to cut very long story short , my inlaws have not seen my child for 18months we left the area they live 2 years ago after a ex min servant was sent to prison for abusing kids including my eldest child , understandably i wanted a fresh start !
today my jw motherinlaw tried to give her disfellowshipped son ten pounds for our child (her granchild she hasnt seen for 18 months ) he asked her why ?
she told him i told her it was best if they didnt see our child anymore just before i left town (half hour drive away from our new home ) this is not true at all !
I can sympathize with you Looloo :( We seem to have very similar stories.
For me... I can only imagine the talk that is going on behind our back! I'm at the point, I just don't care anymore. If they use me as an excuse to why their relationship with the kids is almost nonexistent, then that's fine as long as it keeps them away from making them feel less then or bad for how we choose to live our life. We keep our visits to a min these days and it's working for us.
I wish you well.
some of you have read what i wrote on this thread: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/200211/1/never-wake-up.
here's the final email my wife just sent me 1 minute ago:.
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Awww man!! I'm so sorry brother Dan.
I agree with the ones who have said to give it some time. It's a shock to her right now, but when she sees your still that great man she loves and married she'll be back.
You both have your lovely children to think about. I think once she stops thinking about how you not being a JW will effect her..she'll wake up to how it will effect her and the children to not have a husband and father around :(
I wish you well.
what's a really good movie you'd recommend that most people probably haven't seen?.
my personal recommendation: synecdoche, new york.
it's one of those movies that words fail utterly to capture--which really is the hallmark of a good movie, i suppose.
Love The Kite Runner
just got back from an awesome time in maui.
today we got a call from my fil.
my mil has been in utah for the last week or so and found out that her family past was full of "demon activity".
BD,
So sorry for your frustration
Your wife just doesn't want to know the truth about something she trusts with her life. Just do what you have to do for You and your sanity. Hopefully she'll come around, but it will have to be something she is ready to do.
and they are now in 1st place in the n.l.
west with a 6-1 record !
and the hated l.a. dodgers are in last place !
Go Gaints!!! Nice win Flipper :)
just to keep from messin' up fhn's reggae thread.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbhnicq02l4.
there's a lot of them!.
one rule is you can't wear a tee shirt with writing on it if you are working at a quick build kh .
nothing with logos.. let's add more stupid rules that were in your hall or that the organization has.. .
For the males. Hair too long..hair too short. My husband had that problem all the time! It would drive him crazy.
i am against the use of the term "pedophile" as it is used within the ex-jw community.
the definition of pedophilia by merriam-webster is:.
sexual perversion in which children are the preferred sexual object .
Interesting thread LL.
I always wondered if I was using the correct term in conversations about my child's molester, I tend to use the word molester instead of Pedophile.
I'm really not sure what the proper term or word would be for him other then the not so nice *** words we call him by
He was married and had children. I have no idea of his sex life with his wife but he targeted little girls, all were in the 9/10 year old frame.
Is that a pedophile?
http://live.drjays.com/index.php/2010/10/07/teenager-shot-over-sagging-pants/.
uh huh.. syl.
In my area it's the skater kids (majority white) wear the sagging pants with their boxers exposed..yuk! My son goes the other extreme and wears the skinny jeans (yuk, again) I still don't know how he gets his big feet threw the pant legs??
I seriously can't wait for this fashion phase to phase out!!
last february, a patient at the clinic where i worked showed up at lunch time, 2 hours late for an appointment and demanded to see the doctor.
when i told him, he had to make another appointment, he started arguing, then yelling, then picked up a plexiglass frame that was on the desk and threw it at me.
i deflected it with my hand and got 2 stitches.
I know firsthand how stressful a courtroom is
Sending you a big (((hug))) and an imaginary glass of wine to calm your nerves
