK...............
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Active JW Elders Speak Out
by Tenacious in
1. watchtower
2. scandals
hey guys.. not sure if these have made the rounds (tried search feature).. eric posted these on his youtube channel jw struggle.. enjoy!.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdxnbdjt8re.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mi-tynahp-4.
possum

Thankyou very good
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Introducing Myself
by Peony in
1. jw
2. experiences
i've finally got round to joining the site (after over 2 years lurking!

i was born into jws, pioneered for 10 years (met my husband at pioneer school).

had health issues that saw me catapulted away from 'the centre of the cong' and wow what a different place that was!
possum

Welcome and thank you for sharing.