Wow an excellent story you have a talent for writing keep it up. I could relate to some parts of your story i always felt terrified of death as a child growing up in the so called truth.
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Whadya think? Is this a good "read"?
by ESTEE inhere is an excerpt from my book .
currently in editing.
this was the hardest chapter to write, since it has some technical explanations.. whadya think?.
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Whadya think? Is this a good "read"?
by ESTEE inhere is an excerpt from my book .
currently in editing.
this was the hardest chapter to write, since it has some technical explanations.. whadya think?.
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very good i could relate to some aspects of the story. I always felt that death was just around the cornor for me as a child growing up in the so called truth. It saddens me how your dad was. Good job and hope you get it published.
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The Efficacy of JWs Shunning (Your experiences and analysis)
by JW_Researcher inim doing a bit of research for an academic paper on shunning and am interested in your response to any or all of these questions.. please think back to when you were a jw (if necessary) or to other jws you knew.. 1) does shunning work?
(for example, does it bring sinners to their senses?
does it keep the congregation clean?
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I agree that if most of your family are jws then you are more likely to come back. Although or me this ha not been the case. I have no family members that are on the outside and i lost most of my friends that i grew up. However, i have been able to start a new life i have been dfed for over ten years. My family has little to no contact with me or my children. Shunning is a scare tactic that the WBTS uses very well. Their are those that go back after experiencing this treatment. I know of a person who went back only to be dfed two more times she eventually left and has stayed out for eight years. I tried going back around two years after i left. I went to the meetings sat in the back and left before the meetings finished. I did this for a month before i realised that i could not get over the resentment and could not swallow the bull they were feeding me. I tell people who are leaving that it is hard to leave it is not easy building a new life when your whole life is wrapped up with the jws. Just give it time,get help and get out there and meet new people. I think many people go back because they dont give them selves enough time to adjust, seek out help to deal with depression anger ect, and dont go out and make new friends and relationships.
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Could we sue the WTS?
by nbernat inis there any extent of the law which we could sue the society for taking our time, brainwashing us and tearing apart our families?
or would that just be pushing it?.
i ask because the attorney who prosecuted jfk's murderer came out with a book outlining a case against bush for murder which is pretty far-fetched yet convincing.
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I agree that the probability of suing and wining is not good. However, i sure wish i could. The way i see it in my case i did not choose to be a wittness. I was born a jw all my family members for the last three generations were jws. Although i did make the decision to get babtized i was too young to know what i was getting myself into. However, i know this probably would not stand up in court.
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The Efficacy of JWs Shunning (Your experiences and analysis)
by JW_Researcher inim doing a bit of research for an academic paper on shunning and am interested in your response to any or all of these questions.. please think back to when you were a jw (if necessary) or to other jws you knew.. 1) does shunning work?
(for example, does it bring sinners to their senses?
does it keep the congregation clean?
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Hi I have been df for over ten years and all of my immediate family are still strong in the religion. For me shunning has not worked. Although i have and still do face periods of depression i have found a new life for my self. I do agree with the other posts that it makes it harder to stay out if you most of your friends and family are in it. However, if you stick it out over time you can create a new life for yourself. I think some people dont give it enough time or put enough work into rebuilding their lives. Disfellowshiping is a scare tactic that the organization uses and alot of time it does work. This practice has destroyed so many lives it is such a shame that it is still being used. Although i have managed to rebuild my life on the outside there was a time when i did try to go back. I went through the process but was never able to get over my resentfulness. For me shunning backfired.
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The Efficacy of JWs Shunning (Your experiences and analysis)
by JW_Researcher inim doing a bit of research for an academic paper on shunning and am interested in your response to any or all of these questions.. please think back to when you were a jw (if necessary) or to other jws you knew.. 1) does shunning work?
(for example, does it bring sinners to their senses?
does it keep the congregation clean?
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Hi I have been df for over ten years and all of my immediate family are still strong in the religion. For me shunning has not worked. Although i have and still do face periods of depression i have found a new life for my self. I do agree with the other posts that it makes it harder to stay out if you most of your friends and family are in it. However, if you stick it out over time you can create a new life for yourself. I think some people dont give it enough time or put enough work into rebuilding their lives. Disfellowshiping is a scare tactic that the organization uses and alot of time it does work. This practice has destroyed so many lives it is such a shame that it is still being used. Although i have managed to rebuild my life on the outside there was a time when i did try to go back. I went through the process but was never able to get over my resentfulness. For me shunning backfired.
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Hello all
by peace inhello all i am new and have been checking this site out for a few weeks and find it informative as well as supportive.
i look forward to getting to know all of you better.
i have a problem that i hope i can get some help with.
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Hello all i am new and have been checking this site out for a few weeks and find it informative as well as supportive. I look forward to getting to know all of you better. I have a problem that i hope i can get some help with. I have been DF for over ten years left when i was a teen. I have little to no contact with my family who are all still strong in the faith. My problem is that i have three kids who have very little contact with any one from my side of the family. My eldest daughter who is seven is starting to ask questions like why we never go to see her grandparents, aunts and uncles and why they don`t come to see us. She is very sensitive and has asked me if the reason my family dosent want to come around us is because of her. I immediatly told her no but i am having trouble explaining the situation to a seven year old. I still live fairly close to many of my family members and bump into them occasionally at stores as well as other public places. They always make a point of saying hi to me and my kids (even though they will never phone us or talk to us normally) On these brief encounters my daughter gets so upset she wants to get to know her grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins but she cant. I feel so bad for her and i don`t want her to feel that it has anything to do with her. So my question is how can i explain the whole Ex Jw situation to her in an age approipate way and how can i make her feel better about herself and the situation? I would appreciate any suggestions that you have Thanks.