When it comes to giving men authority, you need to ask, what real qualifications do they have in the first place.
Definetely what I was thinking. What qualities do they have that can take on that role.
I have found that Elders who take control in their own lives, including their relationships, tend to not control other people. But when there is an Elder whose wife clearly lays down the law in the household, that Elder will abuse his authority over others in the congrgation.