i've finally got round to joining the site (after over 2 years lurking!
i was born into jws, pioneered for 10 years (met my husband at pioneer school).
had health issues that saw me catapulted away from 'the centre of the cong' and wow what a different place that was!
Welcome! So glad you and hubbie are out together!!!!! I hope the rest of your family is not shunning you.
Isn't it wonderful to think for yourself?And also, isn't Christmas beautiful?
I so agree with always thinking you are not good enough. If you went out in service when you were sick, someone else did it blind with one leg, etc. Some of those stories were almost unbelievable.
hey all.
i hope you are all having a good day.
just a quick update on our fade.
Welcome to the forum.
So glad you and your husband are together in your fade. So many times this is not the case, and the results are tragic.
Only you and your husband can figure how to do things for the benefit of your family. I hope the grandparents do not try to prod you to return or shun you if they find out about your fade. Show them love and hope for the best!
lostwun here, i joined 2 months ago but am now just finding the courage after doing more research to formally introduce myself to the board and embrace my new beginnings as an ex-jw.
i am a second-generation jw.
i grew up with parents who are well known and very respected in many circuits.
Welcome to the forum.
My husband and I are out together, so others may have valuable advice for you on that part. I would just say to be patient. You are in a difficult situation. There is no way to just leave the JWs as we know. At this time don't say anything to anyone about your beliefs or decisions.
Hoping the best for you. Be patient with hubbie...this is uncharted territory for him, too.
well its been a while since i've posted on here but i guess i just need someone to talk to.
i've recently turned 16 and i guess life is just starting to hit me like a ton of bricks.
i'm still not sure what i want to do with my life.
I am with the others. Do talk to your parents about being lonely. See if you can take some sort of classes away from home. Maybe you could volunteer at an animal shelter or perform some other community service.Please be patient.I'll bet you are very smart...you found us, didn't you? Keep investigating more information on the computer. Do some research on subjects you'd like to know about. Go to the library. They even have places for teens, and book clubs. You can become well read. Abraham Lincoln was largely self taught, became a lawyer, and then President.
Yes, you'll be driving soon and can get about with a bit more freedom. Make some goals for your future, especially in the realm of education. Have patience. You can do it!
i always sit in the same spot, just outside starbucks in a vestibule area with a table in the air-conditioned space.
i say "always," but not today.. somebody with two laptops and a table filled with business ledgers was in "my" favorite spot!.
so, i took a tiny wooden table inside the coffee shop on a long padded bench next to 3 other identical tables.. as the clickbait banner ads like to say: "and what happened next was simply unbelievable!".
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. So they had to put on their big boy pants and get a verbal whoopin. They will live and hopefully be better for it.
You are sooo right about the heat here in Texas. It is cruel and unusual punishment to expect anyone to wear a suit jacket in service. In fact, it can be life threatening just to be out in such heat.
Yeee haw....you done good!
i just found these vidoes on youtube, maybe you have seen them already, but i thought i would share.
these canadian kids for me are courageous and inspiring.
more excellent public examples of non vitrial apostate awakening.
Thanks for providing these videos.
The couple seem well adjusted, although as they said, they have their good days and bad. How sad that their families have chosen to shun such lovely young people. Many in the world would be happy to have kids as nice as these.
https://www.revealnews.org/article/jehovahs-witnesses-cover-up-child-sex-abuse-and-oust-a-victim/.
jehovahs witnesses cover up child sex abuse and oust a victim.
topics: criminal justice / religion .
Thanks for sharing this article. The author really did an in-depth report.
Shame on the parents for siding with the molester of their daughter. They did not keep her safe, nor will they be keeping other children safe from this predator as long as they are willing to shun their daughter and embrace this jackass.
i just found this website and im so glad because for the first time in a long time i dont feel alone...i am a born in and in the last two years have been struggling because i thought that i was the problem and i was the reason for not feeling any love from and for the other pubs .i want to leave the org but have no idea how to tell my mother(who is a faithful jw).
Welcome.
Don't do anything just yet. You have plenty of time. For now, just read many posts on here and give yourself time to think.
Yes, I agree with posters that education is the most important thing. Don't do anything to jeopardize yours. If mom will pay for your college, then right now, you don't have to tell anyone anything.
I certainly do advise that if you are not baptized, don't take this step. Many people are not shunned if they are never baptized.
Please remember....you have plenty of time. Don't rush into anything. There are always repercussions to decisions.We wish you the best.
for those who know my story my hubby and i are almost a year out of the organization!
my due date is right around the corner and still no word from my hubby's family.
they are hardcore.
Congratulations on your upcoming addition to the family!
Your baby will be fortunate to have a mother and a father who care about him/her, and not a future sitting in a KHall being told that they should not get a higher education, and that their goal should be to work at Bethel or sit behind one of the new carts while people walk past them.
Please concentrate on having a happy family life in your home. So sorry about your husband's family. It's what the JWs do...and have the nerve to call it love.
i originally wrote this blog a few years ago, but yesterday a friend that is struggling to decide whether or not she will tell her family that she no longer accepts the jehovahs witness religious doctrine reminded me of it so i am re-sharing (with updates).. its not always completely freeing to come out of the closet (as an atheist in my case) and i wanted her to understand that.. i had a very strange realization recently: i dont know what its like to be someones adult child.
my parents didnt get the privilege of seeing me come of age.
i didnt get walked down the aisle when i got married.
I read your beautifully written blog, and I cry for you. I am a mother, and know that deep down your mother must be proud of you, even though she is under the immense influence of the borg.
The disturbing thing is that when your parents become older and no longer able to care for themselves, the elders will most surely view their care as your responsibility. I remember reading a very sad post from a person who had this happen to her, and by the time she became an "acceptable associate" to care for her mother, her mother was a virtual stranger.
I would say that you should never give up hope. At one time I was just as brainwashed as your mom, in the organization over thirty years, and here I am now.
In the meantime, you are a credit to your family, even though they do not recognize it.
