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  ABC's report on child abuse

  by Joyzabel in

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  nice job!

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Advertise, advertise, advertise...isn't that what they always said to do? Ha!
  
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  Will this Memorial be our last?

  by pixel in

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  2. bible

  they just put up the march km 2014 on the private website.

  most of it is same-old-same-old, with info here and there about the memorial.. somebody here might post the march km for all to see, i wont.. i just wanted to share the paragraph from page 2 q&a anticle: will you seize the opportunity?

  upcoming memorial enables us to show gratitude .

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Ha! I am 63 D@$% years old......
  
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  Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

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  i am quandry.

  i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

  but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Thanks to all for your comments.

  In my case, my husband and I were witnesses for over thirty years. We found ourselves with no friends when we had thought hundreds were. It is not easy to start over.

  For those who are shunned by family, I know the pain must be severe. Please know that you are valued on this forum.
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  Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

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  2. scandals

  i am quandry.

  i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

  but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  AAAAKKK I need more help!!!
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  Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

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  2. scandals

  i am quandry.

  i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

  but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Thanks so much, and welcome, Adiva.

  Do you honestly mean that you cook a meal and then stand by the table as they eat? Or must you sit somewhere else...or wait until they are through? Does your sister care for them as well?
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  Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i am quandry.

  i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

  but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  I am Quandry. I have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name. But that is not important.

  My daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen. In all that time, not one elder (or anyone else) has tried to contact her to say that they care whether she is alive or dead. We, as her parents, had told them in no uncertain terms that we did not like the way she was treated. They lied, accused her of things she didn't do, berated her, humiliated her, etc. For this, we are deemed "dangerous" and informally shunned as well. There have even been talks given alluding to us...I guess we're semi-famous. My husband was a well-liked elder for twenty years.

  At first, when all this happened, we were so disillutioned and heartbroken that we drew the drapes and could not go outside alone.

  The WTS counts on silence. They don't want "reproach on Jehovah's name" when in fact, they want to preserve their image.

  I have an opportunity to speak to a small group of women Tuesday night. I will share my story with them. Here is where the help comes in:

  Please take this opportunity to give me two or three sentences about what shunning has done to you. I wish to compile some "true-life" examples, and will distribute them along with quotes from the WT on different subjects such as what they really think of worldly people (that they will be destroyed at the big A) along with the blood stance, generation, and shunning.

  I will see how this goes, and if I can emotionally stand it. If so, I may have occasion to speak again to an even larger group.

  Thanks for your help.

  (Also, if there are any quotes from the WT you feel will be helpful, please add those. I looked on JW facts.com, as I don't have any literature any more. I burned out a shredder getting rid of them, but wish I had them now, as they would be helpful in gathering information)
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  I am a bit dissappointed

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first, let me say that this is not my first post.

  i am actually quandry.

  my avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Well, at any rate, I began posting here, with trembling hands, as Quandry in 1996.

  I have always tried to encourage ones who come here. God knows we all need it and didn't get enough at the KHall.

  I lived with guilt for never doing enough for over thirty years, even though our family always, always took our talks, cleaned the bathrooms, cleaned at the conventions, did lawn work in the hot Texas sun at Rosenburg assembly hall, etc. We had book studies in our home, service groups there, book study get-togethers, and hospitality for visiting speakers. My husband was always getting up talks, was every position at the Khall, and was often called on at all hours to "handle" things.

  After all that, my family was treated like dirt by the loving elders. The rose-colored glasses were slapped off of my face.

  I realized that I had spent the last thirty three years trying to make myself like field service, feeling bad because I did not, trying to believe that reading the WT was like a college education, when I wished I had one at a real university, and neglecting my parents because I couldn't miss meetings and service to visit them very often, and when I did, I was so smug in my knowledge of "the truth." They are both dead now so I can't tell them the happy news that I no longer am a witless.

  This forum was like therapy. I cried with many of the posters as I read horrible experiences at the hands of the organization, and cheered many on as they picked themselves up and dove into education, or hobbies, or travel, etc.

  So many here have been encouraging to me, like Mr. Flipper, one of my favorite posters. I will continue to read posts here sometimes, but I just don't want to be fleshyheaded mutant, so I guess this is kind of a good-bye.

  P.S. I am in Houston, Texas, and know Jeanniebeanz. We have talked about getting together with others on the forum. If you are in Houston, or nearby, and would like to meet-up, send me a message.

  Thanks all....Quandry
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  I am a bit dissappointed

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first, let me say that this is not my first post.

  i am actually quandry.

  my avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  Shamus 100:

  I'm in my sixties, my dear. My mother is long dead.

  I think enough has been said here. I am O.K. with your disbelief................
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  I am a bit dissappointed

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first, let me say that this is not my first post.

  i am actually quandry.

  my avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  My dear dissed:

  On your ninth post you stated:

  You are some of the finest that have ever come out of the JW's. We can only hope, more will follow your lead.

  I am deeply moved and proud of so many of you.

  I have just met you, and I like you very much.

  May you all find peace and never give up in your search for real happiness.

  That was just a few short months ago.....what happened to you deep inside?
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  I am a bit dissappointed

  by fleshyheadedmutant in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first, let me say that this is not my first post.

  i am actually quandry.

  my avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine.

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  fleshyheadedmutant

  First, let me say that this is not my first post.

  I am actually Quandry. My avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine. I hope at least some remember me.

  My husband, a former elder, joined the forum some time ago but never posted. A month or so ago, we had trouble with our computer and it had to be "reconfigured." Ever since that time, I can't log in as Quandry. Only fleshyheadedmutant's password is accepted. I am NOT computer proficient by any means, and efforts at contacting forum folks in charge have not yielded replies.

  I am not able to welcome any new ones as Quandry, so I would like to welcome all new ones as fleshy (for short). If you remember the comedy team the Makenzie brothers (Rick Moranes and ?) in the movie Strange Brew set in Canada, you will know where the name fleshyheadedmutant comes from.

  Perhaps some time in the future my computer problems can be figured out. Until then, I am dissapointed that I can't comment on any posts as Quandry, but I can still read, convey my best wishes to all, and continue to encourage everyone to keep following your dreams and goals, and move forward with life.