Posts by fleshyheadedmutant

Yes, I remember during the 70's when I first stupidly joined the JWs. I fell for this lie hook, line, and sinker. I just knew that I would never have to die.

Then, when I wanted a child, I actually felt guilty. During my pregnancy, in the summer of 1987, I was at the summer convention, and one of the main talks was "Responsible Childbearing in This Time of the End." I was thinking everyone was looking at me and thinking I was disobedient for getting pregnant. I wish I'd been smart enough to just walk out the door then.

I am 64 now. When I finally did leave, it took a while to sink in that I, too, would die just like everyone else. It was tough to deal with for awhile. That thousands could collectively believe it is hard for me now to fathom.

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LifesNotOver - Part Four

by LifesNotOver in

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so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

not a good jw mind you.

fleshyheadedmutant

Take back your life!

Even if you can't leave the organization (think Hotel Callifornia-you can check out any time you like but you can never leave) you can do things that make you happy. Have you gotten a college education? I urge you to go to your local community college and enroll. You can take classes on line or at the school, and I think you will enjoy the time immensely. I went back to school at 61 and finished my degree-loved every minute of learning.

How about hobbies? In the JWs of course, too much time was taken from the all important preaching work to do anything you'd like. Now is your chance!

Is there a women's group in your neighborhood?

Volunteering?

The list goes on.

Please do not sit home and listen to hubbie complaining. Go out and find enjoyment in life. Maybe he'll want to join YOU!

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JWs Demonstrating against the Demonstrators

by Listener in

the organization never ceases to amaze.you've got to see this video for yourself so i won't say much about it.

i wonder if this practice has been endorsed and sanctioned by the governing body and if we will see more of it in the future.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbuxbx1ktci.

fleshyheadedmutant

The JWs are loving this. It's all good-they get to shun people while claiming that this proves they have the true religion, so they feel even better about themselves.

Such a waste of everyone's time.

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JW Acumen & Education = NO VALUE IN THE REAL WORLD

by Black Man in

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having been out of the cult for a few years now, i can finally sit back and accurately access the good, bad and the ugly, especially as it relates to education and having a sense of self-worth and realizing your potential.

in my opinion, religion is a total crock, but at least in some religions there is at least some value that you can translate your experiences and education gained in such into the real world.

for example, the mormons have their own accredited university where you can obtain a degree and you can actually put that down on your resume and use it in the real world.

fleshyheadedmutant

You are so right.

I remember falling for the crazy notion that I was getting the equivalent of a college education, until I left and went to college. I loved every minute of college and realized I was really learning...not some drivel that changed, or worse yet gobbledy-gook that was unexplainable, such as the generation changes. I earned a degree and am now teaching.

My aim is to impart to children the wonderful knowledge of our world and the people in it, and a love of learning. I regret that I stifled my own pursuit of knowledge in that organization for over thirty years. I achieved my degree at 61 years of age. I have never worked so hard for something in my life, but it was completely worth it! It is my fervent hope that young people are able to "wake up" and take control of their future, and get out of the pompous, self-assuming JWs.

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here i am

by notalone in

i was a 4th gen born in.my adult children were the 5th.

my mother was one of the newly'anointed' we have all left.

i have been lurking since october.i was really too terrified someone would find out who i was and what would happen.well we are out now so here is a part of my story.

fleshyheadedmutant

Welcome to the forum.

I am so sorry to hear about your child's ordeal. Certainly, she is very well supported by her family, so should feel protected from further abuse.

At one time I would not have believed that the WTS would not immediately, upon evidence, have taken action against this person. Instead, they vilify those who dare "disturb" the congregation, and protect the perpetrator of abuse.

I hope this person is given punishment by the authorities that he deserves.

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Helped with fathers funeral, helped with arranging care for my mother - then SHUNNED again!!

by EssexBoy1 in

well i have not been on this site for ages - so long that i had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!.

anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.. parents and brother shun me.. early last year father very ill, calls me.

i arrange to visit him in hospital.

fleshyheadedmutant

So sorry to hear of the treatment given by the "godly" JWs. No doubt, your brother will need you again in the future, possibly when trouble arises with mom. My mom developed demensia, and it is hard for one person to always go to the home and talk with them about treatment. Of course, if he stated he "didn't want you there,..." then he will have the burden.

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New Here ... Just woke up

by Sevan in

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hey all, .

this is my first post.

i haven't been out in service or to a meeting in over a month.. i realize now that i've been having serious questions for years and many articles and talks have greatly disturbed me over the years.

fleshyheadedmutant

Welcome to the sweet air of freedom!

I hope that your husband joins you in the future. My husband and I were "in" for over thirty years, and he was an elder for ten, but we are out together, along with our daughter, now grown.

You are right that the disfellowshipping is not like Christ. You will read many heartbreaking accounts on this forum of people whose parents or children have shunned them for years and years.

Please know that the WT Society is like the Hotel California-you can check out any time you like but you can never leave. They will not leave your husband alone but will constantly hound him as to why you are not at meetings, etc. Family members may decide to distance themselves from you anyway.

Please keep us updated on your progress.

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13 year anniversary

by gerry in

today marks 13 years since my wife and i have stepped inside a kingdom hall.

after 29 years full on being a jw and a number of years serving as an elder then as the presiding overseer we pulled the plug.

yes 13 years ago coming home from the first day of a circuit assembly i said to my wife “that’s it i am not going back”.

fleshyheadedmutant

Aren't you glad you don't have to deal with the smirking, holier-than-thou elders anymore?

My husband and I were "in" for over thirty years, and we weren't born in, so were over 50 when we left. We went through depression and misery when we finally realized that we'd given the major years of our lives to an organization that was like a great grinding machine that uses people up and spits them out.

At least we can breathe the fresh air of freedom now!

Glad your wife is with you!

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After 50 years Zealous Service, My Elder Friends goes Inactive

by James Jack in

i asked him what happened.

he said "him and his wife lived a full theocratic life for jehovah.

doing everything the organization and the traveling brothers told them to do, like work part time, regular pioneer, serve where the need is great.

fleshyheadedmutant

Poor people.

They were the poster witness followers for so many years. Now that they can no longer serve the WTS they have found out the WTS has no use for them. They have been discarded.

So sad. At least they have each other.