I joined JWD about 3 weeks ago and have been "lurking" for those 3 weeks.....til now. A little about me....was born into the "truth" along with 4 other siblings.None of us have anything to do with the "truth." I'm the oldest in my 30's married my H.S. sweetheart (she studied and we got dunked at the same C.A. so we could get married in a KH,what fools we were at 18 & 19) we have 2 kids togther.
We have been inactive since roughly '01 except for the annual memorial.I grew up in a SUPER dysfunctional family-do as the "truth" says not as we do mantra.My mom was df'd twice and my dad once(both are back in the Org. now) Two of my brothers married "worldly" girls,1 is engaged to one and the other has been dating his woman for 6 plus years.All these girls are really nice and caring people(except one)who I refuse to believe will be destroyed at Armageddon.
My wife's whole family are not JW's and are some of the nicest people I ever met,helped us out financially for our wedding and when I was in between jobs,helped a GREAT deal with watching the kids when my school schedule conflicted with my wife's work schedule,etc,etc,etc.However my father in law smokes and he and my mother in law gamble so they will be destroyed at Armageddon!!!!
My mom's family which I haven't spoken to in 10 plus years are the most dispicable people to society and yet their still in good standing as JW's.My mother's father(i won't even call him my grandfather)who is now deceased used to beat the livin crap out of my mom and her siblings,smoke and had several extramarital affairs on my mother's mom yet he professed to be of the anointed and partook of the emblems....C'MON.
However my dad's side of the family-my aunt's and uncle's are still in the "truth" and really helped us out when we would get beat up by our parents mentally and physically.We would spend weekends with them or just get a break from hell in our house if only for an afternoon.As my parent's got older they softened a bit and loosen the belt so that my younger siblings didn't have it so bad as me and my 31 yr old sibling had.
I cherish the relationship w/ my dad's side of the family but I was never good at leading a double life it's far too exhausting having to C.Y.A. on everything.I really started to delve into the hypocrisy of the WTB&TS with the change in the blood doctrine.
I mean we were forbidden to talk to or engage in any activity with "worldly" people,yet their stored blood is okay to transfuse fractions of into our body......WTF!!! You can't get blood fractions w/out WHOLE BLOOD "stored for medical use" from "worldly" people!! So let me get this straight....You can't store or donate your OWN blood to get fractions however you can use the blood" stored or donated for medical use" to get those fractions which if you took every fraction available would be roughly 6-8% shy of whole blood anyway.
..I really need to reevaluate the WTB&TS teachings but at the expense of losing my dad's side of the family....hmmmmmm..... a tough decision but one that's need to be addressed. I can't slave for 2 masters........................I never could...........