Posts by truthseekeriam

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Sex at 14?

by headisspinning in

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hello all.... some of you have been following our story from the beginning - and even those of you who haven't should be able to relate to my quandary.... last week my 14 year old son told me he no longer wants to be a jw.

we laboured over telling his jw dad all week.

well, on friday night he finally came clean.. but in a bizarre and unexpected twist, after having sex with his girlfriend for the very first time - in his father's home that very afternoon.

truthseekeriam

Oh man this thread is scaring me!! I have a 16 year old son and a 14 year old daughter. I personally just feel 14, or even 16 is too young for sex and all the consequences that goes along with it.

I just hope when the time comes I wll be as understanding and open as you are.

Hopefully with you working together with your ex your son will see the importance of really listening to what your saying and know you both are just looking out for his well being.

I hope it all works out for you and I'm sure you know, your not alone when it comes to raising teenagers It's not for the weak, that's for sure!!

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You'll lose your life and that of your children if you don't come back

by truthseeker in

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friends

it was a beautiful, sunny day.

i was in the supermarket doing an early morning shop when i see an old friend of the family, a jw sister.. she asked me if i'd gone to the memorial and i told her no.

she said that the end is so close what with all the earthquakes and brother truthseeker, you need to come back to jehovah otherwise you will die and so will your children.

truthseekeriam

I got that same crap a few weeks ago The elder actually told me if I thought the molestation of our daughter (by an ex elder) was heartbreaking just wait 15 years from now and see how much heartbreak we'll have when our children and future grandchildren are in the "world" living horrible lives!!

Yea, what a charmer huh?

Oh yeah, " The end is right here just look at what's going on in the world." So how again I'm I going to see my grandchildren being miserable in 15 years If the end is here now?

How do these people keep a straight face?

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The Recession (funny)

by carla in

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friends

found this elsewhere-.

recession .

the recession has hit everybody really hard... .

truthseekeriam

Hehe!!!

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Church is in session: NHL Playoffs

by unshackled in

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friends

nhl playoffs start tonight.

get your beer chilled and the wings in the oven.

the next two months or so is my church - the grueling battle for the stanley cup.

truthseekeriam

Go San Jose!!! Born and raised in the great city

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How Many of Them Do You Know About?

by clarity in

after flipper's thread about the wt child abuse cases, i started to think about how many children i know of personally who have been sexually abused by a jw!.

as someone who is not especially 'in the know', it's amazing that i do know five of them.

one who was a small baby, at the time!.

truthseekeriam

I know of at least 4 victims, one was my 9 year old daughter

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A Major Break Through!

by headisspinning in

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friends

i just wanted to let you all know that i have had a major break through with my mom.. we have hashed everything out and she not only apologized for hurting us, but she also said she understands why we've made the decisions that we've made.. and best of all?

she is going to try to help us both get our kids back.. she had no idea of all the stuff going on with our ex spouses and she's very upset about it.. she said that she accepts where we are at in regard to the religion and although she does hope we might change our minds down the road, she just wants us to be happy.. at this point she still feels she needs to respect the disfellowshipping arrangement and i'm not pressuring her about that.

after all, rome wasn't built in a day and i would say major progress has been made here.. just wanted to let you guys know where things are at right now and a big thank you for all of your support, advice and care through this ordeal..

truthseekeriam

Very happy for you.

It's a very scary thing not knowing if your loved ones will come around, some will and some wont. I'm thrilled your mother is keeping that door partially open

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I'm a clique of one...

by mrsjones5 in

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i'm a loner.. offline, i have few friends.

the friends i do have are dear to me but i'm bad at communicating with them, meaning i don't call often.

facebook has been a boom with me cuz i can keep contact with folks i really care about without being constantly in contact with them which would drive me crazy.. on this board i haven't got too deep with folks.

truthseekeriam

I really can relate to you Mrs Jones.

I've struggled with the whole making friends thing as well. I mean I have no problem making friends, my problem is giving time to them in order to make the friendship grow. I'll reach out and go on a lunch date or maybe a family BBQ with them and have a great time but when they call me the next day or the next week to do something else I feel overwhelmed and find anything as an excuse not to. I think the problem is definitely me and maybe it's because my whole married life I have been perfectly happy just spending time with my husband and kids, we do everything together. I'm afraid to let other in, or give others our time..even though the teens don't want all that family time anymore..LOL.

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Does this mean what I think it means?

by MrFreeze in

it's been about a month and a half since i last talked to the elders.

today i got a call from one of them.

he left me a voicemail saying he would like to have me meet with them on sunday after the meeting to discuss some things and to see if there is any way they can be of help.. i haven't been to a meeting since the end of october/beginning of november.

truthseekeriam

Don't do it, if they wanted to help you where were they in Nov when you stopped going?

They want to see where you stand and if it's not with them and their beliefs they will find a way to D'f you.

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Is everyone on here disassociated??

by happi2b in

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so i don't understand it seems to me from the posts that i have read just about everyone is disassociated.. just wondering if that's true or if i am not the only one on here still within the organization..

truthseekeriam

I stopped going a few years ago. So I guess I'm inactive or fading.

I'm one of the many stories of having a child that was molested by an ex-elder and we were the ones treated like crap! I just couldn't see a God of Love and justice being behind an Org that will allow victims to be further victimized and molesters to be protected, so I left.

If your going in, go in with eyes wide open. Keep reading, Keep researching and don't go in thinking the love within those walls is unconditional. The moment you leave, you will see there are no real friends in the ORG.

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Your favorite "bumper stickers"

by new boy in

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friends

i have two.

"please god protect me from your people".

"if you love something let go.......if it doesn't come back, hunt in down and kill it" .