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  On spanking your children...

  by HintOfLime in

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  2. child-abuse

  i posted about this on my own website, but i'd like to get thoughts here as well, since jw's are big proponents of the 'violence is the answer' side of this debate.. new research is suggesting that spanking children may result in lowered iq's.

  (la times article) one hypothosis i've read elsewhere as to why this may be is because when faced with an unexpected result (the glass broke) the non-spanked child wonders why the glass broke and how much abuse a glass can take before breaking (essentually, the problem-solving/scientific parts of the mind find the unexpected result interesting, and want to learn more).

  the spanked child immediately enters fear mode - he's in trouble, his parents will be dealing him pain soon.

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  cognac

  I'm am EXTREMELY against spanking in my own household. Everyone says I'm going to spoil my child but I believe that they are wrong. I was also told that my child wouldn't sleep through the night or self sooth if I didn't let her cry it out. I refused to let her cry it out and used my own (in my eyes) a much more nurturing, loving method. I have a baby that has slept through the night at 2 1/2 months and has put herself to sleep at about 3 months or so. I believe this is because she goes to sleep content and happy...

  I will discipline consistantly, but I will not spank.

  Joshnaz - You could do other things besides spanking. Google "attached parent forum". That will give you a lot of ideas on how to deal with a toddler besides spanking.
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  Well, Joshnaz, you are definately putting yourself in a position to have a jc and possible d'fing if the elders find out your on here. If you don't mind that, then it's not a big deal then.
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  He called JWs a "man-made religion" so I think he's a real apostate vs. just not being a JW and not fully mentally out...
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  Yknot, I asked him if he goes to this site. He might already come here!
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  lol, Joshnaz. Are you serious?
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  Thanks Leaving! What a relief!!! I've been literally refreshing my email constantly all day long, lol. I've been so worried...
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  Hello all! Well, he replied and I feel so much better!!! He said that he would never out me! It's really weird to actually know somebody that you have known since you were a kid that has figured it out. I actually feel better and a bit more healed for some reason. And, we both have infants!!! There's so much that I want to tell him!
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  Was it conclusive enough evidence to rpove it was you?

  No. I could deny it. I don't like lying though and I really stink at it...
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  undercover - probably stupid to do that. acckkk
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  Sh*t. I got busted...

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at least it was by an apostate.

  not sure if he's going to rat me out or not.

  he wrote me an email saying, "is this who i think it is?

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  cognac

  cog, I would simply ask him to not reveal you. If he knows the truth about the org and is awakened, I think he would comply.

  I hope so. I'm just freaken out because nobody this close to me and my family has EVER figured out who I was before. It's so easy to get caught and then have your family stripped away from you and your child by one person who may have even said something in passing...