YoYo,
I'm not disfellowshipped. Never have been, never will be.
I think I know where you're coming from, and that's probably why I don't feel the disgust toward you that some are voicing. YoYo, you're going through a very tough stage right now, one that most of us have been through: Catching a subconscious inkling that you've been believing a lie for X years, and fighting hard against what it will mean--the crumbling of your entire belief system, and probably the loss of loved ones.
I used to be a Regular Pioneer and MS, and was known as a super-spiritual brother, and all that good stuff (which means I was a pompous, arrogant, judgmental jerk) but I never railed against "apostates" more than when I was starting to have tiny nagging doubts that prayer and study wouldn't silence. My therapy was to visit sites like this one, or IRC chat forums. When I saw the debauched lives that these former brothers were leading, and the abject hatred that they had for our Loving Father and Universal Sovereign, Jehovah, I was appalled and excited at the same time. You know the feeling--being horrified at how debased former Lovers of Divine Wisdom could be, yet giddy at the prospect of seeing them destroyed when God's Mighty Day of Judgment arrived.
But a funny thing happened. I ran into more and more arguments that I couldn't refute. I found it harder to defend doctrinal inconsistancies that I, myself, was struggling with internally. Eventually (and I won't lie to you, it took a long time and was very painful, emotionally) I decided to take an honest look at all of my beliefs. The rest is history.
YoYo, if you continue visiting sites like this, and the informational sites like Randy's, I'm confident you'll one day be responding to some poor misguided JW who takes on a desperate air of superiority--making a point of finding out who's DFd so he can make sure not to respond to them--as a last-ditch effort to prove to himself that the questions that keep him awake at night don't mean he's spiritually weak. Just go easy on the guy, will ya? Remember that he's no different than you were way back when; he won't listen to your arguments--no matter how logical--until he's ready.
Hmmm