Posts by jonie

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Sex and JWs I want to know what you think "he played the God Card"

by jonie in

i was a jw but left about 8 years ago, my husband wanted to go back so we have tried, i did not do so good.

being gone so long just helped me realize this is totally false, i look at the jws as lambs being lead to their deaths.. fast forward to now, we are both in our 40s and i have had medical side effects from using birth control and other meds as birth control.

my body can not take anymore, i have suffered breast cyst and uterus cyst, so i asked my husband who has an issue with using condoms because he does not reach a climax, and has to masturbate, to use something that would offer us a permanent result such as him getting a vasectomy.. his reaction is like why i feel even more strongly that jws are wrong.

jonie

It has been a difficult Marriage to say the least, but me getting my tubes tied is not so simple, first of my husband stopped earning an income about 2 years ago, second our Medical Insurance was cancelled about 8 months ago. Thirdly I have some medical conditions which prevent me from getting the surgery due to pushing me into menopause. I have had side effects and used hormone drugs for a while to prevent early onset of menopause. I have damaged my body for over 16 years so that we could have a sex life, personally I feel if he loved me at all it would not be an issue.

What is keeping me here well I hate to admit it but I was so troubled by all of this that I went to visit a Physic...yep I did it, what she told me was that due to all of my husbands issues growing up in an incest home and having sex so early as the age of 10, being exposed wrongly to sex has caused him to carry around a lot of guilt, it is terrible but he is really sick mentally. He really believes that Jehovah wants us to not even have sex, because of growing up with all the sexual issues and never getting any counseling our Marriage Counsler feels he brought those issues over into his adult life. Long story bareable he is sick, he carries around guilt over what happen to him and what he did to others sexually.

Well the physic says that he will die of a massive heart attack because of all of his childhood issues, of course at first I did not believe her, but then she started telling me that it is true and that I should be more concerned about getting my Home affairs in order, such as life insurance (my husband does not believe in it because of the new system coming) mortgage insurance, and the care for my boys after he is gone. Now she had my attention... she went on to add that my Husband would never listen to me because he really does not respect anything I say.

It was difficult to hear but true, I came home in tears it took me days to face my husband, and finally ask him when was the last time he had taken his meds, he told me 3 weeks ago because he did not have the money for the copayment. I was sick to my stomach I dont want my Husband to die I have always pictured him growing old with my boys like a Father should. I tried so many times to get him to take it but he does not care much about his health in general.

Then the Physic went on to tell me that it does not matter what I do he will still die, she said that I may be able to prolong it but it will happen, I feel terrible about it and finally just got the idea out of my head. I feel like I have to do what ever I can and how ever I can do it so I agreed to move back into our bedroom and work it out. Then the one time we did have sex he would not pull out, I was upset but felt ok because he agreed I could get an abortion saying it was my body. Until the test came back positive then he started treating me terrible again.

Right now I have agreed to stay with him with out sex while he goes and jacs off, he recently claimed that having a vasecomy would not only cause him to become gay but the side effects will even cause him bleeding internally and other damage to his body. As if taking Birth Control for 16 f -ing years did not cause me to bleed with extra periods and I still have low blood count.

I can not write more right now but will later.

I just wanted to know if real men thought this shit was ok?

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I need some friends

by jonie in

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i have such a difficult time living a double life, i dont hate going to meetings and seeing the friends i just know it is not real and i dont like being there.

but since i can not get my husband (who is also inactive) to just leave for good we go back from time to time.. my older son really hates it all his friends from the hall are either in jail or in a gang it was difficult to keep him in the truth because of seeing so many of his friends doing badly.

i finally allowed him to just have worldly friends and he is fine, in fact some of the jws would ask if their children could come over and spend time with my son and we were not even active.. i know i can never go back to the jws, i realize it is false but i also know that we all need to keep praying to god and i believe that god is jehovah, some people just need to do it in a building and need to belong to a place where people treat them like they are some body.

jonie

I have such a difficult time living a double life, I dont hate going to meetings and seeing the friends I just know it is not real and I dont like being there. But since I can not get my husband (who is also inactive) to just leave for good we go back from time to time.

My older Son really hates it all his friends from the Hall are either in Jail or in a Gang it was difficult to keep him in the Truth because of seeing so many of his friends doing badly. I finally allowed him to just have worldly friends and he is fine, in fact some of the JWs would ask if their children could come over and spend time with my Son and we were not even active.

I know I can never go back to the JWs, I realize it is false but I also know that we all need to keep praying to God and I believe that God is Jehovah, some people just need to do it in a building and need to belong to a place where people treat them like they are some body.

I really need people to talk to that can understand what it is like living like this.

email me [email protected]

thx

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My insane JW friend takes me to lunch...

by sooner7nc in

yesterday, i get a call at work from my old jw buddy, who btw doesn't know my true feelings on religion.

he offers to buy lunch so we go to a local burger joint, sit down, and start swapping stories like always.

we see each other once or twice a week, share many common interests, and generally get along well.

jonie

Maybe the Elders are scared of him LOL, I really think that the light is getting brighter and they are losing so many members that they have no choice getting "D" is going to be a thing of the past.

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Sex and JWs I want to know what you think "he played the God Card"

by jonie in

i was a jw but left about 8 years ago, my husband wanted to go back so we have tried, i did not do so good.

being gone so long just helped me realize this is totally false, i look at the jws as lambs being lead to their deaths.. fast forward to now, we are both in our 40s and i have had medical side effects from using birth control and other meds as birth control.

my body can not take anymore, i have suffered breast cyst and uterus cyst, so i asked my husband who has an issue with using condoms because he does not reach a climax, and has to masturbate, to use something that would offer us a permanent result such as him getting a vasectomy.. his reaction is like why i feel even more strongly that jws are wrong.

jonie

I was a JW but left about 8 years ago, my Husband wanted to go back so we have tried, I did not do so good. Being gone so long just helped me realize this is totally false, I look at the JWs as lambs being lead to their deaths.

Fast forward to now, we are both in our 40s and I have had medical side effects from using birth control and other meds as birth control. My body can not take anymore, I have suffered breast cyst and uterus cyst, so I asked my Husband who has an issue with using condoms because he does not reach a climax, and has to masturbate, to use something that would offer us a permanent result such as him getting a vasectomy.

His reaction is like why I feel even more strongly that JWs are wrong. He believes even though many Brother's in Bethel do it and many continue to do it. The Elders told him it is a personal choice and he needs to make it. He believes it will make him Gay, because he would be changing a body part. He told me after we have been living with out sex for some 3 years now that he will never do anything to change what God Jehovah gave him to be with me but I could do what ever I wanted to my body for him.

I just wanted safe sex, I wanted to be with a person that I am not planning on cheating on, I am not going to run out and find someone else so why must we have to use birth control. I just wanted some good sex is that so wrong?

I am so sick of him and his lies to the point that I have left him several times, but we agreed to work it out for the sake of our children. I moved back into our bed room and he took it as the green light, so we did it we had sex and I was the one who was ass out because he agreed if I become pregnant that I could get rid of it, until the test came back positive.

Needless to say I felt like he was trapping me yet again, claiming he made a mistake. I have since realized it is over and I am making my plans to leave and just live in different States. I know my Husband has menially issues, but I am just getting tired of having to live with a man sleep with a man that I can not touch. I want to know what other men think about this issue?

Why would a God want a many to masturbate himself rather then be with the Wife he claims to love. Why would any person believe in such sickness?