Ah, sorry that has happened.
It seems like your friend is going to have to lie to the elders to keep the peace with his parents.
"yes outsmartthesystem is a friend, no of course I wont continue association if he is disfellowshipped, no we never discussed doctrinal issues, yes of course I believe this is Gogs organisation, thankyou so much for your concern brothers I will put it in prayer to consider how I can improve my meeting attendance"
If he can stomach it of course.
Your wife is putting family first, its her security as your marriage is breaking up. If she's in any way smart she wont let her dad get his paws on her money, if not, she's not got a brilliant financial future...