Wow.
Your childhood sounds not uncommon-for the JWs. I think growing up a JW sucks the life out of many women for some reason. I came to the conclusion not too long ago (about 2 nights ago) that my mom didn't want kids and didn't love me either. I have been reading Psychology Today articles on why women are like that to children. There are many books by PHd psychologists etc. It is sad and sickening. I am very sorry for what you went through. I feel like I've aged 20 years in the last few days.
The writer above is correct: women in particular who grow up in abusive households are prone to marry abusive men. The cards were stacked against you in that, then add in the JW factor and you were in a really terrible situation.
Again, it is incredible you survived and got out. I am happy for you that you got out of your marriage and the JWs.