I can relate to this. I had similar experience, none my age in the hall or ones that were had their own cliques. Wasn't allowed to associate outside of school with 'worldly' people, so friendships were limited. Looking back, I can see how it hindered my personal relationships. I have a wonderful loving family but having friends in a peer group is something children/adults need and if it isn't there, it can cause damage. If you don't have friends in the hall, or outside of school, life can become very lonely. Unfortunately it happens all the time and I see many JW kids going down the same path. It's very sad.
wantstoleave
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Being A Borg Kid
by Pig ini never became a zelouse witness, but i do remember being a borg kid.
there was no one my age at the meetings for most of my childhood.
except at one stage there was this half in half out family who had a fat annoying kid who never stopped boasting.
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Finally talked to my dad about it...
by gutted inlast night i finally talked to my dad about some of my views and problems with being a witness.
he brought it up as he heard i am no longer going to meetings.. .
his line of reasoning was interesting, though very similar to "it's god's organization, just follow it".
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wantstoleave
It is nice you were able to openly talk with your dad. He sounds like a reasonable man, so keep that line of communication open When I expressed my doubts to my dad last year, he too said similar, in not looking too closely at the details. I also asked him why THIS was God's only channel and he did his best to steer me into seeing it was. He said any organisation, whether sporting or religious, always has a higher leader, people we follow. He says he has lived in the world and there is nothing out there, that THIS is the true religion. To his credit, he didn't try to ram it down my throat. He didn't get upset with me. He tried fervently to 'help' me the only way he knew how. Unlike my mother and sister who cried uncontrollably and yelled at me
The further I get away from it, the more I believe that God doesn't need us to follow ONE way only, that good people can come from anywhere - religion or not. My brother made a good point. He told me 'religion is fear'. I wholeheartedly believe that.
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Do you smoke anything?
by asilentone ini was very disappointed in one of my friends near here.
he is df'd.
he started smoking cigs.
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wantstoleave
Not sure about other countries, but smoking in cars, while travelling with children aged 16 and under, is banned here in Australia. Big fines if you're caught. Smoking isn't allowed in public venues, or pubs and clubs either and many outdoor events have smoking banned too. I still remember the days when people could smoke walking around shopping centres. There'd be ciggie butts all over the floors, in supermarkets etc. Glad it's banned indoors but I tend to lean toward smokers being allowed to smoke wherever it isn't bothersome to other people. Though not a smoker, I believe they have rights just as much as non-smokers.
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my 6 year old walked straight past her grandma and auntie (jws)
by looloo ingrandma has not seen her for 18 months and auntie 2 years !
i was in the town at the weekend just before i went to work , my little girl was walking a few feet ahead of me and i saw her auntie come out a shop followed by grandma and i thought "oh shit" "what have we got to talk about after all this time " but fortunatley they just walked past eachother oblivious , despite grandma being so close she could have patted her on the head !
i was relieved but afterwards i thought how sad it is that a grandma cant come to visit her own grandchild and didnt even notice her (they are my disfellowshipped hubbys family .
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wantstoleave
Oh how sad Did you 6yr old realise it was Grandma? You'd think that no matter what the family feels toward you or hubby that they'd at least not take it out on innocent grandkids. So very sad. My parents would never do that to my kids. Their love for them goes far beyond what a religion mandates. Big hugs!
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Adelaide & Darwin catch up
by Mattieu inok, so my trip to perth didnt result in a catch up, though will on my next trip with hot chocolate ;-) ps, cannot believe carlton lost to fremantle :-(.
i havent booked the ticket yet, though will be visiting adelaide & darwin for work within the next few weeks.
if anyone wants to catch up for the chat/coffee/wine/green tea/lunch/dinner then please let me know!.
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wantstoleave
I would love to meet up but am scared...lol. Not really ready to 'out' myself just yet
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"You're still allowed to visit, but it will be awkward"
by TweetieBird inthat was what my husbands mom told him after she found out that we were no longer going to meetings.
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wantstoleave
I've heard the same thing before 'it would be awkward'. I often wonder what my parents response would be if I was to openly leave the organisation. I have a sibling who faded very successfully and even lives 'in sin' with his partner but my parents haven't written him off and we are all very much still a part of his life I do feel however that my leaving might not be as smooth, as I would likely not be able to fade as successfully as he has. I do not think my parents would shun me though, which I am grateful for. My heart goes out to all whose parents do follow the rules to the max.
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wantstoleave
The morning after pill is widely available in most parts of the world now, even over the counter at pharmacies here in Australia. You need to choose the option that best suits you. Like has been mentioned here already, it is not much different to taking the contraception pill, because that too makes it hard for anything to attach to the uterine wall and for sperm to even get that far. I think most morning after pills can even be taken up to 3 days after sex. There are also other pills that can be taken many weeks into a pregnancy. I watched a documentary on it not so long ago. Wishing you the best in your decision :)
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Elder got df'ed
by XPeterX inhe had relationship with a female jw of the same congo.now that they are both df'ed they are gonna get married and then get reinstated.his ex-wife will have to see the new happy family 2 times every week at the meetings.sweet.
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p.s:this is a classic one.
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wantstoleave
This happens all the time. I've seen it so often but it still makes me feel sick. The worst part is when the one who cheated marries the one he cheated with, then sits in the same KH as the ex wife. And because he's reinstated, everyone can talk to him, congratulate him on his new marriage and the poor ex wife has to suck it up and say nothing . My heart breaks for the one who did no wrong. If my ex came back parading a new wife, I am not sure how I'd react, I'd probably run away and cry .
A situation not so many years ago of a high ranking elder here who cheated on his wife with a pioneer, got reproved publicly, divorced the wife, married the new woman and all in time to see his child married in the KH. He was back serving as an elder within months of being married . To top it off, he stayed in the same congregation as his ex wife and everyone had to keep their mouths shut about what they thought of the situation, because he was an elder .
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How many times (after high school) have you fallen in love?
by UnConfused inand how far apart were they?.
thanks.
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wantstoleave
Awww Snoozy ((hugs))
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How many times (after high school) have you fallen in love?
by UnConfused inand how far apart were they?.
thanks.
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wantstoleave
Only once ever been in love...and I married him...and divorced him.