Posts by nevergonnab1

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Do mixed marriages work? What about kids?

by greenie in

i'm new and have posted something along these lines recently on another thread, but i'm wondering, do marriages between non-jws and jws work?

by "work" i mean can they be loving and happy?

and what about kids?

nevergonnab1

Yes they can work, I've never been a witness but my husband is (he's been inactive for 20 years give or take a couple of years), we have been married for 15 years and we are very happy. I can however tell you from seeing other couples in this same situation that if he does go back a lot of things will be different from the way they are now. Witnesses control every aspect of a persons life from places that you go to people that you talk to to your sex life. It's almost as if you marry one person one day and a couple of years later when they decide to go back all of the rules change. You just have to make things clear. You need to let him know that IF you marry him that you will still celebrate holidays and so will your child, that you will save your childs life by any means necessary ie. blood, and if you don't want your child to be raised a JW you need to make that very clear. In my experience the only problems we've had has been his family and them crossing boundries that have been set by us. If either of you have any doubts DO NOT GET MARRIED.

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Were your kids distressed after time with JWs?

by hamsterbait in

i am asking this as i think testimony from first hand could help people see what danger they leave their children in with jw baby sitters etc.. my friends let their 10 yr old daughter stay the weekend with her jw cousins.. when she came back she was having nightmares, bursting into tears, clingy (as her mother might be killed at armageddon before she got home from school).

and asking explicit sexual questions, (yes they had taken her to the kingdumb hell).

i am repeating this post as it disappeared the first time.

nevergonnab1

My youngest child went to stay with his grandparents over the weekend once and came home and wouldn't eat anything, wouldn't go outside, wouldn't drink anything but Kool-aid, wouldn't sleep at night, and would not leave my side because he was told that we were all going to die soon. This was told to him repeatedly over the one weekend. I had to deal with this fear from him for two weeks, it finally got to the point that I had to tell him I was going to spank him just to get him to take a small bite of anything. If that's what happens in just a weekend I can only imagine what happens to a person over a lifetime.

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You know you're getting old

by beksbks in

jw
friends

when you are in the grocery store, and they are playing the ramones "i wanna be sedated"!.

nevergonnab1

when your kids ask you if television was invented when you were little. bear in mind I'm only 33.

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God Complex

by nevergonnab1 in

jw
friends

does it seem as though fathers of jw famlies have a god complex?

from what i've seen it seems like they will ask some of the most outrageous things of their famlies just to see if they'll do it.

i've seen for my self one of these men ask thier famlies members to walk through filthy water to get a basket ball for him when he wouldn't do it for himself, i've also seen them make their daughters lotion their feet, ect.

nevergonnab1

Does it seem as though Fathers of JW famlies have a God complex? From what I've seen it seems like they will ask some of the most outrageous things of their famlies just to see if they'll do it. I've seen for my self one of these men ask thier famlies members to walk through filthy water to get a basket ball for him when he wouldn't do it for himself, I've also seen them make their daughters lotion their feet, ect. Is this a common practice?

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Advice Please!!!!

by nevergonnab1 in

jw
friends

i'm new here so i'll give a little background first.. i've never been a witness and i'll never be one.

my husband is but he hasn't been to any functions in about 15 years, i guess if he did start attending again he would be df'd because he impregnated a "worldly" girl (me) out of wedlock and then married a "worldly" girl (me again).. i need advice because his family relentlessly asks my children to attend and bribes them with very extravagant gifts.

i won't allow them to go so they stay pissed at me because they don't get the gifts.

nevergonnab1

Thanks to everyone for the advice!!! I think that video hit the nail right on the head about this org.

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Advice Please!!!!

by nevergonnab1 in

jw
friends

i'm new here so i'll give a little background first.. i've never been a witness and i'll never be one.

my husband is but he hasn't been to any functions in about 15 years, i guess if he did start attending again he would be df'd because he impregnated a "worldly" girl (me) out of wedlock and then married a "worldly" girl (me again).. i need advice because his family relentlessly asks my children to attend and bribes them with very extravagant gifts.

i won't allow them to go so they stay pissed at me because they don't get the gifts.

nevergonnab1

Thanks for all the advice so far!!!

As for the GP's telling scary stories... they told my daughter how bad and evil the world is and that she was going to be "struck down" so she wouldn't go outside and she stopped eating and drinking anything but kool aid for 2 weeks. Luckily we got past that. And now she see's it for the farce that it is. But I have a younger one who is very impressed not by the Org. but just by his grandparent.

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Advice Please!!!!

by nevergonnab1 in

jw
friends

i'm new here so i'll give a little background first.. i've never been a witness and i'll never be one.

my husband is but he hasn't been to any functions in about 15 years, i guess if he did start attending again he would be df'd because he impregnated a "worldly" girl (me) out of wedlock and then married a "worldly" girl (me again).. i need advice because his family relentlessly asks my children to attend and bribes them with very extravagant gifts.

i won't allow them to go so they stay pissed at me because they don't get the gifts.

nevergonnab1

I'm new here so I'll give a little background first.

I've never been a witness and I'll NEVER be one. My husband is but he hasn't been to any functions in about 15 years, I guess if he did start attending again he would be DF'd because he impregnated a "worldly" girl (me) out of wedlock and then married a "worldly" girl (me again).

I need advice because his family relentlessly asks my children to attend and bribes them with VERY extravagant gifts. I won't allow them to go so they stay pissed at me because they don't get the gifts. My husband and I fight all the time because he doesn't see anything wrong with them going, and his family is always pissed at me because I won't let them go. His family knows how I feel about the issue because we discussed it length a couple of years ago. I feel as if they are doing this to cause my family to be unhappy.

Any Advice?

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