Posts by fleshyheadedmutant

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she passed faithful to the end to them!

by jookbeard in

just found out (second hand of course) and by someone on here that my faithful jw mum passed away within the last couple of days, dont know the exact day, and what cause, she spent the last few years living with my fanatical sister, she was 65 and survived my father by 10 years, bitter, angry and hateful till the end and never as so much enquired or asked how her 2 grandchildren ever were , they are 5 and 7!

feeling a mixture of emotions right now, they were lousy parents in all honesty, she suffered health wise so maybe its for the best, dont even know when the funeral is!

fleshyheadedmutant

So very sorry that you had to hear about it this way. D@$^ WTS.

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Need your thoughts... Again

by Garrett in

jw
friends

(sorry for any typos, i'm on my ipad) so, remember how in my last post i mentioned that i had told some of my dear friends why i decided to leave?

well, one of those friends was a girl... not just any girl, but rather, a girl that i've loved since the moment i've met her.

she used to say that she considered me her best friend and we were really close she just never really returned my feelings for her due to different circumstances i presume.. but i always felt a connection.. anyways, after telling her that i decided to leave because of multiple reasons but that the tolerance of child sex abuse was the final straw, she responded asking where i got my information and that she wanted to talk about it with me.. this feels like an opportunity for me to tell her about my findings, what do you think?

fleshyheadedmutant

excellent video of handling of abuse cases...

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I'm at a loss at how to get thru to my parents. I fear they will die before they will stop shunning me.

by cognisonance in

all i want is this: for us to be a family, to spend time together enjoying life.

i don't wish to debate about their beliefs when together.

they can remain jws for all i care.

fleshyheadedmutant

By the way, a few days ago I emailed my mom and invited her out to lunch since she works close by to me. I tell her I love her and was thinking about her.

I was wondering what would happen if you dropped by her workplace, brought donuts to the staff, introduced yourself, and just spent a minute talking to her in a nice way, saying you just wanted to say hello. Act like you have a wonderful relationship. Little tidbits like that would put subtle pressure on her through her workmates' nice comments. At the least they would start dialogue about the way they also love their children and how thankful she should be to have a wonderful child like you.

You will get nowhere by trying to go the route of questioning the WTS doctrines. However, love is a powerful emotion....doesn't the Bible condemn those who have "no natural affection?"

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ABC's report on child abuse

by Joyzabel in

nice job!

fleshyheadedmutant

Advertise, advertise, advertise...isn't that what they always said to do? Ha!

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Will this Memorial be our last?

by pixel in

they just put up the march km 2014 on the private website.

most of it is same-old-same-old, with info here and there about the memorial.. somebody here might post the march km for all to see, i wont.. i just wanted to share the paragraph from page 2 q&a anticle: will you seize the opportunity?

upcoming memorial enables us to show gratitude .

fleshyheadedmutant

Ha! I am 63 D@$% years old......

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Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

by fleshyheadedmutant in

i am quandry.

i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

fleshyheadedmutant

Thanks to all for your comments.

In my case, my husband and I were witnesses for over thirty years. We found ourselves with no friends when we had thought hundreds were. It is not easy to start over.

For those who are shunned by family, I know the pain must be severe. Please know that you are valued on this forum.

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Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

by fleshyheadedmutant in

i am quandry.

i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

fleshyheadedmutant

AAAAKKK I need more help!!!

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Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

by fleshyheadedmutant in

i am quandry.

i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

fleshyheadedmutant

Thanks so much, and welcome, Adiva.

Do you honestly mean that you cook a meal and then stand by the table as they eat? Or must you sit somewhere else...or wait until they are through? Does your sister care for them as well?

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Airing WT dirty laundry on shunning-need help

by fleshyheadedmutant in

i am quandry.

i have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name.

but that is not important.. my daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen.

fleshyheadedmutant

I am Quandry. I have been here since 1996, but can only post under my husband's name. But that is not important.

My daughter has been df'd for five years, since she was sixteen. In all that time, not one elder (or anyone else) has tried to contact her to say that they care whether she is alive or dead. We, as her parents, had told them in no uncertain terms that we did not like the way she was treated. They lied, accused her of things she didn't do, berated her, humiliated her, etc. For this, we are deemed "dangerous" and informally shunned as well. There have even been talks given alluding to us...I guess we're semi-famous. My husband was a well-liked elder for twenty years.

At first, when all this happened, we were so disillutioned and heartbroken that we drew the drapes and could not go outside alone.

The WTS counts on silence. They don't want "reproach on Jehovah's name" when in fact, they want to preserve their image.

I have an opportunity to speak to a small group of women Tuesday night. I will share my story with them. Here is where the help comes in:

Please take this opportunity to give me two or three sentences about what shunning has done to you. I wish to compile some "true-life" examples, and will distribute them along with quotes from the WT on different subjects such as what they really think of worldly people (that they will be destroyed at the big A) along with the blood stance, generation, and shunning.

I will see how this goes, and if I can emotionally stand it. If so, I may have occasion to speak again to an even larger group.

Thanks for your help.

(Also, if there are any quotes from the WT you feel will be helpful, please add those. I looked on JW facts.com, as I don't have any literature any more. I burned out a shredder getting rid of them, but wish I had them now, as they would be helpful in gathering information)

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I am a bit dissappointed

by fleshyheadedmutant in

jw
friends

first, let me say that this is not my first post.

i am actually quandry.

my avatar was a little monkey with a bottle of wine.

fleshyheadedmutant

Well, at any rate, I began posting here, with trembling hands, as Quandry in 1996.

I have always tried to encourage ones who come here. God knows we all need it and didn't get enough at the KHall.

I lived with guilt for never doing enough for over thirty years, even though our family always, always took our talks, cleaned the bathrooms, cleaned at the conventions, did lawn work in the hot Texas sun at Rosenburg assembly hall, etc. We had book studies in our home, service groups there, book study get-togethers, and hospitality for visiting speakers. My husband was always getting up talks, was every position at the Khall, and was often called on at all hours to "handle" things.

After all that, my family was treated like dirt by the loving elders. The rose-colored glasses were slapped off of my face.

I realized that I had spent the last thirty three years trying to make myself like field service, feeling bad because I did not, trying to believe that reading the WT was like a college education, when I wished I had one at a real university, and neglecting my parents because I couldn't miss meetings and service to visit them very often, and when I did, I was so smug in my knowledge of "the truth." They are both dead now so I can't tell them the happy news that I no longer am a witless.

This forum was like therapy. I cried with many of the posters as I read horrible experiences at the hands of the organization, and cheered many on as they picked themselves up and dove into education, or hobbies, or travel, etc.

So many here have been encouraging to me, like Mr. Flipper, one of my favorite posters. I will continue to read posts here sometimes, but I just don't want to be fleshyheaded mutant, so I guess this is kind of a good-bye.

P.S. I am in Houston, Texas, and know Jeanniebeanz. We have talked about getting together with others on the forum. If you are in Houston, or nearby, and would like to meet-up, send me a message.

Thanks all....Quandry