When I endured abuse as a child, I don't think the following two choices are why it happened, or what the Bible teaches, religion maybe says it teaches this, but again, it is through the lens of a man.
The Bible has attempted two explanations which have overlapped in scripture.
1.God rewards faithfulness and punishes wickedness. Consequently, when we suffer we DESERVE IT. This means ALL suffering is what we deserve.
2.God is opposed by Satan and it is the adversary who makes us suffer evil (with God's permission). This means suffering allows humans a way of supporting the heavenly Gipper by refusing to blame God (directly) and praising him only.
I also feel that narrowing down the possibilities to the following three is shortsighted.
This leaves three possibilities (as far as I can see.)
1.We are all thoughts in God's mind as he rehearses the actual plan of creation and our suffering seems real to us because God's imagination is fantastically accurate! The consequence of this is that none of us have actually died or suffered YET! Let's God off the hook.
2.We are all of us deserving of whatever God wishes to allow because we are like toys made for amusement. We are loved like dolls and toy soldiers, but, we are playthings meant to be enjoyed. Our "suffering" is merely part of the spectacle. Time and space have bored angels and God for eons and we are their only form of REALITY entertainment! There is no morality/immorality in this because we are vessals made for this purpose; some for one use and others merely for destruction.
3.There was no Creator person responsible for our welfare. We became what we are by millennia of natural processes. We are our own best hope and worst enemy.
Take your choice!
Wow, what a tunnel. I choose none of the above.
Please know, I do not speak out of ignorance, but experience. Reconciling this question can heal alot of wounds, I pray we are all given that opportunity.