Just a bit of possible hope, brotherdan - and I'm sure alot of us have gone through similar situations.
When I first told my wife how I felt, she didn't react as violently as yours did. But, she did say that this probably put an end to some of the plans we had together, such as where we wanted to move and live and even not having children - which I knew right off meant eventual divorce because both of us love kids too much to give up having them.
So I didn't do anything. I didn't react, I didn't lash out, I didn't try and bombard her with information about how wrong the WTS was. I just decided to be the best husband I possibly could, and let it play out. We've both been out about two years together now, and we're having the best time of our life.