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  chaperones

  by rockmehardplace in

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  saw a topic on dating earlier.

  made me think of chaperones.

  i always hated having someone with us when we went to do anything.

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  Chaparones are ridiculous. Especially for teens. Believe me, I know.

  I was the chaparone. I was the younger sibling and got put in the back seat and told, in no uncertain terms that if my older sister did *anything*, I was to report back to our Mother immediately.

  My sister, older and meaner, told me in no uncertain terms that she would beat the s&it out of me if I told about anything that I witnessed. And, everytime we saw what she or her boyfriends thought was another car load of young people they would order me down.

  "Head down, you fool!! They'll see you. They'll know you're with us you loser."

  Making someone else go along was awful.

  My sister recently brought it up, decades later. It still eats at her. She is still angry about it. She believes it was my fault our Mother forced me along on her JW dates. (When my sis dated worldly guys, my Mom let her go alone. No chaparone necessary. It was all a sham for the other JW families to feel better.)

  So, teenagers will find a way. Don't kid yourselfs that having another person around is going to stop them from doing what nature is calling out. I was there. I saw a lot of it. It was ugly.
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  Tramp Stamp

  by VIII in

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  anyone?

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  Anyone?
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  What is the WORST witness social function you went to and WHY?

  by creativhoney in

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  my sister called me tonight, and reminded me of this, i had forgotten.

  - there was an engagement party and the whole cong was invited.

  - the fourth of six kids, and it was in a function room with no bar.. everyone was allowed one glass of wine and no one was allowed to bring any.

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  There was a party at an Elders home just for the teen-aged crowd. The Elders daughter had one album--Beachboys Greatest Hits. It played over and over and over, all night long. I had no way to get home and home was about 10 miles and it was December.

  As the album played over and over and over on the LP, one girl, my kinda, sorta friend, Karla, started to dance. She had big boobs and all the guys were interested in watching. She stood alone in the living room doing what I now know would be a pole dance. She writhed and wiggled and danced for about 2 hours, all to the Beach Boys. By herself.

  The Sisters were hopping mad. The young Brothers were all gathered around watching Karla *dance*, and all they could do was stand in the kitchen and talk about her. Put down after put down.

  Karla was a loner, like myself. Her step-father was a weirdo and wanted to be a MS. She had a half brother and half-sister as a result. Also a full sister living with her.

  I later found out that Karla's step-dad was molesting the group of them. I had spent quite a few nights over at that house, too. Karla, her full sister and both half siblings. Sick bastard. Poor kids.

  I'll always remember that party because one of the panting young brothers got drunk and ended up DFd over it. (I had a terrible crush on him and will always remember him-can't remember his name though-- )
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  I have been gone for a couple of months - My husband passed away

  by Gram in

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  i have been awol for a while.

  i lost my husband to cancer after a long couragous battle of 5 years.

  i honored his wishes with a catholic mass.

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  I am so sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences. Having a Catholic mass in his honor was very loving, especially since he wanted it.
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  Did you know any kick A$$ sisters?

  by highdose in

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  the type that refused to cowtow to the elders, stood up for themselves etc?

  i did, i was one of them, and like all that i've known, i left..

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  My mom was when she was younger. Got her DFd. She appealed that and got it reversed. Not reinstated, reversed. She was always fighting the Elders on something. We changed KHs frequently because she was always debating *something* with them. She was on the Enemies list as far as Publishers goes.

  She is in a KH 20 miles away right now because the local hall still has the same old Elder in charge and he despises her. She'd rather switch than fight at this point.

  There were a few like her in our KH. The Elders were good at keeping them down.
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  Just was given the 'cold shoulder' by my own sister in public...

  by babygirl30 in

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  that fat, sloppy, nasty b*tch is the one person on this earth i cannot stand.

  yes...i said it... i cannot stand my own sister!

  the girl is bpd (borderline personality disorder) and so she technically is mentally ill - but it makes her a terribly vindictive and hateful person.

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  I also want to add:

  I totally believe my sister is mentally ill. She has gone to a therapist and was told she was. She denied, denied and was told that unless she was willing to get over her anger and move forward, she would never move her life on. Sis refused and the therapist told her to not come back, it was a waste of time and the taxpayers money.

  Being mentally ill and refusing medication and all help is no excuse for the behavior and the mental torment the family have to be put through. My sister has ripped our family apart and continues to do so. My mom has no idea what she is saying about her on these boards, (all in the last 6 months) and I have not said anything. How do I tell my JW mom my DFd apostate sis is wishing her dead on an EX-JW board? And saying she did everything but sexually abuse her? There is no way. But I am reading it and it is making me ill.
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  Just was given the 'cold shoulder' by my own sister in public...

  by babygirl30 in

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  that fat, sloppy, nasty b*tch is the one person on this earth i cannot stand.

  yes...i said it... i cannot stand my own sister!

  the girl is bpd (borderline personality disorder) and so she technically is mentally ill - but it makes her a terribly vindictive and hateful person.

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  I totally understand where babygirl is coming from.

  Her sister and mine could be twins. Mine does and says almost exactly the same types of stuff. My sister says the most vile, vicious things and many our about our mother--lately I've made it into her hate infused speech. Now, she has cut me off. Fine. She has cut me off numerous times. Until she needs cash. Cash is king and my mom and I have what she needs.

  Then the Nice Sis comes out. Until she gets her bills paid, then VOILA!! Another round of hate mail.

  Her latest stuff is wishing our mother dead. (This is all public record on another ex-JW board--I'll only tell people I trust which one.)

  Who, in their right friggin' mind, wishes their own mother dead? Albeit, our mom is a messed up JW, however, she is still our mother and did her best. She is in a cult and will always be. My mom is supporting my sister and her husband and has for the last 12 years.

  And Mom gets a death wish. All because the JWs messed up her life.

  Boo fucking Whoo.

  That is why babygirl and people like her (ie, ME) get to rant about our fcked sisters/brothers.
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  They "can give gifts on any day of the year"... But do they?

  by Albert Einstein in

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  how many times we had heard from jw (commenting on christmass, mothers day or bithdays) "they dont need a pecial day set to give gifts, because the can give it on any day" .... but whats your experience if you compare jw and non jw ... are they really giving?.

  my sons (7) example:.

  he has non jw grandparents: gets all kinds of gifts all the time, sweets, magazines, toys,.

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  You all said it really well, WingCommander especially so.

  We never got gifts as kids. All the reasons above.

  "Showy display"

  "Signs of materialism"

  "Gifts are temporary, Jehovah is forever"
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  Did You Have Any Weirdo JWs In Your Hall?

  by minimus in

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  in the 2 halls i was in, there were a few.

  but the most memorable one was an elderly pioneer who would ask the householder if they wanted to hear about "the truth".

  when they quite naturally said ,"no", he responded with, "if you don't believe in jesus, jesus will turn you into a pig"!.

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  I think it goes without saying that most long term JWs are weirdos. Present company not withstanding.

  Once you get the JW sucked out of you, the weirdness seems to get sucked out also. More or less. For most people.

  My grandmother was a screamer. She could only communicate by yelling about "Jehovah, Jehovah!!!!" I, as a kid, would ask her a question and her answer would be that Satan was in my soul and I was going to die at Armageddon. I told her she was crazy and ran. (She and I didn't have the bestest relationship)

  She claimed to be of the Annointed class and this old gal was so craaazzzyyy that if Jehovah wants her up there ruling with him, we are all truly damned.
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  Are There Certain Posters You Trust Here?

  by minimus in

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  i've been on this site for a number of years now.

  i don't easily trust just anybody.

  having said that, there are a few persons here that know my real identity and i'm comfortable with them.. are there certain posters that you trust here?.

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  I trust everyone I've PMd and just about everyone else. I have a gut feel about certain people I *don't* trust.