Thank you all very much for replying to my post, and for all the encouragement and kind words you have expressed.
My wife is still hesitant to sever all ties to the people in the org completely. I keep telling her, "why don't you just tell them exactly what you think and feel, and get it over with? If they disfellowship you, isn't that what you want after all? Wouldn't you be proud to finally be expunged from these mind-control leeches once and for all? " I, myself, would consider being cast out from this cult an honor, a mark of accomplishment. She says, "the Bible says, 'be peaceful with all men' (ROMANS: 12:18)", and "'do not let yourself be conquered by the evil, but keep conquering the evil with the good' (ROMANS: 12:21)"
I say, "well, you don't have to be mean or hostile when you explain to them how you feel (although it wouldn't hurt to show your own hurt), just tell them matter-of-fact." She feels that she is giving a witness to them when they come to her door, by challenging them with her new found knowledge and courage. But I keep telling her that it's like talking to a brick wall, it's like water off a duck's back to them. They don't listen. They just listen to that programmed little routine of theirs, inculcated by their masters. Those little automatons just shrugg it off as her being won over by satan, or "babylon the Great," or whatever, and that's that! You can't argue with those little minds.
So much for their knowlegde of the Bible, one of the elders came to our door, quoted one of the scriptures wrong, and my wife had to correct him. He replied that he couldn't find that scripture, even though he had the Bible with him, but didn't bother to look. If she was still in the Borg, she would probably have been reprimanded or whatever, for being disrespectfull to an elder or some such. Probably would of sent her off the deep end again. And this from an elder whom the Watchtower society claims are so knowledgeable, and just recently classified them as part of the "royal priesthood class", or some such. And all because he's a man, and she's a woman. Too much!
As for my mother, they got her when she was in a very bad way, a couple of years after my father died in a boating accident. She was very alone in this country and couldn't speak the language very well.
She is very aware of their faults, and was probably a few times close to quitting. Whenever I tell her some new shocking revelation regarding this org, such as the child-abuse thing, she goes, "oh really," in a matter-of-fact way, as if it just doesn't surprise her anymore. But she's fallen into a routine now, and it will probably be very hard to get her to quit. She has all (or most) of her freinds there, and she goes to their weddings, baby showers, gossiping on the phone (aren't they not supposed to do that?) etc.; it provides her with a community of people for whom to associate with, and she's relatively satisfied with that. So I don't know what to do about her, because I can't provide a substitute for these. I figure she will probably go to her grave still mired in this parasitic CULT! Kinda sad in a way, but on the other hand she does have a lot of friends there. But are they really her friends, I wonder?
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by ex_Watchtowerite_hubby ini am not a current, nor former member of the jw's, but my wife was one for four years.
also, my mom has been one for over 20 years.
i did attend several meetings with her, and prompty fell asleep each time.
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by ex_Watchtowerite_hubby ini am not a current, nor former member of the jw's, but my wife was one for four years.
also, my mom has been one for over 20 years.
i did attend several meetings with her, and prompty fell asleep each time.
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Hello, I'm a new member.
I am not a current, nor former member of the JW's, but my wife was one for four years. Also, my mom has been one for over 20 years. I did attend several meetings with her, and prompty fell asleep each time. My wife was mortified at the time, because she thought I might have started snoring (I'm a snorer).
My wife is too shy to post on here yet, but this is her story:
She became ensnared in this cult four years ago because she was depressed and wanted meaning in her life. In a relatively short time, however, she became dissilusioned with these people due to all the contradictions, and just the general bad and condescending behaviour of a large majority of these people. Things like mind control, inflicting guilt, non-scriptural policies, etc. I won't go into all the myriad number of shortcomings of this org, since they have all pretty much been described and elaborated upon in great detail already by you good people.
Anyway, the situation got so bad that she was hospitalized 3 times with major depression. All of this was caused by their unrelenting mind control, uncompromising policies, putting her down, and belittling her for her imperfections and not being as perfect to their doctrines as they (elders) expected her to be.
The last time she was hospitalized, the police decided to take her away because she was going all haywire and calling them (the police) satan and a bunch of other crazy stuff.
I am glad to say that she is now in full health (mentally), after having definitively broken her bonds to this cult. But it was not an overnight thing. She started by questioning the watchtower policies by researching the Bible herself, and picking out contradictions. But yet she still considered herself a JW. I then encouraged her to surf the internet for info on this org(WT). And that's where her break with this organization had its final break. And it's all due to websites like this one that did it! So thank you very much for exposing the real truth about the 'truth' of the WT society. If it wasn't for the internet, I don't know what would have transpired. She probably would never have gone to the library to look things up on this cult. So I am very grateful for this website and others like it.
Now, if only I could get my mom away from this life-sucking slave life of being a Watchtowerite!!? Alas, she is probably too old now (mid-sixties) to change her ways. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do? She is not altogether a WT fanatic and sees that there are many things wrong with this org; she especially chafes under all the demands the org places upon her time and her aging body - she says that if the "new system" is going to be like this (meaning the demands of the current org), then we're all wretched.
My wife still considers herself a Jehovah God witness, but not a Watchtower witness.