You've admitted that you can't imagine doing more to be a better husband and yet she still takes you for granted. Which is why I gave the advice I did. The definition of insanity is to do the same things over and expect a different result. The time to love bomb her is when she does non-JW activities with you. Just prior to meeting time call her and tell her you're at her favorite restaurant and you have a romantic evening planned. Let her see that she has a choice between sitting like a bump on a log for two hours listening to tired nonsense or the time of her life with her husband.
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Setback
by EdenOne ini saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.
i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.
then she decided she would attend the memorial.
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by EdenOne ini saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.
i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.
then she decided she would attend the memorial.
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Your first impulse would be to be warm, which is fine when the cult does turn cold. But my point is that by being cold it causes her to think twice about taking you for granted, giving her insecurity that you might not always be around and that her actions have consequences.
And it appears to me that those are precisely the things that she needs to think twice about right now.
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by EdenOne ini saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.
i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.
then she decided she would attend the memorial.
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My advice? Flip the script.
If you're normally warm and loving, be cold and distant. If you normally help out around the house, let it slide... especially if she's too busy with meetings to do her fair share. Make sure you have your own things going on and let her see you having a good time doing them.
Sometimes you have to knock people off their pedestal on occasion to get them to appreciate you.
Reward the behavior in her that you want to see.
It may sound cruel but it is effective.
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Science still doesn't have the answers on how life first appeared
by EndofMysteries insince so many athiests in this thread, and since i'm going to college, i was curious if what i would learn in biology would change my thoughts and show that life clearly and easily spontaneously happened.
just looking up the origins of dna or rna there is nothing conclusive.
for example, scientists today are able to manipulate life.
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Science still doesn't have the answers on how life first appeared
by EndofMysteries insince so many athiests in this thread, and since i'm going to college, i was curious if what i would learn in biology would change my thoughts and show that life clearly and easily spontaneously happened.
just looking up the origins of dna or rna there is nothing conclusive.
for example, scientists today are able to manipulate life.
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What will the JW religion be like in 2015?
by JimmyPage inover 100 years into the reign of christ and six more years of damage from the internet.
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what do you envision?.
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Well, here we are!
Bump.
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WTF... what happened? or - I'm old and hate change
by undercover ini leave you people alone for one holiday, and you go and change the whole dern place around.
i can't find anything, don't recognize anything, i'm lost... wait, i sound like my grandfather... .
why, would you look what you've done to the place.
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who hates the change. For the record, I'm under 50. What I miss the most is seeing so many thread titles at once. Now I see two or three and have to scroll down to see maybe two more. Not a fan. -
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New website headers redundant
by JimmyPage ini can't be the only one who finds the new headers on the website redundant and confusing.
seriously, one says "jehovah's witnesses: discuss anything watchtower or jw.org related" and the next one says "watchtower/jw.org: discuss anything watchtower or jw.org specific".
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Pope Francis: All dogs go to heaven
by NewYork44M ini always wonders, and now i know.
thank you pope francis.. http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/12/world/europe/dogs-in-heaven-pope-leaves-pearly-gate-open-.html?action=click&contentcollection=sunday%20book%20review&module=mostemailed&version=fullion=marginalia&src=me&pgtype=article.
does this include the dogs that end up on the dinner table in some cultures?
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Every time the pope says something like this I can't help but think he's really an atheist having fun trolling the world.