ANOTHER EXPERIENCE THAT I WANTED TO SHARE: Ok, this happened to me a few years ago. I was between jobs, and I decided to use that time to auxiliary pioneer. I had never been able to do it before and I was very excited. Well, about 2 weeks into the month, I ended up getting a wicked case of pneumonia. If anyone here has had pneumonia, you know what I was going through. So of course, I was down and out for the rest of the month. I was too sick to leave my bed, much less go out in the freezing cold weather for hours a day. I missed about 3 weeks of meetings because I was just entirely too sick. My husband called the service overseer and explained the situation and that I wouldn't be able to make my time. He seemed cool with it, very "caring." When I finally got back to the meeting, this brother (the service overseer) approaches me. Did he ask how I was feeling? NO! Did he ask how he could help me out? NO! Do you know what the first words out of this mouth were? He said "I hope you don't plan on signing up to pioneer again, because not making your time is disgusting!" I was SHOCKED!! I just stood their in disbelief, with a range of emotions swelling up at the same time. I was hurt, and at the same time angry....By the way, this same brother also told my best friend (at the time) that she needed to "push back from the dinner table" because he thought she was getting too fat. This girl could be a supermodel! I guess he just enjoys tearing people down.
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So now I'm disgusting? What?
by heybaby inanother experience that i wanted to share: ok, this happened to me a few years ago.
i was between jobs, and i decided to use that time to auxiliary pioneer.
i had never been able to do it before and i was very excited.
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post - df experience
by Solace1998 init was a shock to many when i was df'ed -- .
but i found afterwards, many did not want to obey the arrangement... one sister cornered me at a local supermarket, and made sure everything was okay with me, and if i ever needed someone to talk to, that she and her hubby were available... .
there is more to this, but another sister i worked with was quite ardent about talking to me about much more than just work .
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I would have helped you push your car!! :)
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The Watchtower Organization - A Toxic Parental Figure
by Jeremy C inalmost everyone who leaves the watchtower organization acknowledges the fact that the jehovahs witnesses leadership is quite masterful when it comes to using guilt as a means of motivation and coercion.
throughout the watchtower articles, convention talks, and talks given by traveling overseers, there are often statements woven into the material that are designed to evoke feelings of guilt in those who are not robotically falling in line with all organizational programs and group-think.
in addition to the many cliches, buzzwords, and catch-phrases used in watchtower material, the organization also makes comparisons between the field service activities of witnesses in one part of the world to another part of the world.
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For those who care for an update
by heybaby ini am still new to this board, but i have been reading so many posts and i am learning and lot and feeling so refreshed.
i am amazed at some of the information i have been finding out about the history of the wts and the governing body!!
yesterday i listened to the mp3 of rick and laverne townsend's jc meeting.
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Hello to everyone. I am still new to this board, but I have been reading so many posts and I am learning and lot and feeling so refreshed. I am amazed at some of the information I have been finding out about the history of the WTS and the governing body!!
Yesterday I listened to the MP3 of Rick and Laverne Townsend's JC meeting. Talk about helpful!! Those elders' comments and "rebuttals" were so ridiculous and fell short of anything that even remotely resembled a coherent response. Anyway, so like I said in my other posts, raised as a JW, wife of MS for the past 6.5 years (he recently stepped down - read my first post to see why) and I have been having doubts for quite some time. My husband is still feeling loyalty to the organization, so I know I need to tread softly.
I am just amazed at the fact that the beliefs we have based our entire LIVES around have been wrong. It's amazing. Anyway, this is just a rambling post, so I'll wrap it up. If anyone wants to send me a private message, please do. I would love to get to know more people, but for obvious reasons, I feel it's better (at least for the time being) to keep some of the deeper things more private for a while. You never know who is on these forums looking for "apostates." HAHAHAHA!!!!
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What JW teaching did you find hardest to defend??
by karter infor me it was that god is killing billions of people just to prove a point.
what about you?
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Birthdays for sure! The whole concept of not celebrating life to me is insane. Jehovah is the giver of life, and certainly he rejoices in the life of his creation right?!
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Happiness
by heybaby insomething always bothered me growing up as a witness.
we were always taught that people in the "world" couldn't possibly be happy because they didn't have the "truth.
" this always bothered me.
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ANOTHER EXPERIENCE THAT I WANTED TO SHARE: Ok, this happened to me a few years ago. I was between jobs, and I decided to use that time to auxiliary pioneer. I had never been able to do it before and I was very excited. Well, about 2 weeks into the month, I ended up getting a wicked case of pneumonia. If anyone here has had pneumonia, you know what I was going through. So of course, I was down and out for the rest of the month. I was too sick to leave my bed, much less go out in the freezing cold weather for hours a day. I missed about 3 weeks of meetings because I was just entirely too sick. My husband called the service overseer and explained the situation and that I wouldn't be able to make my time. He seemed cool with it, very "caring." When I finally got back to the meeting, this brother (the service overseer) approaches me. Did he ask how I was feeling? NO! Did he ask how he could help me out? NO! Do you know what the first words out of this mouth were? He said "I hope you don't plan on signing up to pioneer again, because not making your time is disgusting!" I was SHOCKED!! I just stood their in disbelief, with a range of emotions swelling up at the same time. I was hurt, and at the same time angry....By the way, this same brother also told my best friend (at the time) that she needed to "push back from the dinner table" because he thought she was getting too fat. This girl could be a supermodel! I guess he just enjoys tearing people down.
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I feel like I'm being pushed away
by heybaby inok, so here's my story as it stands right now.
my husband and i have been married for 6 1/2 years.
about 2 weeks after we were married, he was appointed as a ministerial servant.
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I wish we could move. There are a few problems though. My husband is not 100% convinced yet. I am, but he's still hanging out, although not as hard.
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Happiness
by heybaby insomething always bothered me growing up as a witness.
we were always taught that people in the "world" couldn't possibly be happy because they didn't have the "truth.
" this always bothered me.
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Ok, so I have only put 2 posts on here, since I'm so new. You may want to read them first to get a little background on me. :) Anyway, let me say that I am feeling so enlightened and refreshed. I feel like there are people who understand me (the ones in this forum). Let me say, I have always wanted to celebrate birthdays and Christmas. I think it's absurd that because 2 birthdays mentioned in the Bible turned out badly, that this means we're not supposed to celebrate them. The fact that the birthdays were mentioned may have been just so the reader can get a clearer picture of the scene being described, not to say that birthdays are bad. Sorry....getting off track. At any rate, I want to celebrate holidays. Damn if it's "Wrong", I want to do it! Do any Ex-JWs celebrate holidays?
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I feel like I'm being pushed away
by heybaby inok, so here's my story as it stands right now.
my husband and i have been married for 6 1/2 years.
about 2 weeks after we were married, he was appointed as a ministerial servant.
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It's great to know we are not alone!
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Happiness
by heybaby insomething always bothered me growing up as a witness.
we were always taught that people in the "world" couldn't possibly be happy because they didn't have the "truth.
" this always bothered me.
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Something always bothered me growing up as a witness. We were always taught that people in the "world" couldn't possibly be happy because they didn't have the "truth." This ALWAYS bothered me. How can you judge whether or not someone is happy. But, being the good little witness I was, I let myself believe that. I would try to convince myself that no matter how happy "worldly" people seemed, it just couldn't be so. Now, my eyes are finally opening. I have not been so happy as I am when I am with people who aren't witnesses. They have great morals, contrary to what the society would have you believe. They believe in spending time with family and helping people. Not to say that there aren't a few bad apples in every barrel, but it's not nearly the way we have been taught that it is. Furthermore, happiness is a state of mind. Different things make people happy. Some people are happiest when they throw themselves into their families or traveling or career, etc. So how dare the WTS say that only witnesses are truly happy. As a child, I made myself mentally and physically sick praying for forgiveness for my inherited sins. You always hear that we offend Jehovah everyday, even when we don't know it. This makes me think "Give it up, no matter what you do, God's always pissed off at you." What kind of teaching is that?!