My advice? Flip the script.
If you're normally warm and loving, be cold and distant. If you normally help out around the house, let it slide... especially if she's too busy with meetings to do her fair share. Make sure you have your own things going on and let her see you having a good time doing them.
Sometimes you have to knock people off their pedestal on occasion to get them to appreciate you.
Reward the behavior in her that you want to see.
It may sound cruel but it is effective.