Shunning is what actually opened my eyes that this wasn't "The Truth", and enforced my decision to exit the building. No way should fellow christians do this to each other. Leave the 99 and go get the 1??? Yea right.........
lonestar63
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There is no social programme in exsistance that recommends shunning as a means of rehabilitation
by jambon1 incan someone tell the wts/jw's how utterly counter productive & cruel shunning is?.
apart from serious crimes where a person might conscientiously have nothing to do with a friend/relative, people who are struggling with any kind of issues generally need love, support & kindness.. shunning is unnecessary, evil & humiliating.. does the punishment really fit the crime?
someone caves into the 'sins of the flesh' so they are cut off from all human contact with everyone they know?.
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Has there been a change on how JW's view those that have drifted away?
by lonestar63 ini wonder if an article in the wt came out telling them to reach out to those that have drifted away.
i suspect the defection has been great in the last few years, and they're trying to bring some back.
i've told my story here, how i was able to succesfully fade away along with my family, without being df'd.
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Quarterback, the witch hunt sounds more likely than actually being interested in the so called spirituality of me and my family. Twice it's been 2 brothers together, I'm assuming one or both are elders, the other 2 times it was one of the older sisters. If it wasn't for the fact that my Dad still goes to the Hall, i would send them a letter disassociating myself, and telling them to leave me alone. I've avoided being DF'd and want to continue to do so for my Dad. It's acceptable to him somehow that i faded away successfully, but i don't know how he would handle me being DF'd.
Funny, when i was still going to the Hall, i was irregular, and was basically shunned by the entire congregation, especially the elders and their friends. Now all of a sudden they are interested in me again???
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Has there been a change on how JW's view those that have drifted away?
by lonestar63 ini wonder if an article in the wt came out telling them to reach out to those that have drifted away.
i suspect the defection has been great in the last few years, and they're trying to bring some back.
i've told my story here, how i was able to succesfully fade away along with my family, without being df'd.
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I wonder if an article in the WT came out telling them to reach out to those that have drifted away. I suspect the defection has been great in the last few years, and they're trying to bring some back. I've told my story here, how i was able to succesfully fade away along with my family, without being DF'd. For years they didn't care about us, and all of a sudden we've had no less than 4 visits in the last couple of months, which we've ignored.
I'm just wondering what's spurred this????
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Update on my life since I left
by strawberry cake ini used to post here a lot a few years ago.
this forum helped me out of the organisation with my husband and 3 boys.. we are now all more or less out and very happy.. me my husband and my youngest left almost instantly we realised the lie.
my middle son gave us a little grief at first and then left when he understood what were were saying.
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lonestar63
It is indeed a blessing to be free from the cult.
My wife and i were enslaved most of our lives, and we blindly brought our children up in this screwed up mind controlling cult as well.
It is indeed wonderful to be out. We've celebrated Christmas and Thanksgiving as a family, had the joy of being together at these times, and also been blessed with a grandchild that will never know what it is like to be controlled in that manner.
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Don't post too often but need some support
by ~Jen~ inthis is my 2nd christmas after leaving the jw's.
last year there was drama surrounding the time and i never really focused on it.
this year is differant and i'm having a hard time with it.
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Mouthy, i haven't posted here in a long time, probably over a year. You were encouraging and supportive then, and i see you still are.
You are indeed a gem sweetheart, and i hope all here realize that....
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I'm so upset
by Newborn inhi friends!.
sorry, i just have to vent my frustration again over the fact that my fleshly, still a jw sister, treats me as if i'm dead, since i was df'ed.. i can't get over it.
i'm still writing her regularly.
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Sorry for the pain and anger Newborn. I hope it gets better.
Lisa, your letter was painful for me to read. Your sister was right about one thing. We each have to make our own choices in life, and you made a great choice that took a lot of courage. I'm very lucky, my wife chose to take this journey with me, neither of us are DF'd, we were allowed to fade without a lynching, and her parents, and family in general, who are a bunch of zealots, all live across the country.
I wish you the best.
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THE ELDERS JUST KNOCKED ON MY DOOR
by Mary ini was asked what i thought when i saw all the bad things going on in the world and about how close we are to the end.
i replied "jeff, i simply do not believe that it's going to happen in my life time.
" he was momentarily stunned and said "well, when have things ever been this bad before?
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Great job!!!
I don't know Mary, but if she's pretty as you all say, was it proper for an Elder to go visit an inactive hottie all alone???
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I DON'T LIKE ANYONE ON THIS BOARD ANYMORE!!!
by snowbird ini luvs you.. especially the newbies and chalam.. tee hee hee.. sylvia.
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Sylvia, i'm a newb, don't know you, but i'm starting to like you already.
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Howdy from a long time lurker
by Cadellin ingreetings all:.
i just want to say howdy and thank you .
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lonestar63
Welcome to the board Cadellin!!
Your fear is understandable. I had that same fear when i came to my crossroad. Not fear of leaving the Org, but fear my wife would refuse to take that journey with me. You and your husbands fear is the direct result of mind control at its best. I've told others here it's amazing when you look back, and realize how every aspect of your life was controlled by the Society, which is ruled by mostly old, out of touch, unmarried, childless men.
Give your husband time. Give yourself time as well. Folks on here will help you any way they can. I hope the two of you can make that journey out together. My wife and i did, and we are living life to the fullest, have never been happier in our marriage, and most importantly, we are finally free of a mind controlling cult.
She was in her entire life, i was in over 2 decades.
I wish you the best.
Lonestar
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Am I a Rebel Without a Cause?
by wobble ini suppose the first answer i will get is,"well something must have caused you",but my point is that being born in to the jw's,all my life,or rather the 58 years i was in,as soon as someone told me what to do i thought "why should i?".
i now find that,apart from rejecting nearly all jw views,i am saying to myself "should i?
" to things that people want me to do.. do you find yourself much more positive since leaving?
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Do you find yourself much more positive since leaving? I find the freedom invigourating,I can do as I damn well like,as long as my conscience is happy,and that is so different from when I was in and had to think of the other Dub.s reactions.
You made a point that most JW's don't even realize. Their more concerned with being caught by other witnesses than being observed by Jehovah. Truly sad.
I love my freedom to say the least.