...or if i should reposnd.. hey there lady!
just dropping a line because i have been very concerned about you.
i know you do school and work and trying to learn a language-that is a lot of work!
Hi Lil.lady,
I agree with think about it.
It's easier to just not talk when your upset, it could get you in all kinds of trouble.
For the first few months after everything hit me like a ton of bricks I actually had to go to the doctor and get some anti-anxiety medication because I was feeling a lot like you are now. It helped take the edge off and I was able to deal with things a little easier.
I'm sorry your going through this right now Just know..it gets better, with time.
so far i've managed to avoid speaking to the elders who drop by.
just wondering if they'll eventually give up in a couple years.
anyone have experience with this?.
So far so good. It's been over a year and a half and the elders out on service don't even bother coming to the door, they send the new ones who don't know us
It's funny we use to hide out when we seen them coming by turning the TV off and making sure we were quite, now we don't even care. The dogs are barking, kids got the music blaring and we're cooking breakfast without missing a beat. Once you stop giving them any power over you, you breath much easier.
since they have fingered you as a mod, you should have a very interesting tale to tell; please do!.
Very well put, Cog
since they have fingered you as a mod, you should have a very interesting tale to tell; please do!.
And it's very much appreciated LL.
Many of us that are somewhat new to the nightmare of our child being molested have really benefited from you experience and your education. I have taken a lot of advice from things you have shared, including encouraging my daughter to never be ashamed of what happened to her. Proudly, I'm seeing her show that in her life. She was able to comfort a friend in school who shared with her that a grandfather was touching her. My daughter didn't hesitate to tell her and a small group of friends what happened to her and how it's so important to tell an adult so that it wont happen to anyone else. I was so happy to see she isn't hiding what happened, nor was she the least bit ashamed to tell her close friends
i received an anonymous email over at ex-jw.com that had an attached legal filing.
the first couple of pages seemed to be standard legal filings, but the rest of the pages looked like standard typed documentation (not in numbered double-spaced legal format.
) i'm not quite sure what to make of it, so wonder if anyone here has heard of it.
Gayle,
"They lose a few members, but don't care, the WTS gets the money, and free-volunteers to build another Hall. "
Sadly that is so true. They will throw anyone under the bus to protect their image and pocket book.
in my case it was my best freind in the cong who decided to encourage me to answer up at the wt by... refusing to talk to me afterwards if i hadn't answered up!
!.
Wait on Jehovah he'll make sure all those elders who treated to so unloving after your daughter was molested are taken care of eventually. Then look forward to the new system where you wont remember what happened.
since they have fingered you as a mod, you should have a very interesting tale to tell; please do!.
Hi Quillsky,
Did you read all of this before posting that? http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/114941/1/Healing-Words-a-Biography-the-index
Somehow I don't think so..
help needed on this thread.
lady lee- who are you, and what's your story?.
madjw thinks the wts' policy is sufficient to deal wtih cases of sexual abuse of children.
I'm very angry for that attack on your character LL. I feel just sick that people have to try and hurt another personally just to try to get them to shut up about this subject. I know it's something they wish we wouldn't talk about, but to go to the lengthens they do to try to keep you quite..it makes you wonder what they have to hide or what makes them feel less then when you or others bring it up? It has to be something.
help needed on this thread.
lady lee- who are you, and what's your story?.
madjw thinks the wts' policy is sufficient to deal wtih cases of sexual abuse of children.
Wrong way is dead wrong!
Elders investigate it just as strongly as the police, only without the experience! They further damage victims and could damage their case against the abuser by telling the abuser every detail of the allegation against him. That's a Dream for a defense attorney to know way in advance how to go at the little victims in court.
Victims should not even waste their time going to the elders IMO they should go to the police and make a report once the district attorney decides to take it to trial it's a open record. Time for the family to warn everyone in the congregation and neighboring KH's because the creep most likely has moved on to another hall while he awaits trial. When the DA clears it then go to the elders, they most likely will already know but only give then the simple facts and never allow them to question your child..that should be left to the trained professionals.
Please learn from my mistakes...
since they have fingered you as a mod, you should have a very interesting tale to tell; please do!.
Great advice LL.
