MisfitMeL

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  I fell & Guess What???

  by mouthy in

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  2. friends

  i moved on sat...fell & fractured my wrist..... it is in a caste,thank god it is the ,left one.... i am all settles in with the help of my daughter ,sonin law,grandkids.. i was at the hospital for hours....was able to talk to doc,nurse,why.

  they must not shut the door on the jw's as they have been doing.. they were very interesting took my card to give the ones they have.

  been listening to.....so i feel good came out of bad....

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  Ouch that sounds painful! Hope you make a quick recovery mouthy. Looks like you've been using even seemingly 'bad' experiences to give a 'good witness'
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  Wanna have some sex before marriage? (Elderbook)

  by Lady Viola in

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  2. beliefs

  below are examples in which judicial action.

  would likely not be warranted:.

  after attending a social gathering at a single sister's.

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  Make sure a blanket and a couple of pillows are thrown onto the sofa to look a bit 'realistic' if anyone comes around to check lol
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  In Thrall To A Cult: How The Unwary Fall Victim To Mind Control

  by Bangalore in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  in thrall to a cult: how the unwary fall victim to mind control.. .

  http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/national/in-thrall-to-a-cult-how-the-unwary-fall-victim-to-mind-control-20101016-16odx.html.

  bangalore.

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  Thanks for the link Bangalore! It's very informative and an eye opener :)
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  JW christmas is just round the corner... ugh!

  by MisfitMeL in

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  2. friends

  yeah so the memorial is getting closer.. and even though my mum knows i am not attending the meetings, she keeps staying i should at least attend the memorial.... coz it's like special.. no idea how to get myself out of it.

  everytime she brings up the topic over the phone, i just mumble and say stuff like, yeah but i finish work late... i dunno where the kh is out here etc etc.

  i don't know why jws treat the memorial like it's christmas.

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  Daughter! :D

  I can't make myself walk into the building either. Just listening to all that drivel would make me want to scream lol

  I do understand how all this makes my mum feel which is why I am in a predicament, but it starts out with attending the memorials... then they coerce you to attend the conventions and assemblies... and then it's just a matter of time before you're badgered into attending everything again
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  JW christmas is just round the corner... ugh!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yeah so the memorial is getting closer.. and even though my mum knows i am not attending the meetings, she keeps staying i should at least attend the memorial.... coz it's like special.. no idea how to get myself out of it.

  everytime she brings up the topic over the phone, i just mumble and say stuff like, yeah but i finish work late... i dunno where the kh is out here etc etc.

  i don't know why jws treat the memorial like it's christmas.

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  It is a very boring wake that's for sure.

  Every year you have to listen to the same cut out speech with a few words changed in between lol
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  JW christmas is just round the corner... ugh!

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yeah so the memorial is getting closer.. and even though my mum knows i am not attending the meetings, she keeps staying i should at least attend the memorial.... coz it's like special.. no idea how to get myself out of it.

  everytime she brings up the topic over the phone, i just mumble and say stuff like, yeah but i finish work late... i dunno where the kh is out here etc etc.

  i don't know why jws treat the memorial like it's christmas.

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  Yeah so the memorial is getting closer.

  And even though my mum knows I am not attending the meetings, she keeps staying I should AT LEAST attend the memorial.... coz it's like special.

  No idea how to get myself out of it. Everytime she brings up the topic over the phone, I just mumble and say stuff like, yeah but I finish work late... I dunno where the KH is out here etc etc. I don't know why JWs treat the memorial like it's christmas. Even if they know you don't attend any meetings you still HAVE to attend this one... coz it's SO special. And everyone gets dressed in their finest party wear. The congregation back in Kuwait would organise snacks and sometimes even food for like a small buffet.

  They really do feel left out at not having any 'festivals' to celebrate right? Gosh, I have no idea how to squirm out of this one
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  I can't help but feel bad about it all.

  by MisfitMeL in

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  2. friends

  ok so i travelled home last weekend to break the news to my mum about my engagement to a 'wordly' man.. to be honest, i chickened out and instead of confronting her face to face, i decided to write a long letter to her about it.. we have never really got on and she has a knack for getting on my nerves.

  she was very emotionally abusive throughout my childhood (and can still be).

  i guess she had her reasons although it doesn't excuse the behaviour.. anyway i tried to be as diplomatic as possible.

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  I'm feeling the tension y'all!!! Group hug everyone!!

  BIG SNOGS TO ALL
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  I can't help but feel bad about it all.

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok so i travelled home last weekend to break the news to my mum about my engagement to a 'wordly' man.. to be honest, i chickened out and instead of confronting her face to face, i decided to write a long letter to her about it.. we have never really got on and she has a knack for getting on my nerves.

  she was very emotionally abusive throughout my childhood (and can still be).

  i guess she had her reasons although it doesn't excuse the behaviour.. anyway i tried to be as diplomatic as possible.

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  Thank you Nugget and Wobble!

  Those are some very good suggestions and I feel a lot better knowing that things could improve, if I make sure to play the right cards. It's definitely going to be a marathon and I was impressed with mum actually taking my letter seriously and not throwing a tantrum.

  You're right though, it's very tricky while she nurses hopes that I will 'return to the flock' and probably bring hubby in tow. I do wish I could just let go and enjoy the ride as it's a great time of my life but it's darkened with all this stress and conflict. I can't wait to be back in the UK. I guess it's harder since fiance and I are apart and that makes the moral support difficult to access.

  Thanks to all for the well wishes and suggestions! I'll make sure to keep you posted

  P.S. I can't wait to give buckfast a try
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  I can't help but feel bad about it all.

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok so i travelled home last weekend to break the news to my mum about my engagement to a 'wordly' man.. to be honest, i chickened out and instead of confronting her face to face, i decided to write a long letter to her about it.. we have never really got on and she has a knack for getting on my nerves.

  she was very emotionally abusive throughout my childhood (and can still be).

  i guess she had her reasons although it doesn't excuse the behaviour.. anyway i tried to be as diplomatic as possible.

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  MisfitMeL

  I also like the way my mum talked about attending the meetings so I could CHOOSE a nice jw man. As if you CHOOSE who you fall in love with.

  More like desperately picking the least nutty one of the lot!
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  I can't help but feel bad about it all.

  by MisfitMeL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok so i travelled home last weekend to break the news to my mum about my engagement to a 'wordly' man.. to be honest, i chickened out and instead of confronting her face to face, i decided to write a long letter to her about it.. we have never really got on and she has a knack for getting on my nerves.

  she was very emotionally abusive throughout my childhood (and can still be).

  i guess she had her reasons although it doesn't excuse the behaviour.. anyway i tried to be as diplomatic as possible.

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  MisfitMeL

  Yes I am very happy on one level, but sad too. I know I can't please everyone and I certainly can't please my mum all the time. I'm sure no matter what I do, it will never be good enough from her viewpoint.

  I hope she will come around to the reality of it all though.

  The sisters finding good brothers bit is funny to me too! As if all the men there are so fab and amazing that we women could have our pick of any one and live in marital bliss for eternity lol

  Just thinking about some of the 'eligible bachelors' in the congregations makes me cringe!