Posts by redredrose

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Called hospice yesterday

by redredrose in

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for my mother who has alzheimers.

my husband and i made the decision over the weekend.

she is just getting weaker by the day, has no interest in food or liquid, and .

for my mother who has Alzheimers.

My husband and I made the decision over the weekend. She is just getting weaker by the day, has no interest in food or liquid, and
in the last week seems to be uncomfortable and more agitated.

I want to thank Oompa whose kind words factored into my decision.

So, I called them yesterday and they came this morning. By the afternoon liquid meds for pain had already been delivered.
Quick service, huh? They are going to be a big help by sending a nurse twice a week and sending someone else for 4 hours on Monday
and Friday, and for 2 hours on Saturday. They've already offered to get a hospital bed for her.

So, if anyone ever finds themselves in a similar condition, don't hesitate to call hospice. They are ready and willing to help.

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embarassing fs moments

by jehovahsheep in

what are some strange things that have happened to you in fs?i remember accompying a sister 20 years my senor in the door to door.she started slipping on the ice=i reached out to help her and got 2 handfulls of breast.she proceeded to hold my arm and give me this lustful look with her tongue showing.talk about uncomfortable..

redredrose

Keep in mind that I live in the South where manners are paramount. I remember a number of years ago calling on this door and small elderly lady with a sweet smile answered the door.

So I went through my small sermon and read the scripture and asked her how she felt about it. She said, still with that sweet, sweet
smile on her face, "You seem like such a sweet girl, its a pity you're going to burn in hell!".

Oh my God! She shut the door in my face, and I stood there shocked. After a while all I could do was laugh! It still puts a smile on my face.

Only in the South.

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What goals do JWS have now?

by Fisherman in

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after being the org for years and years, one becomes accustomed to jw activties, weekly meetings, assbly, etc... it becomes a habit, a routine, and something that as a jw ,you just do.

but one time jws had "spiritual goals" full time sevice, positions in the org.

do jws still have such goals ?

redredrose

Yeah, its not like it was before 1975 is it? Back then everybody was burning through their retirement money, selling everything they had to serve where the need is great... and being commended for it by the congregation and the pubs.

Of course when it was over, they had nothing and ended up struggling their whole lives AND were blamed for it by those same congregations and publications...can you say - HYPOCRISY?

Now, retirement money is no longer a dirty word, and you won't see anybody ridding themselves of their worldly property to go serve where the need is greater.

BUT, as I understand it from the posts on this board, the GB has now started another campaign against going to college. Can't they make up their freaking minds??

Again, can you say HYPOCRISY ?

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Does the JW mindset ever leave totaley leave you ?????

by karter in

i was 38 years in left 7 years i find myself still in the mindset sometimes maybe becouse wife and some family are still in but can you ever fully ''check out and leave"

redredrose

All the responses to this question are good, all have something to offer.

But what about what Oompa said? How do you adjust when you are married to someone who still buys into the JW system? Especially if you are determined to keep your marriage intact - what about new friends? While I've been inactive for several years I still use the lingo, my friends are still active JW's.

How have some of you guys manage to make new friends without upsetting your husband/wife?

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Please Share Your Favorite Cooking Recipes ! Breakfast ,Dinner

by flipper in

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as i'm getting really hungry right now reading hortensia's thread about going nowhere , i noticed people sharing food cooking recipes on it !

so i thought i'd start a thread up asking for great cooking recipes !

thanks for the idea hortensia !

redredrose

Roasted Balsamic Sweet Potatoes

Oven at 375
Cut up sweet potatoes into big chunks
Coat in olive oil to taste
Drizzle with balsamic vinegar
Salt and lots of black pepper

Roast on baking sheet for about 45 minutes or til tender and a bit caramelized ......Wonderful!

Render out the fat from a good amount of fatback
Add a mess of collards sliced thin
Add about 1/2 to 1 cup water
Onion and garlic powder to taste
Crushed red pepper to taste
Salt and black pepper

Cook 1 1/2 to 2 hours or longer if you're really Southern.........Pig Rules!
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Lets list everything that has pagan origins!!

by song19 in

i have a feeling i am going to have to explain to my jw folks why i have decided to allow my children to participate in holidays at school.

theyll probably be wondering too why i will get together with our non jw family for the holidays.. .

we know jws avoid holidays because of their pagan origins.

redredrose

A number of scholars believe that even baptism and sacred blood and wine came from the cult of Mithraism. Mithras died and was resurrected to become an intermediary between the God of Light and man.

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How many people did you "bring into the truth"?

by song19 in

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i am happy to say that i wasn't great with rvs and i never had a study.

hopefully me fluffing my way through presentations didn't plant any seeds that got watered and grew.

.

redredrose

Three. One is now out of the truth, she's okay. But the other two, now that is an ironic story. I was born in the truth but when I was 14 I just refused to go anymore. So, I found a boyfriend that I just loved and we were together for a couple of years. Then my boyfriend was a joint friend of ours (we were kind of hippies so our friendships were almost incestuous, you know, we just traded partners) and we were together for a couple of years. All this time ,I, being brainwashed, still believed that the Witnesses had the truth. This was just before 1975 and I was convinced Armageddon was coming. My friends and I all discussed it. By this time I was ready to come back so I wouldn't be destroyed. Boyfriend #2 and I had broken up, but he and boyfriend #1 ended up studying with a pioneer, wouldn't you know. So I went back and they came in all together. (Boyfriend #1 had married his live in girlfriend so they could get baptized) After all this time, I am now married to boyfriend #1 and boyfriend #2 is still our best friend,... he was even best man at our wedding...and I'M LEAVING THE TRUTH AND THEY STILL BELIEVE ITS THE TRUTH! I have to shake my head and wonder...

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Looking Back, Was Being A Witness A Worthless Experience To You?

by minimus in

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was there anything positive about being a jehovah's witness?

redredrose

I can't say it was worthless. It gave me training for public speaking and as in introvert, that training is valuable. I gained my oldest best friend there. Alot of it was painful and humiliating. Being born in and baptized at 11, this was back in the late sixties, I never really questioned it being the "Truth" until the last year or so. However I was a really rebellious child. I wanted to have friends outside the truth and in actuality I was one of those who led a double life. I remember going to the Fair when I was 14 or 15 with my worldly boyfriend (my husband now) and being caught by the CO. He forced me and my boyfriend to stay with him while he called my Father to come get me. My boyfriend is Native American and the CO said to my Father that what bothered him more than me being with a worldly boy was that he was a nigger. Can you believe that? That statement is what made my Father come over to my side, he was so angry because my parents never looked down on anybody for the color of their skin. Apparently he said a few choice words to the CO and when I told my parents that I was never going to the meetings again they didn't even really argue with me. So for the next few years I gave my folks real grief, being into all the love, drugs and rock side of life. But thats another story. I have alot of conflicting feelings about all my years in the "Truth".

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Hello to everyone!

by redredrose in

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brand new here, haven't even picked out avatar yet.

but i feel the need to reach out and touch someone (smile).

my situation is a little confusing to me, i am definitely on the way out and have been fading for quite some time, however my decision to leave has just been made very recently.

redredrose

Thank you all for the warm welcome! Thank you A@G for the beautiful pic. Right now, I'm reluctant to initiate conversation on the subject with my husband. We have had a couple of short discussions that consisted of me pointing out things that have bothered me, but my husband so far will only say that they don't make much difference to him. He did also say that I brought out a couple of good points, so I figured he needed to simmer on those for a while. Its been very encouraging to read everyone's experiences and to see the support extended by those on this board.

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Hello to everyone!

by redredrose in

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brand new here, haven't even picked out avatar yet.

but i feel the need to reach out and touch someone (smile).

my situation is a little confusing to me, i am definitely on the way out and have been fading for quite some time, however my decision to leave has just been made very recently.

redredrose

Brand new here, haven't even picked out avatar yet. But I feel the need to reach out and touch someone (smile). My situation is a little confusing to me, I am definitely on the way out and have been fading for quite some time, however my decision to leave has just been made very recently.

Nine years ago is when my story begins. I was diagnosed with cancer and given a 5 percent chance to live,(fortunately as you can see I'm still here.) So for about a year I was undergoing treatment and was very sick, sick enough not to be able to make more than a few meetings. Anyway, at about the same time my poor husband was being mistreated by the elders due to our two sons leaving the truth (they were 17 and 21). He was removed from being a ministerial servant, which he accepted readily, the problem is how it was done, very dishonestly. They were simply making an example of him at a time he was already traumatized with my illness and our younger son's rebelliousness (he was absolutely uncontrollable). He became very angry and stopped attending meetings himself. So after a year, I was better and could go back but he wasn't having any of it, he still believed with all his heart that it was the truth but he felt so betrayed after years of faithful service. At any rate I never got back to active status. So all these years we have been inactive. Mind you our friends, and we have just a handfull, are still active publishers, so we never suffered too much in that way.

Just recently though, I have started doubting a number of doctrinal changes and have pretty much feel like we've all been deceived. I'm not angry, but I am through with the "Truth". This is huge for me as I am 4th generation Witness and most of my family are Witnesses. My mother has Alzheimers and is not really cognizant, a fact I am very glad for.

The biggest problem is that my husband still feels like it is the Truth. I had never voiced my doubts to him because I was afraid of how he would feel about it, but a couple of weeks ago we ran into an old friend who also feels very deceived, and I just couldn't help but agree with him. Much to my relief, my wonderful husband did not get upset. He told me that if I need to prove or disprove it to myself to just do it. He actually laughed and said that he never dreamed he would be married to an apostate!

So now, I'm feeling a little isolated and its been tough to keep my mouth shut both to my husband and my best friend. But I recognize that that is what I should do. This seems to be the most active exJw forum, so I thought I might find some support here. I'd appreciate any replies.