Great thread, all. I found this to be quite poignant...
I always see THOSE wanting to leaving the ORGANIZATION as being on a LONG QUEUE. You are on the QUEUE when it gets to your turn, you will either drop the resignation letter, fade, disfellowshipped or disassociate.
You enter the queue by deciding not to fight to maintain your status a JW in good standing, because you realize that it's not worth the effort. Or perhaps you're incapable of the indefinite...possibly infinite(?) effort required. Sometimes this calculus happens internally, and the person isn't even conscious of it.
To our PIMO Elder, if you can't leave, but for now must maintain...instead of trying to 'wake people up'...know what might be better, and actually achievable?
Just try to be that one great-guy Elder that despondent JWs need.
The guy who doesn't press Organizational hard-lines.
The guy who is just a kind, listening ear. Giving comfort when JWs feel like they can't give enough...(they can't!).
The guy who's not out looking for everything else that everyONE else is doing wrong.
The guy who sides with mercy when on a JC.
The guy who can make Organizational life a little more bearable. Surely, you can see the value in that...
You are striving to strike a very delicate balance. I wish you well...