Posts by wantstoleave

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Were you rebellious?

by God_Delusion in

when i was younger (from the moment i could reason and remember), i didn't like going to the meetings, having a weekly bible study or going out on the ministry.

in fact, i didn't like to do any "theocratic" stuff.. i would of course, get beaten up by my loving zealous pioneer mother due to my rebellious nature.. funny thing was, that even from the age of 5, i knew something was wrong with this religion (cult).

at the age of 16, i decided that i simply didn't believe in any of it, but i didn't leave as my mother threatened to make me homeless if i stopped going to the meetings.

wantstoleave

Yes, I was labelled rebellious from an early age by my parents and witnesses . I remember bucking at family studies, refusing to let mum or dad study with me, and I was all of about 8yrs old. So they fought me for a while, then decided to let me do my own pre-study. Dad had a written schedule we had to follow each night of the week after school . By 11 I was interested in boys and had a couple of boyfriends at school, though it was top secret and we never 'did' anything...lol. But the fear I had in me of my parents finding out a boy liked me was awful. My parents were very strict and at 12 when I wrote in my school book 'I love....' and mum saw it, I was hauled out of bed and yelled at. I wasn't even allowed to mention boys, or if they were good looking or anything. Dads rule was 'no boyfriends till you're of marrying age at 18'.

By 13 I had 3 piercings in each ear and tried a cigarette. I immediately confessed to my parents, who got an elder around to counsel me. I hated it even then. I also decided at that age not to be a witness, yet never told my parents and went along with it. By 16 I hated my dad teasing me with '16 never kissed', so went out and kissed 2 boys in 2 days...LOL! I then got baptised the next week . At 19 I got very drunk at a party and mum hid it from dad for me (bless her!) and had kissed several other boys..hehe. I again decided not to be a witness, told my mum and brother and they talked me out of it.

I stayed on the straight and narrow after that, but my rebellious label stuck. Had first boyfriend at 23, married and had a baby by 24. And here I am today . Mentally have left the organisation, inactive for a longgg time but no one knows my decision yet.

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What's Your Biggest Issue In Life?

by minimus in

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friends

my health is good but i do worry about how the economy affects my income.

you just never know if $$$ comes in or if business is slow.. what's your biggest worry in your life?.

wantstoleave

My main worries are my children and my health. I come from a poor family, so I've never been materialistic, just concerned with having enough to pay the bills. So money isn't a real concern. Having said that, along with so many other ex-Jws, I never thought to much to the future, retirement and how expensive children can be...lol. I thought I'd be in paradise by then, so it wasn't on my mind. But now, I DO think about needing to save money for a rainy day, hoping I can get by when I get old and making sure my kids are able to function in society.

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More Society cutbacks - Society says "screw you" to the publishers yet again

by sir82 in

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friends

at our service meeting it was announced that there is a change in the manner in which magazines are now to be delivered to the congregations.. up until now, magazines were sent to each kingdom hall via ups.

in years past magazines were sent to each congregation po's home address via ups.. going forward, magazines will be sent only as far as the assembly hall.

it is the responsibility of each kingdom hall to send brother(s) twice a month to drive out there, pick up the magazines, and return.. this of course saves a little bit of money for the society - shipping larger packages to fewer addresses will cost less.. however, what about the expense to the local congregations?.

wantstoleave

Don't know about anywhere else, but as long as I've been a witness, going on 30yrs, the brothers have always driven to the assembly hall to pick up magazines and publications.

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Can you "fornicate" with your marriage mate? I've heard the WTBTS says that you can. Is this true?

by ultrabimbo in

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is it true that the current thinking of jehovah's witnesses is that you can "fornicate" with your marriage mate if you engage in sexual activity that is not approved by the writing department at bethel?

what are some examples?.

ultrabimbo.

wantstoleave

VE - I'd love to know that article too, could you post it here for us?

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Can you "fornicate" with your marriage mate? I've heard the WTBTS says that you can. Is this true?

by ultrabimbo in

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friends

is it true that the current thinking of jehovah's witnesses is that you can "fornicate" with your marriage mate if you engage in sexual activity that is not approved by the writing department at bethel?

what are some examples?.

ultrabimbo.

wantstoleave

When I asked about oral sex in marriage (yes I was naive and wanted to do the 'right' thing), the 3 elders at my JC said to research 'oral copulation' on the WT cd and also referred to it as pornea. A while later I again asked for a more concrete answer, and the elder I spoke to said 'it is a grey area' and left it at that. So I still didn't have my answer. But they did keep saying it's unclean and likened it to homosexuality, and sod & gom.

To me, if one is a proper diehard witness, they would stay away from it, for fear of doing anything to upset Jehovah/the elders - even though a 'grey' area. Because isn't it hypocritical to do as you please as long as it's not public/congregational knowledge? If an MS or elder can have privleges removed for practicing it and it's known, than surely it's a no no in the organisation.

I'm not agreeing with the WT standpoint, because I truly think it's up to the consenting couple and it's their business, no one elses. But there is too much hypocrisy in the organisation. They can't have it both ways. Either make it a yes or a no...and don't say 'it is a grey area'.

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I'm brand new and my mind is 'tight'...please come in 'with ease.'

by Joliette in

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hello....my name is 'joliette' ...i'm a 2nd generation african american jw's (well, actually 3rd generation) my great aunts are all jehovah's witnesses.

my late grandmother was not.

i'm from milwaukee, wi.

wantstoleave

Welcome! You'll love it here!

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Got My Nose Pierced Yesterday

by Coffee House Girl in

well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.

i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.

btw i also registered to vote last week!.

wantstoleave

It was weird because my mum actually went with me when I had it done! We didn't tell my dad and it took him a week to notice..lol. When he eventually did, he said he liked it! I thought it was odd nobody called me on it either. I was still 'active' and at meetings, field service etc. Yet when I had a skirt that sat ON the knees, I was hauled in the back room. Go figure!

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Michael Jackson's love Child seeking custody of children.

by jwfacts in

the following article is from http://news.ninemsn.com.au/entertainment/7936073/jackson-estate-facing-love-child-claims .

35 year old petite jackson claims to be michael jackson's child and is seeking dna tests.

the following sentence is interesting.

wantstoleave

I can't wait for the results either!

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what was the worst advice given to you while you were a JW ?

by wasblind in

mine's was, if your job interfere with the meetings you have to decide who you will choose,.

serving jehovah or serving man, if anyone knew my needs it most definitely was jehovah.

and he knew i needed my job to eat.

wantstoleave

Hmm there are too many to list!

1. Don't finish highschool....the end is near, get a job and get married (thankfully I DID finish h/school, went to University AND worked).

2. Burn any books so and so gave to you ('worldly' people).

3. You can't wear that skirt, but bathers are fine at the beach (wth? You see MORE in a pair of bathers than in a skirt!).

4. Don't think about University, the end will be here before you complete and you could be spending time in service (I still went to Uni!).

5. No more holes in your ears!! (I still went and had that 3rd piercing).

6. Worldly men are only after sex, resist their advances (maybe if I HAD been with a 'worldly' man I would be happily married now instead of divorced from a dip wad witness!).

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Got My Nose Pierced Yesterday

by Coffee House Girl in

well since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.

i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.

btw i also registered to vote last week!.

wantstoleave

Good on you!!

I had my nose pierced with a very small gold stud while I was still an active witness many, many years ago. Not one person said anything! I eventually took it out as it didn't heal (piercings don't agree with me). I've since had the tragus done a few times, as well as navel but also had to remove for lack of healing.

When I met my ex, although a witness, he was tattooed. He insisted I get ink as well, so I have a few pieces, two of which can be hidden and no one none the wiser. I did however tell the elders and was hauled into the back room, a scripture shoved in my face and all was fine. Took all of 30 seconds!