Posts by QuestioningEverything

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What are the outrageous things did the elders do to you?

by asilentone in

this is a true story, more than 10 years ago, i went to the memorial and there was a very hot bible student female.

we met each other, she gave me her phone number.

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QuestioningEverything

My dad, who wasn't baptised, didn't really want much to do with the witnesses but went to the hall with my mom to make her happy. He hadn't been to the hall in a while 'cause he was working mandatory overtime at work(General Motors). With some of the extra money, he bought a new TV. When the elder and his wife who had been 'mentoring' our family came over, they were furious.

The elder said to my dad, "Tom, we haven't see you lately," My dad replied that he had been working mandatory overtime(this was the early 80's when GM had it going on.) The elder said, "Well, it's more important to go to the meetings than work OT-even if it's mandatory. I see you've bought a new televison. That was a stupid, wasteful purchase." His wife made the comment that they didn't even have a tv at their house. My dad went off on the elder-told him it was none of his business how he spent his money or what his work schedule was, was this elder going to pay his bills, etc, etc..!!! The elder and his wife were very quiet and left shortly after.

My dad never went regularly to the meetings after that. He would go to the Memorial but that's it. I wish he would have forbidden all of us to go.

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Who is Going to Cedar Point Apostafest this Summer?

by jamiebowers in

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friends

i am soooooooo excited!

this is only 100 miles from my house, and i'm going!

it will be historic!!!!!!!!!!!.

QuestioningEverything

Me and my husband are planning on attending. I'm looking forward to it.

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PARENTING AS A XBORG ORG .........HOW DIFF IS IT FOR YOU?

by freewilly01 in

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i am a proud parent of a great kid..........fortunately raised as a non jw .. i could see at an early age that manipulation and control just wasn't working for me as a parent.. i remember calling at a door years ago ( i can still remeber the exact door and neighbourhood, so it left quite the impression on me) the householder said simply : thats just wrong to bring your child with you they are way too young to be brought into a religious debate and to take sides on issues like this , where's your head at?

i remember thinking whew where is my head at?.

then i recalled that friends of ours in a local congregation where chastised by an overly aggressive judgemental elder, one of those who didn't allow their kids to watch tv or wear any clothing that might be construed as worldly.. he accused our friends 14 yr old daughter of looking like a prostitute because her skirt was two inches above her knee.

QuestioningEverything

My parenting as an ExJW is much more logical. It was hard to explain about Holidays and bday parties, not playing sports or going to college. When my 17y son asks why me and his dad didn't go to college, we tell him the JW's reasons why and he just looks at us like we are crazy.

I am more relaxed as a parent than my mom was. Sometimes, it's difficult to talk to your kid about birth control or drugs, etc, but I feel good in telling them the practical stuff and not the 'dub' stuff. Just say no doesn't work for a 17y old boy with raging hormones. And I'm proud to say that my boys are good, responsible, smart, athletic young men!!

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What Are Some Ridiculous Things JWs Have Said?

by minimus in

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....either in publications, during talks or by individual witnesses?.

QuestioningEverything

Had an elder at the KH one time say that some forms of kissing could be 'fornication'.

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Sexual abuse and how the WTS handles it - 2 issues that get confused

by Lady Lee in

the wts proudly proclaims that its 2-witness rule is sufficient to deal with cases of sexual abuse.

and internally they would have the right to hold to that policy.. but they fail to separate the internal handling of the case with the external -- going to the authorities.

the wts uses it 2 things to stop jws from going outside the congregation.. they believe their policy is higher than the world's policies on dealing with the abuse.

QuestioningEverything

Excellent Post!!! Thank you.

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Is it time to move on from this board?

by John Doe in

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friends

i spend too much time here goofing off when i should be working.

i no longer read doctrine threads or much of anything in the way of jw issues.

anyone else with similar thoughts?.

QuestioningEverything

I find this board therapeutic. When I first left the WTBS, I was obsessed with JWD. It really helped me to see the real truth about that organization. I would never go back. I like reading this board for the reminders as to why I left and why I am going to stay away forever from them.

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Top Ten Signs that the Elders Want to Disfellowship You

by OnTheWayOut in

10. there's two guys in suits staying all night outside your home in a four-door sedan.. 9. an elder you spoke to on the phone calls and asks you to repeat what you said the other day, but asks you to speak slowly and clearly.. 8. suddenly, jw friends stop by and ask an aweful lot of the same questions.. 7. your laptop computer was moved, left on, or is missing.. 6. you left your car unlocked, it was thoroughly searched by someone but absolutely nothing is missing including your gps which was searched too.

5. your boss asks if you are in trouble with the law or someone, stating some really polite men were asking about you and left some "tracts.".

4. someone picked up the cigarette butts around your back porch.. 3. the bartender at your favorite nightspot asks if you have ever before seen the guys in the corner booth that have been ordering "cokes" all evening and pulling out a camera everytime you order a beer.. 2. you receive registered mail and you already served on a jury this year.. 1. your jw mother who finally had accepted that you will never go back starts begging you to either go back to the kingdom hall or move with no forwarding address..

QuestioningEverything

Seems like you are right on que with the signs. Is this happening to you?

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Don't give up

by wheelwithinwheel in

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friends

im a longtime fader.

a fellow i work with is married to a dfd sister who had divorced her jw husband.

a couple of weeks ago this work companion came to me visibly quite uncomfortable and said he needed to talk.

QuestioningEverything

I am happy to hear that the son went to visit his mom. Hopefully, this is just the beginning of their 'renewed' relationship.

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Millions Finally Living Convention for exJWs!!!!

by boolatte in

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friends

i want to invite all of you to the 2010 'millions finally living' convention!

it will be held in aug. of 2010 at cedar point, oh where rutherford declared "millions now living will never die".. it will be a non-religious event to promote healing and a positive life after surviving affiliation with jws.

the website is under construction ...so bookmark the site!

QuestioningEverything

I am so excited about this and looking forward to it. Cedar Point isn't that far from me. Look forward to meeting all of you.

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To Ex-JWs: Do You Regret Learning it Was a Lie?

by leavingwt in

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friends

this question was inspired by a question on another thread.

to the ex-jw community here,.

do any of you regret learning that wt is not god's organization?

QuestioningEverything

Initially, it was devastating but the more I learned about their lies, the more free I became. I have no regrets since learning the 'real' truth about them.