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  A Question for Born-ins Who Had a Parent Leave the Cult Before They Did

  by jp1692 in

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  question: have any of you that are now exjws had a parent leave the religion before you, and you shunned them because of that?

  if so—and while you were still in the cult—what, if anything, could your parent have done to reach your heart and begin a reconciliation?

  it’s been almost ten years since i left the religion and my two sons continue to shun me and rebuff all efforts i make to reconcile.

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  former2free

  JP,

  I am the son of still totally add I did shun my parents for nearly 4 years. I’m sorry you are still going through it but as a child who did it to their parents I can only say that there has to be something that clicks in their heads. When I did it I was on the fringes for years at this point and thought I needed to start shunning to be in good standing with god. But it still never settled well with me. The fear mongering and guilt tripping is what finally made me really look deep into it. The the ARC was the final straw. Especially Geoffrey Jackson’s testimony. If there’s a was to get your children to see that I highly recommend it. Again, I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this and if there’s anything I can do to help let me know just private message me and we can exchange contact information. Take care my friend.
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  JW Phrases

  by Holden Caufield in

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  what some jw phrases that you hate?.

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  Saying before the watchtower lesson “let’s have an open discussion”
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  Service experiences

  by former2free in

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  i know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me.

  have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only i had listened to a householder?

  two things come to my mind of personal experience.

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  Hybridous

  As children we never really had a choice unless we were so rebellious that our parents gave up. Most of us did it cause we wanted to please our parents or in your case to keep the peace at home.
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  Service experiences

  by former2free in

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  i know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me.

  have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only i had listened to a householder?

  two things come to my mind of personal experience.

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  former2free

  Hey mom and everyone thanks for the comments. It sure is interesting to see how people unwittingly actually we’re trying to help us when we came to their door. And yet we were so indoctrinated we couldn’t see reason. It’s saddens me that we ever fell for that. I did cause I was raised in it other got duped. I wish I knew those couple people and go back to them now knowing what I do and thank them for even in some way getting us to even if for a second think. Even though we buried that process for many years afterward it was still a way in.
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  Service experiences

  by former2free in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me.

  have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only i had listened to a householder?

  two things come to my mind of personal experience.

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  former2free

  Desirous

  Did you ever reach out to that person or are they in the org now and you can’t talk to them or I should say they can’t talk to you?
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  Service experiences

  by former2free in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me.

  have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only i had listened to a householder?

  two things come to my mind of personal experience.

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  Snugglebunny I bet you thought that at the time there’s nothing I’d rather be doing.
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  Service experiences

  by former2free in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me.

  have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only i had listened to a householder?

  two things come to my mind of personal experience.

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  former2free

  I know what you may be thinking by the title but bear with me. Have you ever reflected on past service experiences and think wow if only I had listened to a householder? Two things come to my mind of personal experience. 1. I remember someone in service asking me a question I couldn’t answer (big surprise right)? I told them I would look it up and return. I never went back. I guess it’s that feeling you get when you know you couldn’t possibly answer it with the organization material. And please don’t ask me to remember the question he asked I don’t remember but I remember the experience.

  Another one was where someone offered me their literature and said they would take mine. Alarms going off in my head I wasn’t about to do that. Course later in life when you wake up to the real truth about the truth you know why you didn’t accept theirs.

  But I was thinking about this and just how indoctrinated I used to be and how there was no critical thinking allowed. Do any of you have any experiences that you thought of later and just how crazy it is to think back and be like how did I not see this before?
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  After watching A&E Leah Remini on Jehovah Witnesses I am going to stop hiding behind my Avatar

  by Still Totally ADD in

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  just got done watching this program and what impress me the most was the bravery of those x-witnesses to sit there on national tv and tell everyone how the wt.

  cult affected them.

  no hidden faces, no avatar names and no disguise.

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  Flipper,

  I do hope that they wake up for your sake too. Its terrible the blackmail they use against people stripping you of your dignity and humanity in anyway they can. Take care my friend.

  James
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  After watching A&E Leah Remini on Jehovah Witnesses I am going to stop hiding behind my Avatar

  by Still Totally ADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just got done watching this program and what impress me the most was the bravery of those x-witnesses to sit there on national tv and tell everyone how the wt.

  cult affected them.

  no hidden faces, no avatar names and no disguise.

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  former2free

  Disclaimer this is not a criticism it’s merely a sad fact. It’s sad that for some of us that even after leaving that there is still some measure of control they maintain and I feel sorry for the ones that can’t truly break free from every aspect. But freedom even if it has limitations is still better than being in a cult.
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  After watching A&E Leah Remini on Jehovah Witnesses I am going to stop hiding behind my Avatar

  by Still Totally ADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just got done watching this program and what impress me the most was the bravery of those x-witnesses to sit there on national tv and tell everyone how the wt.

  cult affected them.

  no hidden faces, no avatar names and no disguise.

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  former2free

  As brought out on the show the GB is really doing a lot to help people wake up by their arrogance to broadcast such ridiculous things and tout it as being normal way to live when it goes against basic human nature. For example where Garret Losche said that Jehovah is more important than people. So that tells you to not have any empathy or compassion to humanity and to just peddle what they tell you. It’s really sad how they have come to grow and deceive people and they haven’t been outed yet like they should have been.