Wings,
However much you now try to play the sweet innocent, your UNSOLICITED private mail was patronizing, condescending and just plain rude.
The reason that the whole matter to this thread was that you sent me numerous obnoxious UNSOLICITED private emails, then announced that you were leaving the Board. I made sure that people knew what you had done, though I have never once mentioned what you wrote in your notes so please do not try to suggest that I did. If you have something to say to me, say it publicly, but drop the attitude and remember that I do not need 'counsel' from you or anybody else as to how to live my life. I am
The past couple of years this Board has turned from vehicle that imparted accurate, analaysed and useful information from which persons could make decisions, to a sort of outpatient doodling venue for those who need 'support'. This Board by definition can only supply limited and facile support. Any person with serious issues needs to have those issues seriously attended to, not rely on some stranger behind a computer screen who has never had a days training in such matters to do it for them. People need to know the difference between infomation and support. Not many seem too.
Take the example of Richie. He arrived on this Board at seventeen years of age, a bright kid with an attitude. He was 'love-bombed' and then empowered by some of the worst advice that I have ever seen meted out, by 'cuddly-clubbers' who once he had made some dire choices in life, moved on to their next victim. Do these 'supporters' actually think they helped this kid? Shame on them.
The concept of this Board was and is a good one, and in times past the discussions, debates and information that one could find here made this Board unique. I doubt that the battalion of the 'needy' that seems to have arrived the past couple of years have ever read serious posts by AlanF, Marvin Shilmer, TMS, janH, Ginny Tosken, Norm, etc. etc., but they should. After these they may find that the INFORMATION contained in them while not immediately 'supportive' was far more valuable in dealing with the emotional negativity that emerging from a cult can envelop us in. Knowledge is freedom, and that means freedom from neediness too.
One needs also to raise the issue of believability too. Over the years we have seen many people who actually recognizing the games that can be played with 'supporters', fake a personna, fake an illness, an addiction and cause havoc in peoples lives.
Be careful people. Do not expect more from this Board than it can fairly give.
HS
PS - Ooompa. I am glad that you have thought better of continuing your physical threats against me. Keep it that way.