Oh rwagoner, I'm so sorry. Yet another family destroyed by the evil Watchtowerite cult. And all because of their pathological need to be controversial and different (i.e. "holy").
Do whatever you have to in order to honor and remember her . Do Not let them take over the memorial service .It should be a time for your family not a congregation meeting .
I hope you and your family can take ahold of the funeral services, this way it will truely be about your mother and not the JW agenda.
Good advice from Tiffy and J-Walking.
Don't let the cultists banish you to the sidelines, so that they can have free rein to brandish your mother's remains like some perverse trophy.