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  To all "born-in" DF'd/DA'd posters.....

  by DublDipd in

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  do you feel that we will ever be free from the mental damage imposed by our parents?

  i have been df'd for over 17 years.

  basically, my entire family still remain active jw's.

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  I posted this thread during a mental "downswing". At the risk of "abandoning" this thread, I could not force myself to log on until now. I was embarrased to lay open my feelings so bare. Upon logging on this evening and reading all of your responses, I teared up. Thank you all so much for your heartfelt responses. I have read all of them with undivided attention. This is a special place for all of us "damaged" people.
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  To all "born-in" DF'd/DA'd posters.....

  by DublDipd in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you feel that we will ever be free from the mental damage imposed by our parents?

  i have been df'd for over 17 years.

  basically, my entire family still remain active jw's.

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  Do you feel that we will ever be free from the mental damage imposed by our parents? I have been DF'd for over 17 years. Basically, my entire family still remain active JW's. They have cut me off from them for most of my adult life. Can someone overcome this rejection? How are you dealing with it?

  Do you think that you have missed what a normal family life is supposed to consist of? Do you think that this can ever be overcome? If you have been DF'd/DA'd for any period or time do you harbor hate/resentment still? I am afraid that I will never be able to forgive them for raising me as a JW...then rejecting me because I could not continue with their teachings. I don't feel that there ever was a "choice" for me to make. It was made for me before I was born.

  I try to tell myself that, being a mature adult now, "get over it" but it is difficult somewhere deep inside to let go of the resentment that is still there. Trying to juggle love and hate simultaneously is difficult if not impossible. I would appreciate any thoughts on this from fellow "rejects".
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  The state flag - upside down

  by Jim_TX in

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  i am not that patriotic - but i like our state flag.

  texas.

  it has a blue vertical bar with a single star in it, and two horizontal bars - a white one (on top) and a red one (on bottom).

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  An easy way to remember which way is up regarding the Texas flag is....the red stripe symbolizes the blood that was spilled for her independence. Blood runs down...
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  favorite rock gutiarist

  by megaflower in

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  eddie van halen

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  billy gibbons of zz top
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  Songs that move you XJW style

  by wings in

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  hotel california by the eagles is an obvious one.

  i have'nt figured out how to find the songs i like on youtube.

  sorry, can't paste a link, but "dreams of our fathers" by dave mathews is my personal favorite.

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  Selling the Drama - Live
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  Born in or Converted to JW? What are the stats here? and why....

  by oompa in

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  can't everyone just put this one item on their profile before posting.

  it seems like most posters have no profile, but this info could help in several ways.

  i am just guessing, but it seems like more here were born in.....your thoughts on this?......oompa.

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  Born in. 3rd generation.
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  I'm Tipsy (hiccup!)

  by odie67 in

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  well it's friday night....i worked really hard today and i'm drinking apple martini's.... what are you doing?????.

  happy friday!.

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  Sounds like a good start to the weekend Odie!

  Oompa...you said the magic words...dirty martini! Make mine a Grey Goose. Nectar of the Gods.
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  Have I become like those I despise?

  by Hortensia in

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  well, yes, as a matter of fact.

  i have become a desperate, needy, clingy burden on my friends, so depressed i don't know what to do.

  every day i say, pull up your socks, put one foot in front of the other.

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  Hortensia...read a book by Robert Holden called "Happiness Now!" Read it with undivided attention. It will change your life.
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  What was your first "Real" job...?

  by Casper in

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  one where you were actually given a paycheck, & where did you end up after that , if you're in the mood to tell ?

  there are a lot of intelligent people here with, i assume, some very interesting occupations.... but hey, we all had to start somewhere........ for myself, my first real job was at a local clothing store, imagine my surprise when at the age of 18 i realized just how much items were marked up...!!!

  i priced the clothes at 3 times the cost to the store.

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  Typical "Born in jw's fashion". At 14 I began working for an elder in the cong doing janitorial work.
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  Why do I cringe? Why am I still so bitter?

  by oompa in

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  made my own personal statement by skipping the memorial, and then went to the next regular ol sunday meeting with my wife.

  i tried hard not to pay attention, but still went nuts when the wt said things clearly not in the bible (which i don't even believe anymore!).

  so why does this still bother me?

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  I always enjoy reading your posts Oompa.

  My personal experience with leaving the jw's went through several phases. Hopefully, it will help you:

  1. Guilt; I was so sinful and just generally BAD. 2. Anger; I hated those assholes. 3. Bitterness; I wanted revenge. 4. Apathy; I felt sorry for the poor bastards. 5. Ambivalence.

  So far, it has been a 17 year journey. Just achieved ambivalence about a couple of years ago. Damn, those jw's really screwed us up huh?