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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  Welcome Mel - love the name!

  I see some similarities in our stories. I never did get baptized but did totally get the "You're 20 and still not baptized?!" crap from people. Not may parents thankfully tho - so I guess that's why I escaped being dunked.

  Glad you found the place - and I hope you enjoy your time here.

  Hello Joanna!! When I first saw your username, I misread it as Joan and Andy LOL

  It's a good thing your parents weren't rabid about you getting dunked! My mom went on about it for years... Every year the assemblies were misery! And when other kids got baptised, my mum was livid
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  MisFitMel - it's so awesom to find a "place" where the people totally get where you're coming from and the reasons for it - out there (meaning people who don't really know anything about the witness) you can't find anyone that can relate.

  Hey LouBelle!

  I'm glad I found this place and I hear what you're saying! I know a lot of non-witness friends and even my boyfriend are sympathetic but I know they can't really 'grasp' what it really feels like and what going through it is all about...

  It's comforting to know some 'kindred' souls... even just typing all this out makes me feel a little better!
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  Just to add mel i think you fit in very well, there as you seem to here to

  Regards

  David

  Thank you David! Everyone's been nothing short of friendly so far so it's a lovely experience
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  Good morning LouBelle, MMO and David!

  MMO - there's a brief version of my story on the first page, and everyone so far has been real friendly and supportive as you say!

  Thanks for the encouragement David.. I think I will certainly build up the courage to turn up lol
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  Question for you born ins

  by startingover in

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  when i was growing up as a born in jw, i remember the fear that dfing stirred up within me.

  as a kid, seeing a df'd person was quite a scary thing.

  thinking back about how it was growing up, it occurred to me that at the time, i never realized that a person had to be baptized in order to be df'd.

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  I was quite afraid of being DFd as a kid... I was even more terrified of being chastised by an elder...

  Whenever I would be rebellious or seem to lean towards getting into trouble, my mum would threaten that she would tell the Elders and then noone could help me Scared the s*** out of me LOL
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  I did it too!! Thanks for the tip and welcome!

  Yay!!
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  If you really don't want to feel guilty and worried anymore, If you haven't already, stop believing in some Guy in the stars that can see everything you do and can read your mind.

  You will be amazed of the freedom you will feel, I know it is tabo to talk about. It took me almost 2years to grasp the fact that maybe there is no God,

  Most people watch what they say when it comes to is there or is there not, Just in case he may be watching. ( case and point )

  Seeing is believing , Freedom is a decision away.

  ps .Could somebody tell me where the hell spell check is .

  Hello Free!

  I'm pretty much in a pendulum state right now... sometimes I feel there is a God, and other times I'm not so sure. I've tried to become more philosophical and be open to all possibilities. I think I'm leaning more towards the agnostic side. No one can really prove/disprove the existence of a God (or several of them if that's your thing!) so I think I shall sit on the fences for now

  I suppose as time goes by, I'll be able to find my own path of spiritual enlightenment!

  I haven't spotted anything like spell check for far, but if I do, I'll make sure to give you a shout
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  ... and so many JWs would think that someone like you went off to college and then left the truth. Frankly, most mentally leave "the truth" long before college. Anyway...

  Welcome to JWD MisfitMel ! And PLEASE go to ApostaScotland in my place ! I love a good brew and have a pair of legs that look great in a kilt !

  Billy

  Hello Billy!

  You're right... A lot of youngsters would probably drift away sooner if it wasn't for the constant pressure of parents dragging us to the meetings. I lived a double life for years before I finished school and moved away! Yet I'm sure when family friends back home hear about me it will be "Tut tut! She had to move for education and look what happened to her! The wordly system took her away ... her mother must be so heartbroken... and she was such a nice girl too! "

  I must be an even worse case, because not only did I leave home the first time to do my Bachelors, but I also decided to leave home again to do my Masters! Oh the horror!! The only person who seemed openly hostile to this was the POs wife. If anyone else disapproved, they certainly didn't show it... a few actually were enthusiastic and encouraged me to continue with my plans!
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  Thanks for the welcome guys! Didn't think so many people would reply!

  Howdy! don't let them guilt you into going back into the org! In fact, stay away until you are firmly set on some other path.

  I don't think I could ever go back to the Org, although I wouldn't underestimate the power of guilt!

  I have a feeling, if I was ever found out, I'd probably be DFd for being a stubborn apostate

  Dealing with my mum is a different kettle of fish though. Deep down I still feel bad to disappoint her. She doesn't realise what I do, and to her, this means everything (pretty much like most JWs), so letting her down is going to be a big issue... Oh well.. I guess we can't please everyone!
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  Hello!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as you can probably tell, it's my first post here!

  i've visited this forum several times over the past few months and i've just decided to join and wade into the community.

  i'm looking forward to some interesting conversations and meeting new people.. .

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  Don't worry about that MisfitMeL. I'm shy (maybe the WTS lifestyle has something to do with that?) and it will be my first get-together with ex-JW's. Anyway, I'm sure all who are going would make you very welcome. There's a lot of understanding around here.

  If going appeals, give your shyness the finger and go for it. :)

  Thanks for the encouragement!

  Well there's over a month to go, so I just might turn up